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post #181 of 486
Miss Scarlett Exciting that you are inseminating tonight! If I were you, I'd also follow Beastie's advice! Hope this one does the trick!

Wehrli How was the first weekend of the Faire?

5G Happy conception day!!

Gumshoe Welcome! Hope your stay is short and sweet. We also had a really hard time deciding to ttc for a second child. How old is your first little one?

AFM, my RE's office won't "order" my next cycle! I have to meet with the RE first to go over this month's test results, but he doesn't have an appointment until the 27th. So I'm out for this next cycle (unless, against all odds and signs, I'm actually pregnant now). The odd thing is that I'm not really upset about it. I barely would have made it timing wise anyway, since I'll be out of town from the 28th-16th. This is my vacation time, and it will be nice to join my family and friends for the ritual G&Ts during happy hour on the beach (on San Juan Island, Washington State). And that cycle when I get back will be my IDEAL cycle for my academic schedule. So waiting until then is ok, though I'm still mad that I didn't think (nor did anyone at the RE's office think) to schedule my appointment earlier. Sigh.
post #182 of 486
Scarlett!!! This is very exciting. I hope you feel good about your choice and that I didn't exert too much peer pressure. I'd sending so many great vibes your way.

Gumshoe: Welcome! I hope your stay is short and sweet!

Wehrli: Welcome back. I want to hear about the faire! Also, I like your TWW ticker in your signature!

Library: ENJOY that wine. You deserve it! Sending you all the best.

AHope: What a great attitude you have! I think taking a break over vacations sounds sane and reasonable, and that any reasonable egg would have the good sense to implant on the proper academic cycle! But I haven't given up hope for your current cycle, either. Any signs, real or imagined?
post #183 of 486
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beastie, hmmm... i'm not really sure what to say about the faire... what are you curious about? have you ever been? are you nearby? i was gonna post some pics on FB last night, however the 'puter ate them. ps. my tww ticker was inspired by you!

AHope, so... how's feel being a homo(wner)? is this the second house you've owned??

007, you say "having more children"... do you have others? adopted or did your DP carry? or "other"?

max, welcome back! starting your injectables, eh?! exciting!!

bunny, yay for new pets!! what's puppy's name?

AMom, enjoy Dublin!!


5G
DykeMom
Scarlett
AHope
007
and me!
post #184 of 486
WAHOOOOIIEEEEEEE OPK ++++!!!!!!! I've been dreaming of seeing that SMILEY, now I just need to keep going forward to that BFP!!

Beastie-- Nope, no peer pressure, but as we (DP & I) talked about it, we both decided we would rather err on early as opposed to late, and everything is screaming fertile SO we are going for it. I have such high hopes as we are so in love with this donor, but even if it is a negative, it has been a great learning cycle regardless. THANK YOU!

Coco--THANK YOU!! That is great information that I had forgotten about! Thank you for taking the time to find that for me

AmandaHope, Wehrli, Library Thank you thank you for the
post #185 of 486
Okay, trying to catch up here:

escher I wish I could help you on the O signs. The only one I know is the EWCM. I've always relied on OPKs and now my cycles are medicated and ridiculously scrutinized by my RE - my job is just to make sure I'm getting all the right shots at the right times! Good luck!!

MissScarlett GL on your insem tonight!!

Bunny Yay for a puppy!! We have a mini poodle (11lbs) and a terrier mix (20lbs). I love the little buggers.

dykemom Hope the insem went well! Thinking good thoughts!

AmandaMom DUBLIN! Awesome! Have so much fun!

solejean I laughed right out loud at FF's inability to predict your O window. I hope you figure things out for next cycle.

beastie I'm sorry you're feeling so worried. I'm already worried about that stuff for the baby we haven't conceived yet. :-/ I'm hoping for a sticky little bean for you!

gumshoe Welcome! The tww sucks. I hope you get preggers this time, but if you ever have to get the HCG trigger or go on progesterone, you will literally go crazy from the pregnancy symptoms those hormones bring on. Oy!

wehrli TWW buddy! Let's make this happen!

