Hi there! Me again, I know I don't personally partake, but DH does
. So I thought to weigh in on the "what about around the babes" standpoint. We handle it like, not around DS, like not the immediate vicinity, yk, people are talking about outside, in the bathroom with the fan on, and whatnot. That's how we roll too. Mostly it's because DS is at the "why" stage and it's just easier not to have the conversation. Secondhand smoke is a factor too, but really, with only one person whose not a super-heavy consumer, there's not any more smoke than if I burned dinner while I was cooking it -probably less, in fact, since the smoke detector never goes off!
But I don't at all feel uncomfortable if DH is watching DS and I'm gone and he partakes a bit before, say, playing trains or dress-up or Legos with DS, or taking DS out on his training-wheel-bike (which is essentially a walk, at the rate DS is moving!). They just enjoy their time together and that's great. Sometimes I put a glass of red wine in a travel mug and do the same
. And you know, people would judge me about that too. So I say, we are the best parents for our kid and that's that. Don't question it. You are not driving or otherwise endangering his life - the guilt is totally from the social taboo, in my perspective.
I would even say, for us, it's a great combo. It is convenient, if we want to go out to dinner or a date or whatever, with or without DS, then DH will partake at home, so I drive there, and then I can have a glass or two of wine as I enjoy, and he's sober in a few hours to drive home. It works nicely for us as a couple and as a family. Safe, too, IMO.
I mean, I really enjoy a glass or two or wine, and I know that's not a super-popular choice in this thread (and I agree that, addiction-wise, pot is the *much* better choice... effects on the brain and dopamine receptors, etc. etc.). It's just how I am. With panic and anxiety disorder (I have meds - xanex - for as needed but have not needed to take them for a long time... and this is a little victory - yay me!) the enhanced anxiety really got me with the herb. IMO - 100% - the social taboo and internalized guilt are a *huge* part of that. It's completely beyond my locus of control: our society has an unreasonable (economically explainable, however fallible) taboo against weed, and that makes it uncomfortable for hyper-sensitive individuals to partake, whatever their logical stance on the herb. I drink wine because people won't judge me (as much), not because it's the most healthy or appropriate way to alter my state of consciousness. Which, BTW, all humans strive to do in some way or another. It's part of what makes us human.
Hope I'm still welcome in the conversation, even though I'm technically an outsider!
I find the whole altered states of consciousness conversation fascinating and fulfilling.
Non-sequitor - I will say, in regards to the cooking and butter and olive oil and rubbing alcohol conversation, the thing to remember is that the THC is fat soluble, and not water soluble. That means that making tea does not work - the chemical compounds break down. This is why you cook the plant in oil or butter - the compounds stay intact and (in the case of butter) solidify into the mass, which is why it works so well, stays so long, and concentrations are decent. I've never heard of how it works with olive oil, only with saturated fats like butter. So technically (not to be gross, and I would never do this!) but lard or or bacon fat or margarine or shortening or whatever - these would technically work well too.