Baby Shower location/ planning issue

[Happy912]

So I have a question for all you mamas out there: is it normal for the guest of honor (pregnant woman) to be involved in the planning and decision-making of the shower? How about the location selected?

My sister is thrilled that I am pregnant and of course insisted that she would be throwing us the shower. She lives about an hour and 20 minutes away from me in another state and today she told me that she was looking at places that were even further away- another 15-30 minutes!

When I told her that I was hoping for something that was closer- maybe 45 minutes away or so, I could tell she was not expecting me to say that and her mood instantly changed. In fact, I suggested a palce and she said it would be super inconvenient for her.

Anyways, I got off the phone with her but now I am so annoyed!! Am I being a baby shower diva? I guess I don't know the etiquette of these sort of things, but it just seems like normal people would go out of their way to make it a convenient, stress-free day for the mommy-to-be. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[finnegansmom]

My family had a shower for me, and I was asked to drive to a cousin's house. Since they live 3+ hours away, I had to stay with my inlaws 45 minutes away because I couldn't do the 7 hour roundtrip drive in one day.
Of course, you need to be grateful and it's hard to step on toes, but at the same time, it might be nice if the person throwing the party met you half way on distance. Maybe you can pick a town that isn't as far and she can pick the resturant? Or have it at her house?

[CoBabyMaker]

Whenever I have planned showers I talked to the guest of honor (be it bride or mom-to-be) and asked what they want. I am doing it because I love them and I want it to be special for them. I can't imagine doing it differently. I am assuming there will be other guests from where you live and it seems like a middle point would be easier for everyone.

[SpuglyRoo]

I would also try to keep in mind where it will be convenient for the most people. Will it be better for a majority of the intended guests for it to be closer to you or your sister? You are the guest of honor, but you do want people there to honor you Good luck getting it sorted out!

[Happy912]

thanks ladies! I asked her about looking into a town that was the same distance for her, but cut down ours and it is more of a central location for guests as well. She was able to find a new place pretty quickly, thank goodness.

[MaerynPearl]

Originally Posted by SpuglyRoo

I would also try to keep in mind where it will be convenient for the most people. Will it be better for a majority of the intended guests for it to be closer to you or your sister? You are the guest of honor, but you do want people there to honor you Good luck getting it sorted out!

Im glad you found a good spot!

[~Adorkable~]

Glad it worked out, yeah I was going to mention that central to the most guests without putting too much burden on you would be the best bet, you seem to be in the same thinking!

I have been wondering how my shower or showers may end up, I will be moving at 20 weeks, way away from just about everyone! I do plan a trip home to my mom and best fiends at about 26 weeks and hope that someones thinks to do something then, I may need to drop a few hints that this is the last time they wil see me pregnant.