TTC #1 in our 30s--July

[Blanca78]

Conceiving #1In Our 30's June

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IHeartMyFamily ............... at age 31 ...after 1.5 years! EDD 2/10 ...profile
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•Adorkable• ........... at age 35 ...after 2.5 years! EDD 1/11 ...profile
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Houla055 ......... at age 33 ...EDD 9/10...profile
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Farmama, PiePie, Dctexan, Greengrey & Beckyphry




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[Blanca78]

Hey all,
Here's a new thread for July. Hmm. Trying to think of a question. Okay, what is one thing you worry about motherhood changing, and one thing you look forward to it changing?

Me? I'm worried about giving up my flexibility to travel and move around. But I'm looking forward to discovering things in new ways by traveling with kids.

[Tear78]

Thanks, Blanca!

I'm kind of worried about motherhood changing the kinds of obnoxious comments I get from colleagues and strangers. The change might be nice from "are you a mother?" comments.

I'm looking forward to coming home from work and seeing my hubby and my child(ren) and spending time with them...so I guess that would be a change in the vibe of home-life.

Ok AF, if you're on a plane here, then please just GET HERE ALREADY!!!!! If you're not, by some miracle, then stop toying with me. I want to go to my RE tomorrow morning for a baseline appointment before we go to the Adirondacks tomorrow afternoon for a week. Doing injectibles again is impossible since we'll be out of town, but maybe I could do Clomid? But first, AF NEEDS TO GET HERE AND STOP EFFING AROUND!

ps - Blanca, I just read in the One that you're worried about your thyroid. It's so easy to check, and so easy to fix. Have you had your level checked? For fertility, they want it to be below 2.5, and mine wasn't, so I'm taking levothyroxine.

[elonwy]

Thanks for the new thread!
I'm worried about losing contact with my friends that don't want to and aren't going to have children.

I'm looking forward to spending time with my child and meeting other mommas to spend time with.

[Blanca78]

Originally Posted by Tear78

Thanks, Blanca!

I'm kind of worried about motherhood changing the kinds of obnoxious comments I get from colleagues and strangers. The change might be nice from "are you a mother?" comments.

I'm looking forward to coming home from work and seeing my hubby and my child(ren) and spending time with them...so I guess that would be a change in the vibe of home-life.

Ok AF, if you're on a plane here, then please just GET HERE ALREADY!!!!! If you're not, by some miracle, then stop toying with me. I want to go to my RE tomorrow morning for a baseline appointment before we go to the Adirondacks tomorrow afternoon for a week. Doing injectibles again is impossible since we'll be out of town, but maybe I could do Clomid? But first, AF NEEDS TO GET HERE AND STOP EFFING AROUND!

ps - Blanca, I just read in the One that you're worried about your thyroid. It's so easy to check, and so easy to fix. Have you had your level checked? For fertility, they want it to be below 2.5, and mine wasn't, so I'm taking levothyroxine.

Thanks, Tear, I was wondering what was involved. I just wonder because this book (the garden of fertility or something?) really freaked me out when I read it yesterday, because there was an example of a chart with low pre-O temps and a shortish luteal phase and the author was like, "I have rarely seen women with charts like this sustain a healthy pregnancy" or something--and it didn't look unlike mine. She was talking about how thyroid and progesterone problems go along together. I don't know that I have low progesterone--once I O my temps stay pretty elevated until the day before or day of AF--but my low temps worry me. Apart from that I'm not sure I have any symptoms of a problem, but who knows. I think I'll ask my doctor about it.

How are you hanging in there? Has AF showed? Thinking of you.

[meander]

Shouldn't OPK's get at least a *little* faint color on them near O? Can they just go from lily-white to positive in one day? I've had 4 days of negatives, now I'm on CD 13, expecting O this weekend... but nothing, nothing, nothing. My temps, while a bit messy, are still trending down, too, so maybe timing is way off? I'm using both FF and TCOYF for this month, and both agree with my estimated O date...but I don't see it happening. I've only got one left now for this cycle, but I guess that can be remedied.
I suppose, on the bright side, if I'm going to O late, at least maybe I'll have a chance this month. DH is mildly ill and keeps falling asleep before I get a chance to even try to interest him; seduction only seems to work when he's, y'know, conscious. Apparently. I'd be mildly annoyed at the timing anyway, but with my libido chiming in now, well, I've been crying myself to sleep in frustration.

[bolobear]

I'm very new to this site and ttc #1 in August 2010.
I'm 32 years old. I'm on my first cycle off birth control pills. I'm charting at fertility friend but not sure how to link it just yet.