AFM Insem went well this morning, but was very emotional. It's our last chance with DP brother's sperm, and we've spent a gang of cash on drugs this month. If it doesn't take this month, we're taking a break and figuring out what the next step is. So it felt like a big culmination this morning, and now that it's over, I keep forgetting we even insemmed. I don't think I shared how my RE appt went last Friday. Last Tuesday, he said I had 5-6 follies. Friday, it was up to EIGHT. I know a lot of you would not trigger with that many, and I respect that, but we decided to do it. The chances of all of them taking are slim. And we have discussed and are prepared for SR if that's what it comes to. But we are hoping for one or two peanuts! The doc was very responsible and made sure that we were okay with SR before he went ahead with the trigger. He did say, when he saw my ovaries, "well, it's not a question of IF you'll get pregnant, it's a question of WHEN. If this doesn't work for you, IVF will definitely work for you." He said, "Why can't all of my IVF patients respond as well as you are to these meds?" We had to do a shot to prevent premature ovulation, and we did a Lupron trigger, which shuts down my body to prevent hyperstimulation... but this means I have to be on progesterone-in-oil for the next 2-10 weeks. I haven't read any glowing reviews of these shots. Our first one is tonight. I'm nervous for sure, but I gotta do it, so there's no use in freaking out. Any experiences you've had with them would be appreciated!!

So that's it. Just waiting now. Sigh. If I can't get knocked up with EIGHT follicles, I don't know WTF the deal is!
post #186 of 486
Thanks for all the warm welcomes everyone.

LibraryLady - I'll do my best to pull a Nancy Drew and solve the thieving mystery!

MissScarlet - I'm glad to hear that you had food "issues" during your first early pregnancy. I feel like I'm going crazy, but so glad I'm not alone. Have lots of fun at your insemination tonight.

Wherli - Thanks for adding me to the roll call.

AFM, we actually already have two children ages 12 and 15. We adopted them three years ago. Our kids are mostly excited to potentially have a younger sibling. One is looking forward to babysitting and the other to video game introductions. One wants the baby to be a girl and the other a boy. We can deliver on most of the above, but I'm not sure we're going to have an all-round win on this one!
post #187 of 486

materialistic distraction

Ok, we're really confused about what color/stain/whatever to do for our new cabinets/kitchen. I realize that in the scheme of things, this is not important. Really. But I thought I'd share our inspiration (not that our kitchen would really ever look like this--it is maybe 1/2 the size, and we're not doing a hood over the oven, etc.). But this is the marine painted cabinet look we were thinking about (but are now getting cold feet about).

http://www.coastalliving.com/homes/d...0414000067396/

Are we crazy to spend massive money on new wood cabinets and then to have them painted? Our issue with natural wood stains is that we have oak floors, and unless the cabinets would be really light or really dark, they would be too monotone with the floors. And we can't go dark, because the kitchen is too small. The alternative is to do some kind of ivory glaze (so that the cabinets would be light creamy color--but clearly wood) and use lots of marine blue in the paint and tile backsplash to achieve the desired airy/beachy look. If you are at all interested in these things, feel free to share an opinion. If not, I don't blame you. I'm not that interested in it myself, honestly, except that it is going to be where I spend a lot of time, and I'd like to like it.
post #188 of 486
Hello Ladies! I have been trying to keep up with everyone, but my internet has been out over the weekend. No rhyme or reason why...but it took Comcast till today to get me back online. Okay now to try to catch up on personals.

Libarary~ OMG! I am sooooo sorry to hear about AF and about your horrible exeriance. Please know that you are in my prayers for both. I join you with AF coming for a visit. Despite all the bad, I hope that you and your DP had a great weekend in Dallas. Hugs to you...

Beastie~ AAAAAHHHHH! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! OMG. I a so excited and happy for you. Stick little bean, stick! My DP and I have been talking about this cycle and we had decided to use 3 vials this next cycle too...12hrs, 24hrs, and 36hrs opk. I need to re-read the Brill book to see what she suggests.

MissScarlet~ I agree follow your instincts. I have not been ttcing that long, but I agree that earlier could be better. Good luck to you!!! Sending you great egg catching and baby making vibes!!!!

gumshoe~ Welcome...and good luck for a swift TWW! And much baby dust to you. Hope that your stay here is short and sweet!

