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[ian'smommaya]

wombat, sorry about your car, a suburu. i jsut love mine...

wow. what is it about cars. our house was burgeralized early friday morning. with us alseep. my mom car was stolen and thank goddess now hurt (except to the tire which was wrecked.)

we got the car back but we dont know if the person will be prosecuted.

[mary3mama]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura

OMG, there's hope?? Thank you, mama!! Actually...ds has 3 older half-sibs, and the two oldest are boys. His father used to tell me that the oldest one, who was SO mellow, was an uber-hard baby. And the 2nd one, who was hyper and generally ill-behaved, was the mellow baby. Glad to be reminded of that!
Happy birthday middle guy!

You are most welcome! I remember when Nic (eldest) was 6-7 ish. I was pg with my youngest and it was the worst time of all with him. He was a live wire; talking constantly, constant motion, constant bad attitude. And I was an emotional wreck trying to figure out how I'd deal with him AND a newborn.

But he has mellowed quite nicely. To the point where he is overwhelmed by his little brother. And he doesn't quite believe us when we remind him that he had his turn.

SO EXCITED about the approval you got! That is fantastic beyond words.

Originally Posted by wombatclay

Dh handed over the check and we "bought" that shiny new to us minivan!

Yeah for *new* minivans.
Boo to once-again-broken transmissions.

It is so hard to imagine going back to life without a minivan. Once one has that 3rd child it seems so much more difficult. Even if all the seats will fit in a car, the issue of everyone pestering one another comes up. The AC is out in our van right now...apparently it needs a charging but the brakes had to come first So during our recent heatwave we had to decide whether it was better to go in the hot van where everyone had their own space or squish all three children into the back seat of our saturn sedan. Have I mentioned that my almost 11 year old is almost as tall as me? In the end we went with the van and just sweated alot.

[Maiasaura]

More car stuff? Me too! Ye Gods!
My Subaru outback wagon wouldn't start today...it was so weird. Came home from dropping ds off, hours later went out there and turned the key and...nothing. Nada. No sound. No nothing.

Had to call AAA. They jumped me and I had to go immediately to Advance Auto and have them replace the battery. And the + terminal. Set me back $100 but at least I have a running car...and thank the gods for credit cards

YAY, Clay, though, for the minivan!!

[unschoolinmom]

Maia-I'm so happy for you!!! That's great news!

Clay-boo for transmission and YAY for the minivan!

I'm having a pregnancy brain fart so I'll try to remember what it was later.

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by ian'smommaya

our house was burgeralized early friday morning. with us alseep. my mom car was stolen and thank goddess now hurt (except to the tire which was wrecked.)

we got the car back but we dont know if the person will be prosecuted.

Oh, my. I'm so glad y'all are unharmed. Well, except emotionally. But WHEW, huh?

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by unschoolinmom

Maia-I'm so happy for you!!! That's great news!

I know!! And it gets better-- I found the "rejection" letter I got from BCBS, which is the only thing I needed to find to complete the envelope full of stuff I have to send this new insurance company. I have 30 more days to send it in, and I thought I'd thrown it out. I emailed BCBS to send me another one, but they said it'd be 7-10 business days...and I'm going to be away for a week, then away camping for nearly another week, plus I'd need time to mail the whole package in to the new insurance company. It was going to be cutting it WAY close.
But I found it today!!

Man, today's just been a day of blessings. Even the car dying on me. AAA showed up in like a half hour (it usually is at least an hour, up till 3 even!) and it started right away with a jump, and I got a new battery-- which it's needed for some time. The guy who replaced it said my old battery was a 1-year battery that somehow lasted 3-4 years

Just got off the phone with M. He is walking downtown to take photos of the fireworks. I don't know why theirs are tonight. Ours are on the 4th, like always!
I can't wait to see the pix. He sent me one of the Batmobile earlier!

[ian'smommaya]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura

Oh, my. I'm so glad y'all are unharmed. Well, except emotionally. But WHEW, huh?

thanks for the well wishes. were really hoping to get the computer back. that is my manifestation. well, that and for it to never happen again.

[witchygrrl]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura

I know!! And it gets better-- I found the "rejection" letter I got from BCBS, which is the only thing I needed to find to complete the envelope full of stuff I have to send this new insurance company. I have 30 more days to send it in, and I thought I'd thrown it out. I emailed BCBS to send me another one, but they said it'd be 7-10 business days...and I'm going to be away for a week, then away camping for nearly another week, plus I'd need time to mail the whole package in to the new insurance company. It was going to be cutting it WAY close.
But I found it today!!

Man, today's just been a day of blessings. Even the car dying on me. AAA showed up in like a half hour (it usually is at least an hour, up till 3 even!) and it started right away with a jump, and I got a new battery-- which it's needed for some time. The guy who replaced it said my old battery was a 1-year battery that somehow lasted 3-4 years

Just got off the phone with M. He is walking downtown to take photos of the fireworks. I don't know why theirs are tonight. Ours are on the 4th, like always!
I can't wait to see the pix. He sent me one of the Batmobile earlier!

