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post #1 of 42
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So...I'm sure I'm not the only one in this situation! My daughters started hearing about twilight at school...they are 6 and (nearly) 9. Since then, I read the books, and while I admit they are engaging I also find a LOT of the ideas disturbing. But it gives us an opportunity for fruitful discussions as well. We have watched the first two movies...Twilight I previewed and New Moon we actually went on a girls day out with a neighbor and her two girls and the three of us. It was good and not overwhelming for them, or for me as a parent! We've watched all the miyazaki movies which have some violence and they've seen other things as well, and all the Pirate's of the Caribbeans.

Any reviews on eclipse from a parent's perspective? Who's letting their children watch it, and are you previewing it first?
post #2 of 42
My SIL saw Eclipse (I haven't yet) and said it was pretty good but she would not let a kid under 13-14 see it. I don't know if you've read the books but the last one is VERY not kid-friendly. There's no way I would let a kid see a movie made from that book, or maybe even read it. We're pretty open about stuff and they've seen LOTR, Harry Potter, occasionally caught parts of Practical Magic or Fried Green Tomatoes and such with me. But I would not be comfortable with the Twilight series. Especially with Bella totally ignoring her instincts and hanging around people who are dangerous and knowingly putting herself in dangerous and sometimes near-fatal situations. But that's just me.
post #3 of 42
I was appalled at the number of kids age 7 and under at Eclipse. I agree with PPs friend, 13-14 ok depending in the maturity of the teen, but not below that. I really enjoyed the books, the movies have been ok but not fabulous.
post #4 of 42
I would not be comfortable to let a child under 12 watch those movies. I am a huge fan but I really think a lot of the content is very mature, that's why there have such a broad fan base. Seriously, I think these movies are for teenagers or young teens.
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post #5 of 42
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Thanks for the thoughts, that's where I'm leaning but it's a hard one to deal with "peer pressure" and "peer influence" wise. Part of me wants to be able to discuss the problematic aspects of this series (the submission, acceptance of physical abuse as signs of "love", the fatefulness which is inappropriate in such young people, etc.), without having them glamourized through the kids' friends. I've been meaning to talk with the neighbor we went to see the last one with and maybe that would be a good tack...although her kids are 13 and 9 so older than mine, but they've also watched Twilight over there, so I don't want the kids to see something later without me that I was reluctant to see with them, if that makes sense.

This is one of the hardest aspects of parenting for me. I had absolutely no censorship/graduated exposure to movies or books when I was a kid, but also absolutely no guidance about the topics either. Part of me wants to find some sort of middle ground...I won't be able to sheild my kids, but I also don't want to over expose them myself more than society already will. And I certainly want to be available to talk to them about sex and relationships, which we only have the vaguest conversations about now, but I know will get more intense. And I have to overcome my own aversion to talking about any of it! (Yeah, I'd kind of rather just not know, it'd be easier in a certain sense, but less parenting).

The fourth book really disturbed me on a lot of levels and I don't want to expose the kids to it, but at the same time they've already heard the general plot from their schoolmates who have older siblings. And we mostly homeschool, they only have two days of "blended school" with other homeschoolers! I can't imagine how the exposure must be in regular schools!
post #6 of 42
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acceptance of physical abuse as signs of "love"
To what are you referring? The only thing I can think of is when Jacob forces a kiss on Bella, but she punches him for it. Of course that is in the book, in the movie they convienantly leave out the forced part.
post #7 of 42
My kidsa re 8, 9 & 11. I will be taking the 11yo to see it next week. The other 2 aren't really interested, though they have seen the first 2 movies at our house.

We don't censor alot. There are 2 movies we own that I've kept my kids from seeing. The last movie I'll preview to see how they deal with the birth scene
post #8 of 42
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Originally Posted by Arduinna View Post
I was appalled at the number of kids age 7 and under at Eclipse. I agree with PPs friend, 13-14 ok depending in the maturity of the teen, but not below that. I really enjoyed the books, the movies have been ok but not fabulous.
I agree with the above. Honestly I think a lot of Twimoms couldn't get a babysitter so they dragged their kids to the theater. Kids way to young to watch it. It almost ruined the movie for me knowing there were so many kids there seeing things they shouldn't be seeing yet. I'd wait. My kids are almost 9, 6 and 2 and they haven't watched any of the Twilight movies. We've seen Harry Potter and LOTR but I think the stuff in Twilight just isn't appropriate for them.

