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post #41 of 486
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Originally Posted by wehrli View Post
anyone else want me to add their chart??

is everybody in the correct place? if not, let me know, i will make sure it's corrected...

TTWers: want me to add test dates?
Hi Werhli...could you add that I will test 7/6/2010, on 15DPO.

okay after reading all the kudos on my chart I decided to test tomorrow...13DPO.
post #42 of 486
Hi everyone...sorry for being MIA and the lack of personals. DW and I are in North Carolina visiting my sister and my new niece...she is sooo sweet. I really hope that I will be holding one of my own by this time next year. We have had the vacation from hell...our 8:35pm plane was delayed till 12:50 am, and we didn't arrive in NC until 3:30am...we missed getting our rental car...and when we go to our oh so NOT-lovely hotel...the room was infeted with roaches. Yeah....that is what I said....Roaches. It was 4:30am by now and we had no way to leave the hotel and no other hotel in that area...so we huddled on the bed, didn't unpack a thing and waited for the sun to rise.

I called my sister who came over to get us this morning take us to get our rental car and help us find a new hotel. We are now in a very nice hot tub suite with a king bed....and NO BUGS!!! Yeah.

So symptoms...over the last 48 hrs I am running on about 4 hrs of sleep. So, I couldn't tell you what is a prego symptom and what is not. After reading everyone's compliments on my chart, I talke DW into going over to Wal-mart tomorrow and getting a prego test...it's a few days early, but I just want to know one way or the other. For the record DW belives that I am pregnant.

For all of you who are inseming this weekend and week...good luck catching that egg.

For my fellow TWW'ers good luck with this week of testing!!!

Love ya all...I gotta get some sleep.
post #43 of 486
Can I please be moved to waiting to know? I am currently 6DPIUI. Thanks!
post #44 of 486
GellyBeangrl wow that IS the vacation from hell! I'm so glad you're in a good hotel now. Not that the jacuzzi tub will do you much good huh? hehe. Do you mean 13DPO? I didn't realize you were just one day behind me. Your chart is looking amazing!
post #45 of 486
Bunny-- Keeping fingers crossed for you! Maybe that pink is just some late implantation spotting

Library--HI! That IS odd rain on the forth (thank you hurricane Alex I suppose) Hoping for HIGH temps and peace of mind for you

Amanda-- Yay for a peaceful insem. Since we do ours ourselves, it always ends up being the farthest thing from romantic, and actually quite hilarious. There are normally phrases like "Could you just let me have my coffee for a minute?!" or "Hurry up, it's already thawing and it takes you ten minutes to find my cervix!" Hoping for a super quick 2WW for you

AFU Im now using THREE count em THREE OPKs Im convinced our issue is nothing but timing, so here we go. Saliva, CBE Monitor (which I must say, has been way off the last few months) and the CBE smiley ones (which almost always do the trick) Also the ovulation confirmation wand (scary title) so we should have a pretty good idea, assuming I get SOME KIND OF LH SURGE verification. If we still cant time correctly, I suppose I will have to get a lot more information RE: Trigger shots, and using ultrasound to pinpoint. There are so many advantages to having a clinic and doing it all ourselves, but as my DP is a family practice nurse practitioner, her OB/fertility experience is limited, and therefore it feels like a lot of trial & error, pressure, research etc. BUT all's well that ends well right?

Happy 4th everyone, hope your day involves some fun and relaxation
post #46 of 486
Hey ladies~

Another short note since I'm on a pretty public computer. Thanks for all the encouragement~ Coco, I'll keep you and the twins in mind when I start to freak out. I was 97.90 again today and I think we'll test on Friday, but I might test Thursday. DP and I have a shopping weekend in Dallas planned starting Friday and I'd like to either be buying baby stuff or having a beer in compensation (oh please please please let me be able to buy some of that cutie baby stuff from Ikea!!!)


Sorry for the lack of personals, but I'm wishing everyone a safe and fun 4th. Gelly, sounds like you're in a much better roach free place now!! Talk to you all soon, back on a better posting schedule next week.