Bunny~
Congratulations on the new little/medium addition to the family. Puppies are great! Good luck with waiting to "O". Were a few days apart...so we will by cycle buddies again. :-)

Wherli~ Did the Ren faire open this weekend? If so how did it go?

AmandaMom~ Congrat to you as well...that honeymoon do Ireland sounds absolutely amazing. My DW and I were married over a year ago and we have not had a honeymoon yet...we would love to go to Europe, take a cruise or even just spend a few days hanging out in P-town. Until we get there I will just have to live vicariously through you. (Hope that you don't mind)

Ohhhh I love the cabinets, they do give the kitchen that open and airy beach feel. Could you paint the existing cabinets that are already in the kitchen? Using the light blue in the back spash of the kitchen sonds nice as well. I would say no to being crazy about the cabinets, but your are talking to a lady who has spent about 10k in the last year re-doing things in her house. Just last week we bought a hot tub. DW has always wanted one and she found one that she loved so we bought it and it will be delivered tomorrow...I say go for it, you only live once. Right?!?

5baby~ Good luck to you girl...sticy bean, sticky bean...Hope the tww goes well. What meds did you take this cycle? I am doing clomid this cycle...and trying to find someone to give me a perscription for the trigger shot. Everything for us is out of pocket until after we try 6 times..then the insurance will kick in.

DykeMom~ Hope that yout insem went well...sending you sticky bean vibes and a peaceful TWW.

AFM~ Lots going on these last two weeks have been really crazy...with my tww going on, and the vacation from hell and then my DW's aunt passing away, not to mention working 50 hr weeks on a temp assignment, and taking a summer class. Argh! Is is nice to be able to sit down and rest. The funeral for Aunt J was this weekend...lots of family in for it. Some are still our house guests, but they will be leaving tomorrow.

I had a birthday this past weekend...#38. It was a nice day...lots of my DW's family here to help me celebrate it. I got a new phone for my b-day a Sprint EVO touch screen. It's nice. Anyway, on the the next cycle. We have decided to try clomid this cycle. I had been taking a natural prenatal vitamin with vitex (?) the natural equivalant to clomid, but I can't tell if it is working so I am moving to clomid. I'm trying to get the the IVF clinic that I used back in December to write me a prescription for the trigger shot, if not then we will just have to read the signs.

Okay I am in my last week of my temp-assignment....thank GOD! Good luck to all of you TWW's! Baby Dust to you all... and for those waiting to "O" good luck reading the signs and catching that egg! or eggs!
post #189 of 486
Gelly ! Good luck this cycle with the Clomid. I'll be really interested to hear about your experience. I've been on vitex, too, but it doesn't seem to be doing much, so I'll probably go on Clomid next cycle. I hope that does it for you! And thanks for the positive feedback on the cabinets.
post #190 of 486
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this means I have to be on progesterone-in-oil for the next 2-10 weeks. I haven't read any glowing reviews of these shots. Our first one is tonight. I'm nervous for sure, but I gotta do it, so there's no use in freaking out. Any experiences you've had with them would be appreciated!!

So that's it. Just waiting now. Sigh. If I can't get knocked up with EIGHT follicles, I don't know WTF the deal is!
Wow... Eight ? Were they all mature ??? I hope that at least one (or why nor two !) take !!!

About the progesterone in oil injections, I had to have them for two weeks when I tried IVF. I found that the best way to avoid any pain was to freeze up the spot with Ice. It worked pretty well, I sometimes could feel the injections all the way in my toes but not the pain of the needle.... and it is quite a needle isnt it... How did your first injection go ?? Are they having you do them in the muscle above the buttock ??

Coco
xx
post #191 of 486
Thread Starter 

4dpo

gelly, i'm glad things seem to be mellowing out for you. good luck with the clomid, but you may want to discontinue the vitex while taking clomid. i read on the internet that it may be dangerous... that was after i took both together, not a lot of vitex but still. my follie was just a little smaller than last cycle on clomid, too... i have no idea if taking them together had anything to do with that.

