Single Teen and Young Mama's Thread - Page 2

[canadianhippie]

Originally Posted by anielasmommy09

we dont really have an arrangement i just let him see her unlimited. he temporarily moved back in b/c im going through ome PPD which i did not know could hit anytime in the first year....shes 9 m/o now. we were together for 7years before we broke up and were living together since we were 16 so we aren't so malicious to eachother. it can be rough at times though. he gives me $400 a month for support.

you are sooooo lucky you can live with your parents and go to school! definately do it.

7 years wow, that sounds not to bad, i hope its working for you, the child support sounds great too.

SamiPolizzi, I know people thats happened to, where it was just a short little relationship but a baby came out of it, sorry he never stepped up to the plate but your right about being better off without him if hes not 100%.


welcome to the group madeofstardust, we're all going through the same thing so your not completely alone on this, were your little online mom group. Were you with the daddy the whole 2 years?

hey anielasmommy09, you should come on over to the Summer Cannabis Mamas and Mj Lovers in the finding your tribe forum, lots of like minded mamas, I reserve mj talk for in there.

[madeofstardust]

I have been with the father for about 3.5 years, up until a couple of days ago.
It's such a huge, relieving feeling that it's FINALLY over!

[sosurreal09]

omg im soooooooooo stupid i slept with the ex last night......wtf am i doing ahhhhhhhh

[canadianhippie]

madeofstardust, well its seems you have the right attitude, its good to hear your in a better place

lol anielasmommy09 dont sweat it, did u have a good time?

[SamiPolizzi]

Originally Posted by anielasmommy09

omg im soooooooooo stupid i slept with the ex last night......wtf am i doing ahhhhhhhh

Eh. It happens. I don't know about you, but I find that when there is no sex in my life, I am generally more stressed out.

I wish some of you lived close to me. I have yet to meet anyone who A) is close to my age B) is single and C) shares my parenting philosophy. And usually C ends up being the most important. Most of the moms I've met who I get along with well are married and twice my age. Which is fine, but it would be awesome to have some mama friends who I have more in common with.

canadianhippie, I'm pretty sure we would be BFFs if you lived next door to me!

[sosurreal09]

it was pretty good haha hes such an emotional guy though of course it turned into oh i love you and im like aha thanks you can go now lol im such a guy.

my bff is in the same boat as me but we dont have the same parenting style shes a formula feeder and is very much a "typical American mom"
shes embarrassed when i wear DD in the wrap and BF in public, im also nuts that i BF past 6 wks old and that im going to BF until DD weans herself...
and im nuts i had a drug free birth and on and on and on

honestly i didnt think there were any moms like me my age...

[dealic]

Originally Posted by abimommy

We make exceptions for young parents

Oh good! I was lurking and read that and was upset this place was closed to young parents! Glad to know it isn't!

[canadianhippie]

SamiPolizzi, i get stressed without sex too lol. I would love to be able to be with moms my age and are natural mothers. Your right, I either am with older moms who go home to their husbands and have their house and all that established, or Ill meet teens moms who really, really are the type that give a terrible name to other young moms. Smoking while pregnant with their 2nd or 3rd child before 18, cursing, on welfare, highschool dropouts, ugh. Cant relate to them at all, i always feel stuck. When I am on that rare occasion able to go out without my baby, Ill be with ppl my age without children and I still dont relate to them. Canada kicks a** if your up for a move,neighbor lol

anielasmommy09 thats funny, your ex with the i love yous, id feel the same way if i was in that situation "ohh,thats nice....well, its been fun...see ya later" I find it hard in my area to meet any other hippie moms, they breastfeed and babywear for the most part, but Im definitely the only nonvaxer and noncirc mum. I think there is one other mom who trys to follow attachment parenting. I feel like were in a very small niche mothering catergory, were single, were young and were natural parents. Hard to come by!

[sosurreal09]

seriously hard to come by! i KWYM about the welfare smokers and all that. most of the other moms my age go out clubbing and partying and im like hello i have a baby i cant go anywhere! its been real rough not having anyone to help me ever except her dad...
all i really have is my sis and shes has alot of mental issues i just would not feel comfortable having her watch DD. im screwed with trying to find a job though i can not afford daycare and im on some waiting list for reduced but its going to take 1 yr + they said if its even still offered b/c they are trying to do away with the program! so im thinking of doing my own at home one but hello stress....ahhhh its so hard im losing it!

[canadianhippie]

ugh i know subsidized daycare can take a long time. Well, when i was living with my baby's father and ends werent meeting, I posted a nanny ad on kijiji and had 3 calls in a weeks for a position. I did have experience as one, but I also put on the ad that I have a baby who will be accompanying me. What about that? Going to nanny with your babe at someone's house? Or even private home childcare? Throw an ad up on craigslist or kijiji w/e you prefer and see what happens. It can seem like a stressful situation to dive into, but Im sure once you get your first paycheck it will feel worth while.