Good luck to all insems and TWWs!!!
post #47 of 486
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Originally Posted by gellybeangrl View Post

okay after reading all the kudos on my chart I decided to test tomorrow...13DPO.
So...have you tested, Gelly? I'm so excited and hopeful for you! And I'm *really* glad that you've escaped the roaches and are enjoying your new room and your new niece!
post #48 of 486
AHope: Congrats on an easy insem with time for a nap! The whole situation still seems so fortuitous to me, and I hope it is! Sending you a restful and easy TWW!

Bunny: I hope you're not still freaking out! I can understand how, given all of your preparation and time trying, it feels like you're past due for your BFP. But I also know (and keep having to remind myself) that there's no logic here, only luck. I hope you get a lucky BFP this week, or else some clarity about what comes next.

Escher: I'm glad it wasn't overstepping to talk about our donor decision. But so many people were so sure we'd automatically switch that I wish someone had at least reminded me of the option to consider all of the options a bit more fully. I'm sure you'll make the right choice when you're ready, and in the meantime I'm glad your body is feeling better!

Gelly: I'm super excited about your test tomorrow! FX for a nice, clear BFP! Your chart certainly makes it seem like a possibility!

2HappyMamas: How are you feeling at 6dpo? Any possible symptoms?

Scarlett: It sounds like you have a big arsenal of tools and you know how to use them! I did want to throw out there that, while I've never used the CBE sensors, I've always had mixed results with regular OPKs. For me, they go from blank to showing a line as I get closer to O, but almost never get a totally clear positive. So, rather than waiting on the positive, I try to use other signs (mostly temp, CM, and sometimes libido) to get the timing right. This doesn't work for everyone, and I still count on the opks to validate my guess, but I thought I should mention it if you're finding the tools to be more of a weight than a help.

Library: I just looked at your chart and for a second thought I'd made a mistake and opened my own: we have almost the same flatline for today and yesterday! I hope you get the chance to do some baby shopping soon!

AFM: Flat temp today, which is neither here nor there. Still a bit of nausea, but not as dramatic as yesterday, so maybe it really was the garbage stench! Not sure if it's worth testing tomorrow, since 10dpo is so early... Also, I just got back from a department function at which I played with two cute 7 month olds, both daughters of male colleagues. When my chair saw me with them, she said, "Oh no! Now I'm going to have to deal with maternity leave". Great. Way to confirm my anxieties about lack of support for female faculty AND to illegally comment on my fertility, all during my (secret to her) TWW!

Hope you're all staying cool and having fun today.
post #49 of 486
Hello everyone...still in North Carolina...we are heading home tomorrow. More vacation drama today. My DW's aunt died today...she has been sick and just recently...as in Wednesday June 30th she was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. We were told that she had 2-3 months to live...but today around 1:30pm we got the call that she was really bad and that she probably would not make it through the day. DW was really upset because we are here and she wanted to be there with her aunt. She just went so quickly...its both a curse and a blessing. For her it is a blessing because she did not have to suffer long...for us it is a curse because everyone was really counting on the 2-3 months to say good-bye.

Anyway...I did test today, but I was unable to use first morning pee...I got a bfn. I'm not trying to get too down about it I still got a few days till AF is scheduled to pay me a visit. I may test again in the morning...or I might wait till Tuesday morning...that will 15 DOP. Not sure what to do if I am still not getting a BFP, and AF has not shown up.

Bunny~ How did your testing go today? Get your BFP?!?!?

Library and Beastie~ Your charts look good...and your symptoms sound very promising. I would so love to join you all with bfp's.
post #50 of 486
Gelly s and more s for you and DP. I'm so sorry about her aunt. To have under a week after a diagnosis like that...with no time to adjust or say goodbye...that is so tough and heartbreaking. Of course, your DP wanted to be with her. I'm so sorry. And the BFN on top of that-- . Your chart really does look great, and without FMU, it may well have been a false negative. I really hope that tomorrow or Tuesday, you get that BFP, and that it gives you and DP a bit of hope and joy in this very hard time.
post #51 of 486
Hi Everyone,

A few quick notes:

Gellybeangrl: Your chart looks great, but I'm sorry that you keep getting bfn's--I know that is disappointing.

Beastie: Holy cow--look at that temp rise! Are you testing?

Library: Your chart today continues to look great. I look forward to hearing your exciting test results whenever you test! Go team!