AHope, i love the blue cabinets! it inspires me to paint ours... when we bought the place there was this great 1" tile (shades of grey and some random pink) from the 2/3 the way up from the floor, then dark wood paneling(yuck) and light (oak colored) cabinets. for a quick fix we filled in the cracks of the paneling with spackle and painted it light blue/grey... but the cabinets are still oak colored. the rest of the kitchen is done in greys, with red and black accents. the wood color doesn't "go" with anything else in the kitchen. i think that's my next project... paint those cabinets!

007, that's awesome that you adopted! i really would like to myself, but i'm so intimidated by the whole process... we'd both really love to take in a sibling group but don't feel ready to be parents of older children (without having raised a child to that age). tell me more about the process... did you foster first? did it cost a lot? lots of red tape? were you and DP able to adopt them together? am i bothering you with all of these questions? ps. we are the same DPO, huh?! when are you testing?

speaking of testing... i'll add your test date to the roll call if you post in bold!

2HappyMamas, how have you been?? are you lurking??

5G, wow! you have a lot of eggies!! good luck only catching 1-2!! and i just want to add that i don't think you are [too] crazy for inseming with all of those eggs, you've got a lot riding on this cycle. i am, however, glad you are strong enough to do the SR if need be. you are so close to your BFP!!!

scarlett, congrats on the +opk! how'd the insem go?? did you get a temp rise this morning? FXFU
post #192 of 486
Good Morning

FiveGrand-- I dont blame you at all for going ahead with the insem in your current situation. Hoping for a Goldylocks scenario for you & DP...not too few, not too many, but JUST RIGHT

Gelly-- HAPPY LATE BIRTHDAY! I had a good experience for the most part with Clomid. I gained a little weight (5lbs), and felt a bit cranky, but nothing extremely adverse. My only issue was that I felt it made my already ambiguous cycles even more so. GOOD LUCK to you and thanks for the

AmandaHope-- I flipping love that kitchen. The cabinets are fabulous (and that's about the color of my toenails right now heheh) It's so bright & airy, yet inviting. I think it would be an excellent choice.

GumShoe-- Im adopted, did you get them as infants? Or older children? How wonderful, hoping you get to add a new little to your sweet family soon.


Wehrli-- Insemination went well last night, a little more uncomfortable than they have been in the past, but DP did great. It's funny to have so much affection towards a little numbered vial. It was nice to come straight home & to bed, took me FOREVER to fall asleep, but I feel rested. I finally got a PEAK on my CBE monitor today, I had to laugh. My temp SHOT up this morning, so hoping we got it all right this time. To be honest, after so many months of not even getting to have a 2ww, I'm just relieved to have some swimmers in me.

Could you move me to WAITING TO KNOW 2WW (thank you)
post #193 of 486
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Good Morning


AmandaHope-- I flipping love that kitchen. The cabinets are fabulous (and that's about the color of my toenails right now heheh) It's so bright & airy, yet inviting. I think it would be an excellent choice.


Wehrli-- Insemination went well last night, a little more uncomfortable than they have been in the past, but DP did great. It's funny to have so much affection towards a little numbered vial. It was nice to come straight home & to bed, took me FOREVER to fall asleep, but I feel rested. I finally got a PEAK on my CBE monitor today, I had to laugh. My temp SHOT up this morning, so hoping we got it all right this time. To be honest, after so many months of not even getting to have a 2ww, I'm just relieved to have some swimmers in me.

Could you move me to WAITING TO KNOW 2WW (thank you)
Thanks for the kitchen feedback. You all are definitely encouraging my desires, here. DP is worried that midwesterners won't like the blue and that if we do end up selling the house sometime in the next 5-10 years (which we'd only do if I miraculously get an even better academic job on the west coast--chances are slim to none), potential buyers won't like it. But I think we'll do it anyway--maybe in one shade darker/greener for an even more maritime look.

More importantly, NICE GOING on the temp rise! You did it! You hunted that egg down and got perfect timing. That is fantastic!
post #194 of 486
Scarlett: I'll think you got the timing perfect

gelly: That sounds like an intense two weeks! Glad you've got a plan worked out, sounds great.

