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I went for a repeat anatomy u/s b/c they couldn't see everything they wanted to see in the original one. In b/w the two ultrasounds, I went for another one at the pediatric cardiologist and I heard the baby's hb there and the doctor told me that everything was fine.

Fast Forward two weeks to my repeat anatomy scan and I was brought immediately up to my OB's office where she then had to tell me there was no hb. I was supposed to be 22 weeks 5 days along and they estimated the baby died shortly after I saw the pediatric cardiologist at around 21 weeks.

I went in on Wednesday to labour and delivery and had to go through the entirety of labour. It was more painful this time and I suspect that is, in part, b/c my body was not ready for it. I delivered a baby boy on Thursday morning and we named him Brendan. He weighed just under a pound and was 23 inches long. The reason for his death was apparent upon delivery - he had the cord wrapped around his neck four times! The doctor (and all of the nurses) insist that it is rare at this stage and that four times is almost unheard of and not likely to occur again should I conceive again.

Needless to say the past few days have been hell. Tonight we picked up our DD (3 y.o.) and had to tell her about her baby brother. She "sort of" understood it but really doesn't understand that she doesn't get the opportunity to be the great big sister that she's been planning for months now. I think that is the part that really upset her b/c she has been telling everyone what a great big sister she is going to be

Thanks to everyone in this DDC for all of your support over the past months. Good luck to all of you! I wish you and your families nothing but the best in the future.
post #2 of 35
I'm so very sorry for your loss
post #3 of 35


I'm so sorry for your loss, my heart aches for you

Brendan
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post #5 of 35
I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.
post #6 of 35
I am so sorry.
post #7 of 35
I am so so sorry for your loss.

Brendan

I lost a pregnancy at 22 weeks just about 2 years ago and telling our DD was the hardest thing. I know the pain is so fresh and overwhelming now. Please know it gets better though it becomes a part of you.

The Pregnancy and Loss forums here at mothering are an amazing support. Please visit there.
post #8 of 35
I'm so sorry.
post #9 of 35
I'm so, so very sorry
post #10 of 35
I am so very sorry that you had such a heart wrenching experience. My aches for you.. Sending healing vibes and lots of love your way.
post #11 of 35
im so sorry for your loss mama, how heartbreaking
Brendan
post #12 of 35
DDCC.. I am so very sorry for your loss, mama. I am certain that telling your DD must have been terribly difficult. May you all find peace and healing.
post #13 of 35
So very, very sorry for your loss mama. God bless you and your family as you heal.
post #14 of 35
I'm so sorry. May your daughter bring you some joy in this sorrowful time.
post #15 of 35
I am so sorry, there are just no words You and your family are in my thoughts
post #16 of 35
Oh I am so sorry, my heart is broken for you and your family.
post #17 of 35
I'm so sorry I lost my first son at 16 weeks and the pregnancy loss forum here has been really great. Much love to you and your family.

Brendan
post #18 of 35
So very sorry to read this, mama. You and your family are in my heart and thoughts.
post #19 of 35
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
post #20 of 35
My heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry.
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