BunnyLullabye: Any news today?

2happymamas: Do you have a chart that I can stalk?

Miss Scarlett: I'm also not a huge fan of the CBE monitor, but I LOVE their smiley face opks. And I supplement with internet cheapies, which I think work almost as well as the CBE opks. And then I tend to ignore all those results and base my timing mostly on CM and how my cervix feels. Isn't it crazy how much we do to figure out when to insem?
post #52 of 486
Gelly: So sorry to hear about your loss. I'm sorry that you and DP have to navigate this hard and unexpected death while you're away from home. I'm holding out a lot of hope that you'll get your BFP any day now, and that maybe you can find some comfort or peace in the idea that your conception was so lined up with DP's aunt's diagnosis. Thinking of you both.

Bunny? Library? Any testing action? Any news? FX for you both!

Wehrli: Getting close now!

Escher: Thanks for checking up on the chart!

AFM:Escher's right: I had a really big spike (I took it 3 times in a row, all at or above 99. And it tracks my pregnancy cycle pretty closely. But I got a BFN with FMU this morning at 10DPO, and we're having a huge heat wave (even though I do sleep with an air conditioner, and DP is still out of town, so my sleep is more disrupted than usual. So who can know. Last time I didn't get a BFP till 12 DPO, so I'm trying to maintain low expectations and just keep testing. But now I'm so obsessed that once a day seems like so little! AHope and 2happy mamas, distract me with your possible symptoms! Or Wehrli and all the other waiting folks, distract me with your O predictions!

Off to run some errands...
post #53 of 486
Library & Beastie - Your charts are looking great!

Gelly - Sorry about your BFN today. Still no sign of AF, though, right? Stay away, AF!!! Hugs to your DP, too, for losing her aunt.

Coco - Big congrats on the TWINS! I couldn't be happier for you and DP.

AmandaHope - Hi! I'm sending you some of my magical cell division and implantation visions.

escher - I'm so glad you're feeling better.

Bunny - I'm still holding out hope for you.

Miss Scarlett - I'm sure you'll catch that egg right on time!

Wehrli - Thanks for the beautiful new thread; I hope it brings you lots of luck this cycle! My chart got lost in the mix somewhere between here and the June thread, so here's a link: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/amandamom

AFM, CD15 and no sign of O, but since we're not trying this cycle, I'm not obsessing. What a relief! Trying to get the timing perfect has got to be the worst part of TTC. I think my easiest days are the first few days post-IUI when I'm not obsessing over ovulation signs *or* pregnancy signs.

I had a great weekend. DP and I went to a local bar on Friday and sang karaoke... quite bad, in fact. We're thankful we didn't know anyone else in the bar. Saturday we drove down to Myrtle Beach hoping to catch Orianthi playing at the House of Blues. Well, Google maps had us driving all the way down to South Myrtle Beach, and it was too late when we realized the House of Blues was in North Myrtle Beach. We still had fun, though, and became very familiar with the ins and outs of MB! Yesterday DP and I attended a lesbian dance in the afternoon on a rooftop bar followed by a big house party with a great view of the fireworks. All in all, a fabulous weekend. I made no effort to avoid alcoholic beverages since there's no chance I'll be inseminating anytime soon.
post #54 of 486
Beastie It is just cruel to get a temp rise like that and a BFN (chart stalking). But at 10dpo, I'd try not to get discouraged. You aren't sick, are you? Those temps are sky high!

Library Back up a bit on the temp for you, too, right? Nice! When are you going to test? Yikes!

Bunny Stay away, AF!

Scarlett Watch out for the woman armed with many ovulation-detecting weapons! I'm with the others on the CBE monitor being sketchy. Honestly, I never did find a fully reliable way to detect LH/O, so that's why I'm now a big fan of ultrasounds. I hope you get better results.

Wehrli, would you please move me to waiting to know? There is no point pretending that this is a non-trying cycle when I am already thinking all the time about whether or not I am pregnant (at 3dpo--sigh). Coco's experience has me freaking out a bit about twins, since I'm pretty sure that if I don't conceive this cycle, my RE will try to convince me to go on Clomid, and I'll be very tempted to follow his advice. I just want to be pregnant, already! But as I've mentioned before, we (esp DP) are not prepared to parent three children.

