Question about informed consent
Way back on page two of this thread you made a comment which I wanted to ask about... concerning testifying against at least one Dr. for not giving a person proper information before circumcising.
If all you know of me comes from this thread and what has been said about me here, you might have (IMHO) a very imperfect idea of how I approach this issue... some have said that I have a zero tolerance type of approach to parents who circumcise or who don't "get it" the moment I think they should. Actually that's far from what I think usually happens... and if I had a "MO" I think it would probably be that I encourage people to write letters.
My typical reasoning is... why am I telling you (parent) ANY of this? Why wasn't this told to you by the people who were offering it? Even if you are happy about your decisions, if you learned ANYTHING on an internet discussion board or a website- you should write a letter of complaint to the Dr, the hospital, the child birth educator, the state medical board and the insurance company who paid for it... sometimes I suggest that they contact a lawyer, I think I may have even one told a person to complain to the national chain bookstores which do not stock any circumcision books on the pregnancy bookshelves.
Here are some examples of me doing this:http://mothering.com/discussions/sho...ghlight=letter
"Write a letter of complaint to the hospital! I am not kidding- what you were exposed to could cause PTSD for YOU... not to mention those poor babies.
Complain Complain!! Hold them accountable. Express your outrage that this is being done.
Those medical students are ALSO being abused. there is no reason why they should be forced to be exposed to barbaric unethical cruelty. That is not medical training- that is conditioning to submit to the status quo of authority. medical students need to be encouraged to speak out, protest and refuse to take part in that. See if they have a school paper. Write a letter and encourage them to take a stand. Medical school costs enough without selling out your soul."http://mothering.com/discussions/sho...ghlight=letter
"Hi Bev- Here is my idea- write a little letter to your ped. It would go along these lines"http://mothering.com/discussions/sho...light=complain
"So I just want to clarify- if you complain to the people in this story who let you down- remember, it's not the outcome you should be upset about- it's the fact that you were not INFORMED that this outcome was what you were consenting to. "
When you mentioned being involved in a case about misinformed consent- that caught my eye. I want to know about it! I want to know if these things only get persued when something goes AWFULLY wrong- do any people ever just come back and say- "Hey- that was wrong the way that was handled, no- no botch, but had I KNOWN- I would have made a different choice- what you did is malpractice, even if i was a perfect circumcision." If parents wrote to the state medical board or the state hospital regulatory commision- would their letters be taken seriously or would it be a big joke? Do they only pay attention when there are lawyers involved? When the penis looks mangled and not ideally turned inside out? Is it illegal to solicit surgery? How do you get consent for a circumcision without offering it? What happened in that case? Did it only get mentioned because something went wrong? How many OTHER misinformed consents had that Dr. taken?
A lot of questions I know- what can you say about that case and the scene at the recieving end of these letters that I'll assume hardly ever get written. Am I encouraging people to bark up a tree that will get them nowhere? Does anyone take these commnications to heart?