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[PoppyMama]

I hope it goes well. It seems you guys have a pretty good reason for not being married since it could really foul up the NEEDED medical care for your ds.

[Theia]

I hope you get to tell the judge the reason you are not married is because you wouldn't otherwise be able to afford DS's medical care.

Anyway, I'll be thinking of you and wishing you and O the best possible outcome in court.

[Super~Single~Mama]

Pshh. That means nothing. If this judge had a problem with that he would have had a problem with that when this case first happened. Did the judge know you were moving in with your dp? Did your ex move in with his wife before they were married?

And, regardless of what he thinks, its a HUGE abuse of Discretion for him to use that against you - since its NOT in O's best interest to have extended visitation with someone he doesn't even know! Especially since its your ex's fault he doesn't know his own father!

I wouldn't worry about that. You're lawyer has to tell you b/c she just does. BUT - if that changes things I certainly hope you file an appeal to a higher court.

Besides, if your ex is concerned about this now, he should have objected to it like 3 years ago right? Seriously - if this causes you problems (the judge may yell at you about it, just listen and ignore it) it will shock the heck out of me.

[chaoticzenmom]

Originally Posted by StephandOwen

Just talked to my lawyer. She thinks that the biggest hurdle we will have is the fact dp and I are living together but aren't married. This Judge is super high moral standards and that is a big no-no. It is not ordered in our case, but apparently right after we went to court he started adding it in every single case that comes through him that there are to be no overnight guests of the opposite sex that are unrelated when the child is in the home. Even if you are engaged and have been living together for years So.... we'll see what happens. I'm going out of town and won't be back online until tuesday or wednesday of next week. We have court next monday so please think good thoughts for us!

I think that if you let the judge know that you've had every intention of getting married, but your son will lose insurance if you do, he may be more lenient. Your not getting married was in your son's best interests.

[AllyRae]

Originally Posted by StephandOwen

Just talked to my lawyer. She thinks that the biggest hurdle we will have is the fact dp and I are living together but aren't married.

LOL, he knows you had a kid out of wedlock as a teenager though...and he's still given you what you've asked for. He's a good guy and a fair judge, so I think you'll be just fine.

[wytchywoman]

Originally Posted by chaoticzenmom

I think that if you let the judge know that you've had every intention of getting married, but your son will lose insurance if you do, he may be more lenient. Your not getting married was in your son's best interests.

You guys have a very valid reason for delaying a marriage right now. Owen would lose his therapies and health insurance and I have no doubt that insurance companies will consider autism to be a pre-exisiting condition so that would screw him out of almost any other means of insurance.
Anyway..... Good luck in court!!!

[yarngoddess]

I keep thinking about you guys. Know you are in my thoughts and blessings