My new thinking (which seems alternatively inspired and truly insane) is that if I do have twins, I could allow my KD and his wife (one of my best friends who is struggling hard with infertility) to adopt one of them. But holy crap! I am not, unfortunately, one of those altruistic, zen women who be a surrogate and not be plagued by self-doubt and remorse. And here is the strangest part: how would I choose which one to keep and which one to allow KD and his wife to adopt? I know that I'm slightly nuts for even thinking about this, but in a way, I feel I have to, if I'm going to use fertility medications of any kind. I don't think I could live with myself if I had a selective reduction of a twin when my KD and dear friend likely can't have their own child.

So here's a strange QOTD for anyone who wants to discuss this. Assuming that you already had (or were pregnant with) your ideal number of children, would/could you ever be a surrogate for someone else? If so, under what conditions?
post #55 of 486
AmandaHope: Sorry I missed you in my 2WWer chart stalking! Go team! Clomid is a tough choice if you definitely don't want twins. I wonder what other options you have. Good luck figuring it out!

QOTD: I don't know if I could be a surrogate. At the moment I feel very attached to keeping any babies that I birth, but I can definitely understand that may change once I have a couple of children.

AmandaMom: That sounds like a great weekend!

Beastie: It makes perfect sense to me that if you didn't get a bfp until 12dpo last time you wouldn't get one until around then this time.
post #56 of 486
AmandaHope: Talk to your doctor about trying Femara, as opposed to Clomid. According to the RE we use, using Femara has a reduce likelihood of multiple follicles v. Clomid. The RE explained that he usually sees one dominant, better quality follicle when using Femara than the mulitple, not-so-great quality follicles on Clomid.
post #57 of 486
AmandaMom: What cool charts you have! I love the way your body likes to hover at exactly 98.2. How precise of you!

AHope and Escher: I know, I know. I don't actually find the 10DPO BFN too depressing because I understand that it doesn't mean much, but I still hate to have to look at it! Nevertheless, it does nothing to defer me from wanting to test some more!

In related news, as evidence of how spacey TTC is making me, it turns out that the 8th (DP's bday and return home) is on THURSDAY, not WEDNESDAY. Who knew? So the bad news is an extra night solo and the possibility of confirming a real BFN by myself, but the good news is an extra day toward the possibility of this BFP as b-day gift plan...

QOTD: As of now, I'm with Escher on this one. I'm just so focused on creating a baby for my own family, and too worried about finding the time and resources to create siblings for that baby down the road, to imagine having the time and energy to have a pregnancy for surrogacy. Still, I can understand why you'd consider it, and I think that being a surrogate for your KD would be an incredible and meaningful gift.

Keep sending those fertile vibes!
post #58 of 486
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Wehrli: Getting close now!

right?!

AFM:Escher's right: I had a really big spike (I took it 3 times in a row, all at or above 99. And it tracks my pregnancy cycle pretty closely. But I got a BFN with FMU this morning at 10DPO, and we're having a huge heat wave (even though I do sleep with an air conditioner, and DP is still out of town, so my sleep is more disrupted than usual. So who can know. Last time I didn't get a BFP till 12 DPO, so I'm trying to maintain low expectations and just keep testing. But now I'm so obsessed that once a day seems like so little! AHope and 2happy mamas, distract me with your possible symptoms! Or Wehrli and all the other waiting folks, distract me with your O predictions!

Off to run some errands...
Look at that chart!! WOW! FX... as for distracting you with O predictions... i'm pretty sure friday will be the day for the IUI... i have an u/s scheduled for wednesday and will probably trigger that night. but i'm watching carefully for other signs because last cycle i O'd 2 days early! but i'm also on clomid this month, and i've always o'd on CD17 on it... so i feel pretty relaxed about it.

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Wehrli - Thanks for the beautiful new thread; I hope it brings you lots of luck this cycle! My chart got lost in the mix somewhere between here and the June thread, so here's a link: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/amandamom

your right! sorry about that.

