gah! ive been trying to catch up for over a week!!!!!
i surrendering....
but ive miiiiissssseeeed this thread so much, im started to wonder how i managed without it... oh wait, i wasnt!
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Originally Posted by aweynsayl  not doing well here, hiding under rock.
redveg, did kitty come home? i didnt see an update.... but i was skimming quick...
cari, huge hugs and vibes!
not sure if i saw this right or am going insane-- mamaof3~ wait, aquarium? where?
hugs and vibes and all that to all.
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double triple hugs.... and a reminder that you can call me....
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Originally Posted by mamaofthree ok, feeling a bit irritated at dh today. i hate that he is such a "NO" guy to the kids. it is always the first thing out of his mouth. i know i have complained about this before, but yesterday was one of those days where i was like... really?
at the aquarium (he went with us when we went later in the day) cae was climbing on these "rock" formations around one of the tanks (they are sort of made for that so little kids can get a good look) and dh yanks him off and does his (what i call) whisper yell at him, sort of mean talking thru his teeth at him. i kindly said "it's ok for him to do that, kids were doing it the whole time we were here earlier" then he got after the kids for touching the glass, not tapping, just touching it to get closer looks. again, not a big deal. they actually have people going around wiping the tanks and answering questions.
then it poured here last night. and when it rains in AZ you gotta go out in it. it is just so amazing. so the kids are all outside, and he steps out to "supervise" (aka tell them what to do) the whole time it's don't run, don't stand under the run off from the roof, don't lay on the ground. the baby went out with a towel (which i gave him to go out with) and dh snatches it away and tells him "no towels" again i say gently "it's ok, i gave it to him, i have to do laundry tomorrow anyway."
why the frick can't he just go with the flow? he is such a downer at times, always saying no! even when i am trying to explain something to the kids, i am not saying NO i am just explaining something, he pipes in and says NO!
dd was invited to go to some huge water park thing in texas with a couple of friends for someones 16th birthday. dd and i are talking about it and dh says NO you can't go. ????WHY NOT??? the other family is paying for it, dd has nothing else to do, and i had already said yes. we both look at him, like what the hell are you going on about. dd gets up set and storms off. i was like really? why no? well because i thought it would be a hassle for you. i am totally capable of saying no to the kids. and i know what i can and can't handle. what the heck do i have to do anyway? just drop her off on sunday. wow big thing for me. sheesh!
it is starting to really piss me off again. when i try to talk to him about it he says i am not a NO guy. then i feel like i have to pull up all this stuff from the past (although honestly it is just in the last couple of days) to prove to him that yes you do say no too much. grrrr!
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my dh is a "no" guy too!
i woud complain, but i tend to let his and others rub off on me. my dd1 often will look at me like "what? you too?"
we went from free easy days to dh being unemployed, to staying with friends where we had so many rules.... i had a ceremony with dd2 on her 5th birthday and during it, i promised to forever remember her feelings and heart are inspired by love and will first consider her intentions/frame of reference before telling her no.
ive not been so great at honoring it when dh is really riled u, but she keeps reminding me.
our kids teach us. i feel like empowering them to be able to always say "WHY no?" is important.
otherwise, they may always just bow to authority until they rebel in high school like dh and i.
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Originally Posted by aweynsayl ah-hem, post, take 2.  i dream of a day mdc has "save a post, edit later, etc" function........
redveg, sorry about no kitty yet, but ditto the long lost kitty concept!
val, augh, hon. i feel your pain. hang in there, and vent as needed.
mof3~i'm just still in shock az has aquariums! i cant believe i didnt know this.
so, is the really big water park schlitterbaun??? I"LL TAKE HER!!!!
maia, hugs, hon. it's saturn in libra...  been having our own issues, too...
thanks for the hugs (dok, you really wanna hear me whinge? think bad living situation tension with a mega huge dose of pms. ick ick ick.)
upside, i've come up with a celebration for the weekend i'm quite pleased with-- going to pick some fruits and make something yummy, maybe even make some jam.  this is a major huge dream for me, part of my whole new-life-that-wasnt angst, etc, etc... so, think good thoughts for me. i can do it here, too, i know... it's just a bit hotter and dustier. i wish i had a really nice straw hat......
happy weekend, all! see ya in august!  |
you CAN do it there. i can see it. just give that house some time to catch up with your magic. it will get there.
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Originally Posted by aweynsayl things have gotten royally ugly here. if there are any spare vibes, i'd sure lurve some....  <<hugs and vibes to all in need/want>> |
again, my phone is near.
plus, its a perfect night for a cleansing.....im doing one
ok, now, i am vowing to NOT getting behind next month!
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YAY for laptops 
(really, I"m working... I'm on a garden planning site making a garden map hehehe)
