oh ill have a peek in the other forums, im new, i didnt know if there was any other tribes for us young pups
well welcome mamas! im 21, i got pregnant at 19 and have been single since conception practically. As far as my son's father, he unfortunately fills the stereotype of being a lazy, alcoholic, drug addict, welfare case. I has a serious lack of judgement and felt like I was in love. I knew him for 3 years prior to getting pregnant, was close with his family, close with his friends, went to all family functions with him but he ran away from me and my baby like a dog with its tail between its legs. I tried living with him for 3 months 7 months after my son was born, which was a huge disaster. He never went to work, he never went to school, he barely helped with our son, never cleaned up our apartment, spent our money on alcohol, and number of other things, the things no one wants to hear about.
But thank god Im not the one with the problem! lol I graduated highschool on time with all university level courses, I had two jobs in between graduating and getting pregnant, I lived on my own when I could, payed my rent did my grocery shopping all that. I didnt know what I wanted to do for schooling, so I went to the school of life experience until my decision was clear. Well isnt having your own child the biggest way to make your future clear. I finally decided on teaching ( only a couple of months ago), pay is not to bad, Im home for his dinners, off on weekends and holidays and I feel comfortable working around children, it comes naturally to me. I was originally going to wait till my baby was 2, but after all the bs with his daddy i moved back to my parents house and am working again and applied to college within a week of being back. So i start the 5 year journey soon, and Im so excieted to be able to get my career going, create the best junior grades classroom EVER and provide the best for my baby.
A little rambling, I know. I just wanted to share how I landed in the teen pregnancy/ single mother boat. I wish I chose a better father for my son and a better man to spend my life with, but Im happy to be a single mother because the alternative sucks. I havent really spoken up about this to alot of people, but maybe you mamas are going through something similar? Or youd like to share your story a bit?
As far as me coming involved with all good things organic and natural, I really became familiar with attachment parenting and all that when I first got pregnant. The first book I got after the positive test was a water birth book. I completely love this way of life, it fits in with exactly what I feel people need and love. My baby is thriving with our lifestyle and I am too.