I'm confused about the physical abuse comment too. I don't know what they refers to.
post #9 of 42
I don't know about the abuse, but I do think the whole pedophilia-like thing in the last book and the many semi-abusive rough sex scenes in the last book are definitly not kid friendly for my kids. I can't imagine them seeing that. I used to love Elvira as a kid, and I don't censor a lot, but that book is insane.
post #10 of 42
Mine haven't seen any of them. My 8 year old begged to watch Twilight a while back and he lasted maybe 10 minutes. I think the idea of vampires scared him more than anything he actually saw in the movies.

He's watched LOTR and Harry Potter and other movies like that. But I think we'll have to wait awhile on Twilight.
post #11 of 42
I don't view the imprinting thing as pedophilia, there is nothing sexual between them and it's clearly explained as not sexual in Eclipse and Breaking Dawn. Although I was still disgusted by it because poor Bella just can't seem to get rid of Jacob and he annoys the crap out of me.
post #12 of 42
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Originally Posted by Arduinna View Post
I don't view the imprinting thing as pedophilia, there is nothing sexual between them and it's clearly explained as not sexual in Eclipse and Breaking Dawn. Although I was still disgusted by it because poor Bella just can't seem to get rid of Jacob and he annoys the crap out of me.
I liked Jacob until that point. Actually, I have a little bro Jacob who looks almost identical to the actor and is totally obsessed with twilight. But to me, it reeks of pedophilia. He's head over heels in love with a newborn as his soul mate? Creepy to me. It gets very eerily close to child grooming.
post #13 of 42
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To explain the physical abuse comment, I was referring to how Bella was bruised and battered in their sexual encounters in the last book. I mean, hey, I bruise easy, but it's not supposed to be that way. I guess I work in a field related to domestic violence (child protection) and I've seen way too many battered women who justify the abuse. I'm sure this comment will be seen as wrong, and it probably demonstrates a bias on my part, but the fact that Stephanie Meyer is Mormon makes it all the more uncomfortable to me. I don't like the silence surrounding abuse and how easy it is for people to minimize physical overpowering as "not abuse" when really it makes a dynamic that is about power and control. Even the whole depression thing when Edward unilaterally decides to erase himself...it reeks of power and control, and her desperation to risk herself in order to feel his presence is just disturbing. It's disturbing that there is an "old fashioned" dynamic at place as well because, frankly, women in the turn of the century didn't even have the right to vote. I don't want to go back there. And I don't want my kids dreaming about a world like that, where they could be swept away by men who always have the power to kill them and can barely keep that power under control. (The fact that Jacob also has that dangerous quality about him is part of the whole problem. Again, it reeks of domestic violence to me.)

I think I'm in a little different boat than all of you, because my kids want to see the movie, are begging to see it actually. So I don't have the "they aren't interested" to fall back on. And I'm not super ecstatic about seeing it myself, I mean, I'm sure I'd enjoy it, but it's not a priority like it is for my girls to see it RIGHT NOW. Kids, lol.

Oh, on the imprinting/pedophilia, I guess it doesn't bother me as much...I'm not sure why. Maybe because it clearly is not sexual, at least how it's portrayed in the book. The fatefulness of it probably worries me more. Having rushed into an unhappy marriage at 21, thinking I was following the path of fate, I really hope others will have the benefit of not thinking of soul mates so much as finding someone they're blissfully happy with.
post #14 of 42
Hm, I may get flamed for this, but my 4 year old loves twilight and has seen the first two movies multiple times. But they aren't appropriate for everyone- she is a rare breed. Nothing phases her. She understands that it is fake, and isn't scared in the least. I will let her watch Eclipse when it comes out. Breaking Dawn? Probably not.
post #15 of 42
It's a vampire, a shapshifting wolf and a human. I don't understand why people are unable to see it for what it is, fantasy fiction. Nothing more, nothing less. There isn't even any actual physical abuse. The forced kiss is borderline. Edward spends 1500 pages turning Bella down sexually because it's not safe only to give in on their wedding night so she can have sex as a human for once. I just don't see any of it as abusive, even if I really insisted on forcing real life on to a fantasy book.

