DD is 3 1/2, she has never met her father, he has been in prison since before she was born, and will be there for at least 5 more years. I send him updates and a pic of her every 6 months, occasionally I get a reply. I would be happy if he disappeared from our lives. She knows his name, that he is her father, and that he lives far away and can't visit us.
I've been dating a wonderful guy for the past 9 months, he is great with her and there is potential for a life together here.
DD has been playing around with calling people other names. She will be 'mommy', I will be 'grandma', uncle will be 'grandpa'. But recently she has begun calling BF 'daddy' when she is doing this. (She doesn't use that pretend title with anyone else)
So what do I do, what do I tell her? BF is not her daddy, and it makes him uncomfortable. If you ask her who her father is, she will say biodad's name. If you ask her who her dad/daddy is, she will say that she doesn't have one. She gets quite upset when I try to tell her that her father and her dad are the same person.
I'm not sure how to have this conversation with her. She obviously views BF as a 'daddy' figure, but he and I would both rather she didn't use that title yet. But I don't want her to think that she is in trouble/bad/wrong for feeling like she has that connection with him.
Has anyone else been in a similar position? How do you handle it?
I've been dating a wonderful guy for the past 9 months, he is great with her and there is potential for a life together here.
DD has been playing around with calling people other names. She will be 'mommy', I will be 'grandma', uncle will be 'grandpa'. But recently she has begun calling BF 'daddy' when she is doing this. (She doesn't use that pretend title with anyone else)
So what do I do, what do I tell her? BF is not her daddy, and it makes him uncomfortable. If you ask her who her father is, she will say biodad's name. If you ask her who her dad/daddy is, she will say that she doesn't have one. She gets quite upset when I try to tell her that her father and her dad are the same person.
I'm not sure how to have this conversation with her. She obviously views BF as a 'daddy' figure, but he and I would both rather she didn't use that title yet. But I don't want her to think that she is in trouble/bad/wrong for feeling like she has that connection with him.
Has anyone else been in a similar position? How do you handle it?
