To explain the physical abuse comment, I was referring to how Bella was bruised and battered in their sexual encounters in the last book. I mean, hey, I bruise easy, but it's not supposed to be that way. I guess I work in a field related to domestic violence (child protection) and I've seen way too many battered women who justify the abuse. I'm sure this comment will be seen as wrong, and it probably demonstrates a bias on my part, but the fact that Stephanie Meyer is Mormon makes it all the more uncomfortable to me. I don't like the silence surrounding abuse and how easy it is for people to minimize physical overpowering as "not abuse" when really it makes a dynamic that is about power and control. Even the whole depression thing when Edward unilaterally decides to erase himself...it reeks of power and control, and her desperation to risk herself in order to feel his presence is just disturbing. It's disturbing that there is an "old fashioned" dynamic at place as well because, frankly, women in the turn of the century didn't even have the right to vote. I don't want to go back there. And I don't want my kids dreaming about a world like that, where they could be swept away by men who always have the power to kill them and can barely keep that power under control. (The fact that Jacob also has that dangerous quality about him is part of the whole problem. Again, it reeks of domestic violence to me.)
I think I'm in a little different boat than all of you, because my kids want to see the movie, are begging to see it actually. So I don't have the "they aren't interested" to fall back on. And I'm not super ecstatic about seeing it myself, I mean, I'm sure I'd enjoy it, but it's not a priority like it is for my girls to see it RIGHT NOW. Kids, lol.
Oh, on the imprinting/pedophilia, I guess it doesn't bother me as much...I'm not sure why. Maybe because it clearly is not sexual, at least how it's portrayed in the book. The fatefulness of it probably worries me more. Having rushed into an unhappy marriage at 21, thinking I was following the path of fate, I really hope others will have the benefit of not thinking of soul mates so much as finding someone they're blissfully happy with.