If it's not your thing, no biggie, but I wouldn't even bother to see the movies then.
post #16 of 42
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Originally Posted by Arduinna View Post
It's a vampire, a shapshifting wolf and a human. I don't understand why people are unable to see it for what it is, fantasy fiction. Nothing more, nothing less. There isn't even any actual physical abuse. The forced kiss is borderline. Edward spends 1500 pages turning Bella down sexually because it's not safe only to give in on their wedding night so she can have sex as a human for once. I just don't see any of it as abusive, even if I really insisted on forcing real life on to a fantasy book.

If it's not your thing, no biggie, but I wouldn't even bother to see the movies then.
I've never understood this either. It's a paranormal romance. It's not two humans. Things are different. I don't get it.
post #17 of 42
I forgot to say this before, if due to your personal experiences the whole story is wrong to you then I'd just flat out tell your kids no they can't see it and why. It's not like they can't later see the movies once they are old enough or adults. It's not a once in a lifetime thing. At 6 and 8, I wouldn't even consider taking them though, I'd have said no from the begining.
post #18 of 42
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I've never understood this either. It's a paranormal romance. It's not two humans. Things are different. I don't get it.
For some people who have been in abusive relationships it can hurt reading some of the things in the books. A lot of it wasn't through the books, but at the end. I'm not saying I hate the books, but the last book I really dislike and won't read it again. I love Anne Rice's books, doesn't mean I agree with all of it, or even certain ones in series. Doesn't mean I might not ever let my kids see Interview with A Vampire when they're teens. And sure, it's fiction. Or "paranormal romance". Doesn't mean we have to approve of all of it. We're not burning everyone's books, right?
post #19 of 42
Dd has watched both so far with me and when eclipse comes out on pay per view we will sit and watch it, she is 9y. The only reasons that I didnt take her with me to the movie was because of $ it was my time for myself alone.

They are stories for fun only reading to much into them and comparing them to real life makes no sense to me. The wolves imprint who they imprint on they have no control over but when they do the love they feel is age appropriate. I have read the books twice each now and never got any sense of pedophilia in any way.
post #20 of 42
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Originally Posted by Arduinna View Post
It's a vampire, a shapshifting wolf and a human. I don't understand why people are unable to see it for what it is, fantasy fiction. Nothing more, nothing less. There isn't even any actual physical abuse. The forced kiss is borderline. Edward spends 1500 pages turning Bella down sexually because it's not safe only to give in on their wedding night so she can have sex as a human for once. I just don't see any of it as abusive, even if I really insisted on forcing real life on to a fantasy book.

If it's not your thing, no biggie, but I wouldn't even bother to see the movies then.
exactly!

I will take my 10 yr old. She read the books and we have had great discussions about them. She is very mature for her age and will be fine with it. I previewed the first two movies before letting her watch. But I really think that if it weren't for all the "twi-fans" who are crazy women, most people wouldn't think twice about it. I won't take my younger kids (7 and 4) and they have not seen the other movies or read the book. They have vague interest because of the hype. However, both of them get scared easily and I don't think they would understand what was really going on anyways. It may be entertaining, but I think it would go beyond that to terrifying for them.

I think the books/movies have been overly scrutinized. It is just a story. That is it. Little Mermaid is also Just a story with some similar themes, but again, just a story. If people watch a variety, they will see them as stories. . . pictures from an imagination.

FWIW, my youngest dds have only watched the first HP movie. My oldest watches them after she reads the books. (With exception to the first movie, I have a book first policy).

Amy
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