AHope: Those cabinets are beyond beautiful. I think if you can bring yourself to paint the wood, then it would be fantastic, but I also think that the ivory glaze would achieve the desired effects--that would be almost a sandy color to go with the ocean. Hopefully your vacation will jump start everything and you'll have that perfectly timed baby.

007: How great that your older kids are excited about a baby! You'll have an amazing family.

5G: I don't think you're crazy for going ahead with 8. You know what you can and can't handle, and that's all that should matter. That said, come on babies!

Library: I'm so sorry that everything's in turmoil. Glad that all the research wasn't lost, though. Enjoy that well-deserved glass of wine! Also, your comment about the Oscar Wilde statue made me lol

max: I hope the Femara will do the trick!

bunny: Hooray for a new puppy! I think my kittens have helped SO MUCH with having to wait out cycles.

dykemom: Fingers are firmly crossed! I've used 3 cc, 5 cc, and 10 cc syringes, and the 10's have been my favorite--they seem to be the easiest to use.

solejean: Um, could FF be a little more vague? My word...why bother estimating?

AMom: Eloping sounds amazing, and Dublin sounds even MORE amazing! I think European honeymoons are soooo much fun. Ours was Paris, Cumbria, and Edinburgh, and it was amazing, but I've never been to Ireland!

Beastie: I'm so in awe of your perfect streak! Two for two! Congratulations, and I'm so glad you're hanging out with us still! Stick, bean, stick!

wehrli: Twinges and flutters sound good to me! Here's hoping...

:fx for everyone!

AFM: Just hanging out still. AF should be here any day now. Having the swimmers tested the week before O, and wearing the OVWatch to be sure of things.
post #195 of 486
Scarlett!!! It sounds like you had absolutely perfect timing! I can just visualize that vial of swimmers hanging out ready to meet your egg (I think that smilie is weird, since, to me, the final baby appears to be wearing a bra on her head, but the sperm finding the egg is the point). I think you and your DP should give yourselves a serious pat on the back for paying such close attention to your body, for waiting for all the right signs, and for going for it! Do you have a version of your chart available online that we can stalk? I want to see that lucky temp spike!

5G: Wow, there's a lot of big feelings wrapped up in this cycle for you guys. But eight follicles! I can't help but think that you are pregnant already! for an easy TWW with great results. Oh, and about your shots: I give my DP, who's trans, shots of testosterone-in-oil every other week, with a big needle! It looks scary, but it gets pretty easy over time. Good luck!

Wehrli: I guess I don't have anything specific I want to know about the Ren Faire, just any funny stories. out of the ordinary events, or reports from the TWW at the faire. But I suppose it's so old hat for your and your DP that there isn't much worth reporting! In any case, I love watching your countdown progress: not too long till you test! How are you feeling?

Solejean: to FF.

Gumshoe: Your family sounds great! I hope you get a baby asap to add to the pack!

AHope: What a beautiful kitchen. I say go for it, especially with a slightly darker/greener color! We also struggle to do things we love while maintaining some resale value in our midwestern house, but we figure that most people are willing to overlook "surface stuff" like paint colors, etc. So if the cabinets are real wood, the theoretical buyer could always paint or stain them. And in the meantime, you'd have the kitchen of your dreams!

Gelly: Sorry about AF, but HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I hope things settle down in the next few weeks, and that this is a more calm, positive, and successful cycle! Let me know if you want to talk about the three vial system: we used the last two together, rather than 24 hours apart, so I'd love to hear more about your plan and how it goes!

I think that makes me caught up!

AFM: We leave tomorrow for 3 weeks of visiting with family in NY and CA. I'm bringing work, and hope I'll get at least some writing in, along with resting up and enjoying the fam. I haven't told my family about this pregnancy yet, so that's also on the agenda. So I likely won't be able to keep up my daily (!) check ins here while I'm gone, but I'll be stopping in when I can and sending the very best to you all. I'm also thinking about taking the plunge and cautiously joining Queer and Pregnant sometime soon, and I hope to see ALL of you there asap!