Yeah, MA towns tend to do it earlier if it's a weekend. I'm not sure why.

Thank the Gods for blessings big and small, and hooray for finding that letter!

Big to all those having car trouble, and Clay extra for sickies. Can we have a week of all goodness?

[CariOfOz]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura

THE BEST NEWS, mamas!!!! Guess what???? We were APPROVED APPROVED APPROVED for patient assistance with ds's most expensive med!!!!

Awesome news!!! Nobody should have to go without medication they direly need, especially when their lives would have been and upset as your sons would be (not to mention YOUR sanity!) Glad you found the insurance letter too.. when he gets covered by that it'll cover some of his meds I take it?? When do ya fly up north?

Originally Posted by wombatclay

o.m.g. (tiny letters, too tired for caps)

This weekend... more drywall. But hopefully no more car problems, sick kiddos, or random moments of destruction. Ice cream, however, is always welcome.

LOL I just read that on FB... must put spoon in glove box... for emergencies *gryn* Looks like you got the Odyssey JUST in time! (I had an Izuzu that did the same thing with the transmission about 20yrs ago. We had that damn thing replaced THREE times... just as SOON as we got it replaced the last time we traded teh sucker in just to be rid of it!) Have fun drywalling.. just THINK how awesome it will be to get the addition habitable! :dance

I just have to share.. it has been THE most awesome day here. I slept in (always a good start) and hubby & I spent like half of the day just sitting outside watching the kids play, drinking coffee etc. One of our strawberry plants has a gorgeous PINK flower (bought it just because of that hehe) .. can't WAIT for the tower to produce! Our tomatos are all excited and throwing out flowers all over too... they are apparently stressed by the cold, but nothing that will hurt them. I think I spent an hour just laid across two chairs basking in the sun and chatting with dh or whichever kid wandered by hehehe.

Have homemade baked mac & cheese for the kids and hubby & I are having a seafood steamboat/curry type thing Might watch something silly & romantic with hubby later

Happy almost 4th mamas.. in case I don't make it in before then!

[singin_angel]

Good morning mamas,

DD woke up so here I am but I was at a birth all day yesterday (and most of the wee hours of the morning). I will catch up but yay for all the awesome things (from what I can understand at a glance). I am feeling blessed for being there yesterday and seeing a new baby come into the world. It was a beautiful birth!

[Valerie.Qc]

Woohoo Maia for the approval!!!

DD2 slept in my bed. She seems happy this morning. We might have an easy flowy day: she asked for and drank a little cup of Catnip "tea".

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by CariOfOz

Awesome news!!! Nobody should have to go without medication they direly need, especially when their lives would have been and upset as your sons would be (not to mention YOUR sanity!) Glad you found the insurance letter too.. when he gets covered by that it'll cover some of his meds I take it?? When do ya fly up north?

Monday.
I'm mailing the packet out today, for insurance. I probably can't get the 3 refills once we're insured, though. But still.

I am 99% sure M got utterly trashed last night
It's 9am and I haven't heard from him yet. I called several times and he's not answering, nor answering the one text I sent.
I don't know how he does it-- I got off the phone with him at 8:50 and by 9:45 I am pretty sure he was three sheets to the wind. How does he get drunk so freaking quickly?
Gah. This is totally going to eff up our visit. He'll be wallowing in remorse and self-hatred and self-pity today. Not wanting anything to do with me at all. Hopefully not chasing it with the hair of the dog.
That leaves tomorrow for him to get his arse back in shape, cause he has to catch the 10am train to pick me up at the airport.

Last time I was there...I don't think I elaborated much, but our *coughcough* sex life was a bit, well, off (I was all in the mood non-stop, and he wasn't...or couldn't) and I found out later it was because he'd been drinking heavily in the week(s) prior to my visit and was cold-turkey detoxing while I was there. I'd had no idea.
But he hadn't had a job yet. I am nearly positive he had 21 solid days in a row, sober, this time. He's been awesome and in such a great mood. I'm so bummed about this.
I honestly wouldn't care if he drank, even if it was every couple of weeks, if it wouldn't put him in such a damn tailspin of self-loathing. Because that is the part that affects me-- he avoids me because of it, and I get left out in the cold

Damn.

[Maiasaura]

Update:

He did. He was wasted.
At first he said he didn't, and got mad at me for pestering, but then he admitted that his behavior (getting mad at me) was him puffing out his defensive chest. He said he doesn't know why someone doesn't walk into AA and say "Don't ever marry an alcoholic. They've got your number and you can't get anything by them because they've done it all".

BUT. He's in good spirits and is getting back up on the horse and is/has been learning lessons. And isn't avoiding talking about it.
Whew. Wow.