AFM, CD15 and no sign of O, but since we're not trying this cycle, I'm not obsessing. What a relief! Trying to get the timing perfect has got to be the worst part of TTC. I think my easiest days are the first few days post-IUI when I'm not obsessing over ovulation signs *or* pregnancy signs.

i'm so with you on this one... this is my 2nd cycle with the RE and it is so much less stessful knowing that i'll have u/s confirmation and trigger timing... it's soooo hard to not stress over timing!

I had a great weekend. DP and I went to a local bar on Friday and sang karaoke... quite bad, in fact. We're thankful we didn't know anyone else in the bar. Saturday we drove down to Myrtle Beach hoping to catch Orianthi playing at the House of Blues. Well, Google maps had us driving all the way down to South Myrtle Beach, and it was too late when we realized the House of Blues was in North Myrtle Beach. We still had fun, though, and became very familiar with the ins and outs of MB! Yesterday DP and I attended a lesbian dance in the afternoon on a rooftop bar followed by a big house party with a great view of the fireworks. All in all, a fabulous weekend. I made no effort to avoid alcoholic beverages since there's no chance I'll be inseminating anytime soon.
what a great weekend... i'm glad you are being able to embrace this break and have some fun! i think that it is very important in this whole process to take breaks... otherwise we just get so caught up in these 2 week cylces and day to day life that we forget to relax and really enjoy life, or maybe it's just me...

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Wehrli, would you please move me to waiting to know? There is no point pretending that this is a non-trying cycle when I am already thinking all the time about whether or not I am pregnant (at 3dpo--sigh).

i suppose you are right...

So here's a strange QOTD for anyone who wants to discuss this. Assuming that you already had (or were pregnant with) your ideal number of children, would/could you ever be a surrogate for someone else? If so, under what conditions?
QOTD: see below

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QOTD: I don't know if I could be a surrogate. At the moment I feel very attached to keeping any babies that I birth, but I can definitely understand that may change once I have a couple of children.


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Originally Posted by Beastie;15589920[B
QOTD:[/B] As of now, I'm with Escher on this one. I'm just so focused on creating a baby for my own family, and too worried about finding the time and resources to create siblings for that baby down the road, to imagine having the time and energy to have a pregnancy for surrogacy. Still, I can understand why you'd consider it, and I think that being a surrogate for your KD would be an incredible and meaningful gift.
and

afm, just chillin' out at CD13... O/Insem is getting pretty close but i am feeling pretty zen about it. our BFF is still in town, so i'm not sure if that's part of why i'm feeling so calm or if it's just because of the whole RE/Monitoring = No Guesswork or if it's just that we've done this thing "so many" times now that it's like old hat... probably a combination of all of these things but what ever the reason i'm not obsessed, i'll take it!
post #59 of 486
Beastie - Thanks for noticing how precise my charts are. My coverline has always been 98.3, and I hover around 98.2 before O and 98.6 after O. Of course any deviation from this causes me to flip out and scrutinize like crazy. I am thankful, however, that my temps are so consistent. It's the one TTC sign I can usually count on!

QOTD - I think the only instance I would agree to become a surrogate is if my sister asked me to... and even then it would be hard. I don't think I could do it before having a child of my own, though.
post #60 of 486
qotd - surrogacy is just not for us. i do admire greatly those women who are able to do it but now that dp and i have both been through pregnancy, birth and nursing - nope, we just could not do it. if fate does give us more than one on our next try we will happily parent 4 instead of 3.

poor dp has mastitis. she thought it was just a clogged duct (i had several when i nursed, not nice AT ALL) but this morning her boob was red and tender. thankfully our ob practice on-call doc called in an rx for antibiotics and she has started taking them.

and now my qotd - we are all very comfortable asking questions and talking about periods, cervical fluid etc, etc on here but what about IRL? yesterday we were at a party and dp's friend said a lesbian couple would be there and they were excited about trying to start a family and would it be ok if they asked us some questions? of course we said yes. anyway, they basically avoided us the entire party! i was in the pool with ds1 for a while but dp was there with ds2 and then we were both sitting around during the food... i'm not sure if they were shy, or couldn't figure out our dynamic - they were very obviously butch/femme (no offense to anyone i hope using that terminology) while dp and i don't really fit into that - we are both soft butch i guess - and of course we both carried...i'm not sure if that was off-putting? what would you have done? is it weird to y'all to talk about this with complete strangers IRL?

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