This seems like a good place to put this! I'm also x-posting in Parents as Partners.
My husband and I have been hemming and hawing about having another child for about a year now. First we pushed it back to "after Christmas", then "after March", then it was June (lots of stuff was going on: buying a new house, holiday travel, finding out half his department was getting sacked and waiting until--whew!--we knew for sure he'd still have a job).
K, so, June's over. No one's getting fired. In fact, now I have an awesome research job where I can actually bring my baby!
So... here we are. We both agree we're ready, I've gone off the pill, and my husband... my husband. How do I explain this? He says it's like looking over the edge of the diving board. He wants to jump, but he needs some encouragement (as if I'm not encouraging enough, heh). And I... I don't know what to tell him. It'll be awesome! I say. I'm not really sure what he wants. To know that we'll have a perfect pregnancy with a perfect birth and perfect baby? I wish I could promise that, but unfortunately we'll all be along for the ride on that one.
Has anyone's partner had last-minute hesitancies? What helped them get past it? Or, did it end up signaling a bigger problem? How was that addressed?
Any insight would be greatly appreciated!
My husband and I have been hemming and hawing about having another child for about a year now. First we pushed it back to "after Christmas", then "after March", then it was June (lots of stuff was going on: buying a new house, holiday travel, finding out half his department was getting sacked and waiting until--whew!--we knew for sure he'd still have a job).
K, so, June's over. No one's getting fired. In fact, now I have an awesome research job where I can actually bring my baby!
So... here we are. We both agree we're ready, I've gone off the pill, and my husband... my husband. How do I explain this? He says it's like looking over the edge of the diving board. He wants to jump, but he needs some encouragement (as if I'm not encouraging enough, heh). And I... I don't know what to tell him. It'll be awesome! I say. I'm not really sure what he wants. To know that we'll have a perfect pregnancy with a perfect birth and perfect baby? I wish I could promise that, but unfortunately we'll all be along for the ride on that one.Has anyone's partner had last-minute hesitancies? What helped them get past it? Or, did it end up signaling a bigger problem? How was that addressed?
Any insight would be greatly appreciated!
