Originally Posted by changingseasons
Oh no! What kind of alarm bells?! (Sorry... totally OT, and I would IM you, but I'm still on frickin dial-up so there is no way I'm even opening my yahoo messenger.)
Well, for #4, the whole "motherly" vibe you described reminds me of the nurses I had while I was in labour with DS1. Basically, it concerns me that she may downright dominate your birth experience.
Which leads me to #1: I would be concerned with her close affiliation with #4.
My other concerns are "most likely" and "might" transfer to hospital with you. I have a HUGE issue, after DS3, with knowing who is going to be there when I deliver a baby. I do NOT want to be uncertain. It seems like each of them is pretty uncertain of that aspect... Really? You don't know who you're bringing into my home? And you're not sure that you'll stay with me?
I will NEVER have an attendant who is going on vacation close to my due date again (assuming I ever have another
). It is INCREDIBLY stressful.
That's basically it but these are issues on which I
would feel incapable of compromising:
I need to KNOW who's going to be there.
I need to KNOW that they're actually
going to be there (especially if they don't give refunds after a certain point!).
I do NOT want a motherly attendant. I want a friend who will hear my needs and assist me in meeting them.
I need to know who's coming into my house (this isn't just a birth thing).