He said he knows where his mistakes lay. He was worried about it all day, yesterday, starting from when he went to work (at 6am!). He knew he'd get a bottle. He knew it when he got out of work. He didn't want to, and didn't want to all the way to the store.
He went out, bought it, and sucked it down in the hour (!) it took me to read to ds and put him to sleep

He said that all the way to the store, he was saying to himself why is he doing this when he doesn't want to. He said he had to force the first sip, and then had to wait 10m before he took the 2nd sip.
He took horrific photos and had to delete every one. He realized this morning he didn't even finish the bottle, which has never happened before, and poured it down the sink.
He asked me what that meant. I said one of two things, but probably both: his pancreas is rebelling, and maybe just maybe he's getting sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Anyway. So far so good. You know...I really don't even care if he drinks once in awhile. Except for the pancreas thing. If it weren't for that, I really wouldn't care. What I care about is when he does, he (usually) gets in such a self-loathing cycle that he shuts me out.
But yay. Not this time. He's trying.

Thanks for listening, mamas.
How come everyone's so quiet? It's a gorgeous Saturday. I need to get off my duff and finish packing and get some exercise. It's the last nice (well, 83*) day before it gets HOT again
In MA, the week I'm there, all next week-- temps in the HIGH 90s. HIGH. UGH.
Ye Gods, I hate heat.

[Aubergine68]

Well, I don't know where everyone else is -- maybe doing US holiday stuff? -- but I just had the best night -- got to go to bed at 9, read for a few hours (including that Xombie novel you recommended DoK) and got to really sleep in I'm still in recovery from a busy June over here. Dh is away for work next week but is home for a long weekend, so we're spending family time.

I am happy for you, Maia, that you and M can communicate about this. Having someone who cares so much about him and has btdt and has made a strong recovery in his life may just make the difference for him.

Your post made me think of when my dad tried AA and tried to enlist me, his teenage daughter, to help keep him accountable. Disastrous, that was. I didn't have a clue and couldn't/wouldn't/didn't want to take on that role I don't think he had a sponsor, or at least, not a good one. Wish he'd had someone like you in his life.

My daughter is in the back yard working on her hooping tricks. I gotta get dressed and get out there!

Have a wonderful day, everybody!

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by Aubergine68

I am happy for you, Maia, that you and M can communicate about this. Having someone who cares so much about him and has btdt and has made a strong recovery in his life may just make the difference for him.

Your post made me think of when my dad tried AA and tried to enlist me, his teenage daughter, to help keep him accountable. Disastrous, that was. I didn't have a clue and couldn't/wouldn't/didn't want to take on that role I don't think he had a sponsor, or at least, not a good one. Wish he'd had someone like you in his life.

Aww, thanks!
I'm not so sure it's a good idea for me to be his acting sponsor, though, y'know? That's got Bad End written all over it. But I guess for now it's better than nothing.
I'd really give just about anything for him to get AA, to want to get AA. To be willing to go to any length. Problem is, he hears mention of drink and he thinks, automatically, "Where can I get some? When? Do I have enough money? Can I have it now?".
He says AA makes him thirsty for alcohol. And he says, for him, it's like out of sight out of mind. I can't wrap my mind around that. I think it's more like denial, like "If I don't think about it, it won't exist"-- which is very, very dangerous for times like yesterday.
He had everything in place to prevent this last drunk, all sorts of steps he could have taken along the way, and didn't, right up to the last minute. IMO, AA is all about having and using preventive measures. Sort of like having money in the bank for when you need it, or insurance. He just doesn't get that, I guess, I dunno.

Oh well. He had 3 weeks, today is day 1 all over again, but he's getting better, especially with attitude. I hope it continues to get better.

[ian'smommaya]

alcoholism is so hard. may i make one suggestion? to help YOU and r? take it or leave it but alanon and alateen can be really helpful.

[Maiasaura]

Yeah, I know, Ian'smom...my mom goes to Al-anon, and she used to work there. For years I've had trouble wrapping my mind around going, even though I know it's a good thing, because her brand is the only brand I know, and I hate it
I may, though. Thanks

I miss everybody!! Come back!

[gun]

Add me to the car nightmare list! BOO HISS!! The car was in the process of overheating and now with this being the holiday weekend, I am stuck!! Of course it is the minivan that is acting poopy, and not he other car - the tiny Aveo, which the car seats will not fit in. crap. And of course I was planning on going to the grocery mart this afternoon.

But the good news is that we got our giant play structure delivered and set up! The girls love it! And thankfully so because we won't be able to go anywhere for the next few days. My mom came armed with 2 pizzas and the girls had a blast in the super-terrific-fantastic yard.

Glad to hear no one was injured Ian'smommaya!!

[ian'smommaya]

thanks, i am so greatful no one was hurt. truly gun.

what is up with all the car issues? is it retro grad for cars or something? it was WAY to hot to really do anything big today, went grocery shopping and bought a new tire for the car. it was outrageous. i had to write an iou to my work for the groceries. :embaressed: but at least i got the food. and we had a fantastic dinner of crock pot chicken and baby potatoes it was very good. tomorrow i soap and work on packaging stuff for the wholesale acct. for soap. i love doing that.

[Valerie.Qc]

I'm unwinding after the powerful sacred ritual! I loved it!