We plan to start trying in August, but we've decided to not try hard to avoid after this normal period whenever it comes. That's mostly because we will be hosting my husband's parents and do not expect the alone time anyway.

[Neuromancer]

Originally Posted by Blanca78

Okay, what is one thing you worry about motherhood changing, and one thing you look forward to it changing?

There are a lot of things I worry about motherhood changing! Like my relationship with my husband. We're really close and good friends. And my sense of self -- I want to be an individual with her own hopes and dreams, not immersed in a child to the detriment of my work, loves, and interpersonal relationships (I am not saying all mothers are like this!). I also worry about the changes to my sleep! I love to sleep.

I'm looking forward to it changing my routine, to it changing my priorities, and to it changing my health (I think I'll try even harder to eat better). And I'm looking forward to how it changes my relationship with my friends who are mothers already.

[Neuromancer]

Originally Posted by bolobear

I'm very new to this site and ttc #1 in August 2010.
I'm 32 years old. I'm on my first cycle off birth control pills. I'm charting at fertility friend but not sure how to link it just yet.

We plan to start trying in August, but we've decided to not try hard to avoid after this normal period whenever it comes. That's mostly because we will be hosting my husband's parents and do not expect the alone time anyway.

Welcome, bolobear. I'm 33 and on my third cycle off bcp, and just starting to TTC. I'm not charting anything but my periods and DTD (so far), though.

I had been thinking I'd start "not avoiding" a few months later, but then I thought about a possible home birth in my un-airconditioned apartment next summer. Now I'm hoping to get pregnant MUCH sooner, instead of later.

[Kinza]

Hello, all. I didn't post much last month because most people in this thread seem pretty positive, and I was pretty much not positive last month. But I was lurking. My answer to the July question:

I worry about motherhood changing my relationship with my husband, and also how I will think about myself. I tend to get wrapped up in labels, and I worry I will only be "Baby H's mommy." I hope motherhood changes my perspective a little, like maybe I can see joy and happiness in the world again.

Tear, how are you today?

meander, I have had OPKs go from lily-white to arguably positive the next day, but then usually the day after that I get a clearly positive. So in a matter of probably 36 hours go from white to dark-positive. Good luck and hope DH gets better and in the mood, and s !

bolobear, welcome!

AFM, 15 DPO. 2 days til AF and I'll know for sure, but not looking pregnant this cycle.

[viola.swamp]

hello

hello!

i am brand new and i would love to join this thread. my husband and i have been TTC since february 2010. we haven't been charting but rather using OPKs and trying to have sex every other night from the 8th to the 20th day of my cycle. we are thinking about getting a FM, though. i have been on the pill for the last 10 years and went off in december. we are both 30 and doctoral students who are about to start our dissertations, and are lucky to be at a school that has amazing parental benefits - so now seemed like a great time.

this cycle has been weird - usually i ovulate pretty normally on the 16th or 17th day of my cycle and then have my period on the 28th - 30th day, but according to the OPK i didn't ovulate at all this month. i'm now on day 20 of my cycle. weird.

anyway, i'm really excited to meet everyone!

[bolobear]

Originally Posted by Neuromancer

Welcome, bolobear. I'm 33 and on my third cycle off bcp, and just starting to TTC. I'm not charting anything but my periods and DTD (so far), though.

I had been thinking I'd start "not avoiding" a few months later, but then I thought about a possible home birth in my un-airconditioned apartment next summer. Now I'm hoping to get pregnant MUCH sooner, instead of later.

Thanks for the welcomes! Neuromancer, the reason we are only not avoiding next month is we really don't want a baby to be here before May when my husband will be finishing up his phd. I think it's sweet that he's feeling like it'd be awesome and ok if the baby was here sooner. Who knows? It's such a mystery if we're fertile and how long it will take! I even have ovulation predictor strips from my friend who tried for 2 years but I'm just gonna hold off on them for a while.

I wish everyone baby thoughts.

[Neuromancer]

Originally Posted by bolobear

It's such a mystery if we're fertile and how long it will take!

I agree, and remind myself of this all the time.

Welcome, Viola.Swamp. I think I'm following a similar method to yours -- every other day (if possible) for a large "maybe fertile" window. But I've never tried OPKs. I was on the pill for almost 15 years, so my "true" cycle is something of a mystery to me.

Kinza, I think we have some similar worries! I think it's good that you gave yourself some space last month. There's no need to feel positive all the time.