ETA: Hi, Chiquitayy! I think we crossposted!
post #196 of 486
Thanks for all of the support on the 8 follicles! We're not telling ANYONE that we know that we had that many. But I figured I could share it here. And yes, they were all mature. I asked the doc, "Just because there's 8 follicles, that doesn't mean eight eggs will release, right?" He smiled and said, "I'm pretty sure they're all going to release. They're all mature." EEPS! But after going through the shots last month and only getting ONE FOLLICLE, we were thrilled. We do have a lot of emotion and a lot riding on this cycle. I so hope it worked - but I'm already starting to get that feeling that it's just never going to happen. I'm only 1DPO! Sigh.

Regarding the shot: it wasn't bad! But it was only the first one. Coco99, I read about the ice thing (and found mixed results), but for me, it's not really the puncture of my skin, it's the plunging of the thick oil that I was worried about. Here's what we did - I warmed the vial in my bra (), starting about an hour before it was time to do the shot, so by the time it was go-time, the vial was completely body-temperature. We swabbed w/ alcohol, let it dry completely. I laid on the bed, with my feet pigeon toed. I took several deep breaths to make sure my muscles were totally relaxed. DP squeezed the skin while the needle went in, and then pulled the skin taut around the needle while the plunging. We planned on counting to 20 while she pushed 1 CC in, but she made it to 22 before all of the oil was in. She immediately put a heating pad on the injection site and we took turns massaging the site for about 10 minutes. I sat on the heating pad for another 10 minutes or so afterward. Feels okay today - I just hope it stays feeling okay, because (hopefully) we have a long haul with these shots!

gellybeangirl Happy birthday! And to answer your question, we used Bravelle this month. Everything has been out of pocket for us - this is month 7. If this doesn't take, we'll talk to the insurance moving forward.

I feel like no one talks about the success rate of pregnancy with this many follicles - all they talk about is canceling the cycle. It's almost like They (with a capital T) think that it's not a matter of whether you'll get pregnant, it's a matter of how many you'll get pregnant with! But I know the odds are STILL against us. It's so frustrating. You'd think with eight healthy eggs, and a perfect lining (my doc's words), it'd be a sure thing. Just a short 2 weeks until I find out.
post #197 of 486
5GB - someone on another messageboard i read insemmed with 7 mature follicles and is pregnant with twins. i hope that puts your mind to rest a wee bit? i had 4 and only got pregnant with one.

g
post #198 of 486
Thanks, indigoscot. That DOES make me feel better. I like to use the following flawed logic: if you have a 10 percent chance of conceiving with IUI with ONE follicle, you have an 80 percent chance of conceiving with IUI with EIGHT follicles!

Who's with me?

Anyone? Hello?

post #199 of 486
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Thanks, indigoscot. That DOES make me feel better. I like to use the following flawed logic: if you have a 10 percent chance of conceiving with IUI with ONE follicle, you have an 80 percent chance of conceiving with IUI with EIGHT follicles!

Who's with me?

Anyone? Hello?

post #200 of 486
Hi Everyone,

Fivegrandbaby: How exciting that you have such a good chance of getting pregnant! An 80% chance sounds great.

Beastie: I hope you have a great time in NY and CA. I'm still so excited for you! Thanks for sharing what worked for you. It always seems like a combination of things we do and luck, so it is good to know what things you did that worked! I like having you hang around here, and it's exciting that you might also join Q & P!

Chiquitayy: It's exciting you're almost to an insem cycle!

Miss Scarlett: Hooray for a temp rise when you want it!

Wehrli: I'm so excited you're in the TWW! How is it feeling so far? Are you planning to skip hpts again?

AmandaHope: Are you testing tomorrow? How are you feeling? I'm sorry that if this one doesn't work you'll have to take a cycle off, but it sounds like that will work out well for you for a lot of reasons.

LibraryLady: How are you doing? I see you're still just spotting. What do you think it going on? Are you going to get a beta?

Gumshoegirl007: Welcome! I hope that your TWW goes quickly!

Gellybeangrl: Happy Birthday!!

MaxK: How is the Femara going so far?

AFM: Still temping and watching my CM and wondering if I'll ever O. I'm putting up adjusted temps on my FF page, since my temping times have been so off lately. Hopefully now that I'm home I'll be able to do a better job with that!
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