[viola.swamp]

Originally Posted by Neuromancer

Welcome, Viola.Swamp. I think I'm following a similar method to yours -- every other day (if possible) for a large "maybe fertile" window. But I've never tried OPKs. I was on the pill for almost 15 years, so my "true" cycle is something of a mystery to me.

Thanks for the welcome! I feel like the method of casting a wide net seems like a pretty good one, but who knows.

I have a question - is it normal NOT to ovulate every month? I saw a doctor who said that many women have anovulatory cycles regularly, but I don't like her all that much and am not sure if what she was saying is true. I'm trying to figure out what happened to me this month since I didn't seem to ovulate. Thanks!

[bootsvalentine]

Hi everyone! Happy 4th to those that celebrate.
I'm really worried about motherhood changing my career. I love my teaching job but it's obviously a huge commitment and I want to be strong enough for both.
I'm looking forward to becoming parents and having our own family. We've been together a long time (9 years) and married while (4) so I think we're ready for a change/challenge

AF due tomorrow. Gonna test when I wake up, on a nocturnal schedule right now. Only test yesterday was a dud.

[Blanca78]

Welcome new ones! I am traveling now and have a somewhat gimpy computer so I will add you when I get home. Viola.Swamp--I have heard that about anovulatory cycles. I think the only way to know for sure that you've ovulated is through temping. I also know that travel can disrupt/delay ovulation. For example, I am on my sixth day of EWCM with no O in sight and it is driving me mad. I wish my body would hurry up. It's CD21--argh! I know that's not so bad but tiresome when TTC.

Good luck tomorrow Bootsvalentine!

[Brown Lioness]

Alright, lemme jump back in this (ya'll move fast sometimes lol).

Blanca, if you would, please add a year to my TTC start date, it most certainly wont be going down next month! lol

Let's see, one thing i worry about motherhood changing is my marriage. We pretty much love how things are (with a few improvements of course lol) between us and i worry how a little one will impact that. We do very well as a team, but a baby can be a bomb in the middle of the field of jasmine, ive seen (especially for those who have waited as long as we're waiting).

The one thing i look foward to changing is my view on life. I hear so much about how the minute you get those two lines, your life view opens up (for better and for worse, ive seen lol). Im interested to know what it will be like to view the world through new (and little ones') eyes.

Originally Posted by Blanca78

Hey all,
Here's a new thread for July. Hmm. Trying to think of a question. Okay, what is one thing you worry about motherhood changing, and one thing you look forward to it changing?

Me? I'm worried about giving up my flexibility to travel and move around. But I'm looking forward to discovering things in new ways by traveling with kids.

[AmandaMom]

Welcome Viola and Bolobear!

I worry about motherhood changing my relationship with DP. She already admits she's going to be very jealous of the baby! I look forward to having motherhood give my life a new focus, new interests, and new friends.

I had a fabulous 4th of July weekend, and I hope everyone else did too!

[meander]

I'm still figuring on O'ing any day now, and just trying to be really positive. I've managed to get a little BDing in, and timing wouldn't be too bad as things stand now.

I'm worried that motherhood will finally destroy my sleep cycles for good, and that I'll resent my child because of that. (It's equally likely, of course, that as a new mom, I'll be so exhausted I'll actually fall asleep when I finally get to bed and solve the insomnia for good and all.) I'm also worried we'll travel a lot less, and get outdoors less (DH's primary concern I think)...but I really believe we can balance all the stuff with love with a baby.
I'm looking forward to my priorities changing. I'm getting tired of just doing things for myself, if that makes any sense.

[bootsvalentine]

Originally Posted by meander

I'm still figuring on O'ing any day now, and just trying to be really positive. I've managed to get a little BDing in, and timing wouldn't be too bad as things stand now.

I'm worried that motherhood will finally destroy my sleep cycles for good, and that I'll resent my child because of that. (It's equally likely, of course, that as a new mom, I'll be so exhausted I'll actually fall asleep when I finally get to bed and solve the insomnia for good and all.) I'm also worried we'll travel a lot less, and get outdoors less (DH's primary concern I think)...but I really believe we can balance all the stuff with love with a baby.
I'm looking forward to my priorities changing. I'm getting tired of just doing things for myself, if that makes any sense.

I have always had pretty bad insomnia, too. I figure I will do well as a new mom because of it, haha. I'm used to no sleep! Not that I'm pleasant to be around.

I'm 31 and we've been married four years, just got our house this year. So I know why we waited so long, but especially if we have trouble ttc I wonder if it was wise.