Do you go to baby groups and things? In Canada theres places called Early Years centres and its a government funded place for children birth-6 years and they have all free activities, I go almost everyday. Is there anything like that near you? It is helpful to talk to other moms, I find in general, they treat me as a equal, not a young immature mom. You could work out babysitting-swaps if you meet other moms you feel comfortable with, you take their babies one time, they take yours the next, that way you get free childcare. Sounds like you need a better support system, Im lucky enough to have my own family (3 brothers, 2 SIL's and my parents) to help. I dont get shiot from my son's family, not the dad, grandma or granddaddy, aunts or uncles. I moved back up where I am 2 months ago and I still cant find "friends" to chill with, its a rural area and I dont have a car so I dont get to meet alot of people. I go out alot on my own with my baby, lots and lots of walks. Keeps my mind off my son's father, because I find its a constant, constant battle to keep him out of my head. Whether I have feelings that I miss him so much and want to talk to him or I think about how hard Im going to punch him in the face and how angry I am at him, I have to keep busy or I go crazy thinking about it.

[sosurreal09]

i wish we had that!!! you can like pay to join a mommy group but its not at like a center...

[canadianhippie]

I cant believe there is no free activites, you shouldnt have to pay. Do you all watch teen mom on mtv? New season starting on tuesday, Im so excited lol.

[sosurreal09]

i did watch the first season but i started getting so pissed at the moms. im like shes a bad mom omg!! i get very emotional when kids are involved period.
i forget her name but the preppy single mom who lived at home omg she was a horrible mom IMO let me leave my kid every 5 mins b/c i want to go live my life. oh really she is your life now...i see so many young moms doing this crap. my x "SIL" did this to her baby all the time and guess what she lost custody of him and he now lives with his dad full time. she gets him on the weekends and half the time she says shes busy and doesnt take him. im like WTF?
im crazy i know...i shouldn't judge people but its so ahrd not too im only human lol

[canadianhippie]

omg I cant believe that happened to your SIL. I agree the prep mom left her baby SO much. There was another one like that on 16 and pregnant, she gave birth, then went back to highschool and was always going out leaving her baby with her mom. I think amber is soooo rude to gary, her baby's father, he tries to take care of them both but she always is yelling and complaining. I know her feeling of always wanting to punch or slap him though lol, she has a number of times. I think for the most part, it accurately describes how it is when you have a baby young. I think my story would be on the R-rated edition of teen mom lol

[SamiPolizzi]

Originally Posted by anielasmommy09

i did watch the first season but i started getting so pissed at the moms. im like shes a bad mom omg!! i get very emotional when kids are involved period.
i forget her name but the preppy single mom who lived at home omg she was a horrible mom IMO let me leave my kid every 5 mins b/c i want to go live my life. oh really she is your life now...i see so many young moms doing this crap. my x "SIL" did this to her baby all the time and guess what she lost custody of him and he now lives with his dad full time. she gets him on the weekends and half the time she says shes busy and doesnt take him. im like WTF?
im crazy i know...i shouldn't judge people but its so ahrd not too im only human lol

I haven't watched it ever because I know this is exactly how I'll feel about it. I get really judgmental, and it's not a quality I like in myself. I'm trying not to be that way so much, and I'm sure that watching a show called "teen moms" is not going to help.
A friend of mine has another friend who is the same age as me and has a son who's about a month younger than mine. She decided to introduce us because neither of us really had any friends with babies. So one day she brought her and her son over to hang out. We really had nothing in common other than being moms and we were VERY different moms. We never hung out again after that. Then about a month later my friend called asking if I could babysit her friends son for a few hours because she had to work and he was with her while her friend was off on some trip with her boyfriend getting drunk every night (something she apparently did frequently starting when her DS was only a few weeks old.) So she brought him over (I think he was about 4 months old at the time) and the poor baby smelled so bad. I ended up giving him a bath, cleaning his ears, trimming his nails, and finding some old clothes of DS's to put him in. I had to have a friend come over and help me because I couldn't nurse my DS and feed the other baby a bottle at the same time. Well maybe I could have if I had gotten creative. I also had never used formula before so I didn't really know what I was doing. I was half tempted to just nurse them both at the same time, but I didn't. I haven't seen him since then. That was almost a year ago. Last I heard he was "doing good" whatever that means.

[sosurreal09]

Amber is horrible! the only ones i actually liked were macy but not her b/f and the couple that gave their baby up.

Sami that is so sad! poor baby. i get so upset about these things i was abused and neglected as a child and i CAN NOT STAND anything of the sort. i actually got in a huge fight with SIL at the time. she slapped her baby across the face (2y/o) b/c he wouldnt leave her alone...she had literally been on the comp 13hrs straight and i had taken care of him the whole day 7 months pregnant and i had enough i told her he just wanted to spend time with her and she needed to get off the computer. (btw i got there at 2pm he was in his pj's and hadnt eaten yet) we got in a fight and she told me she hoped my baby f***in dies a horrible death and im in a ton of pain (aka stillbirth) then i didnt talk to her until DD was 3 m/o but i regret ever talking to her idk why i do these things to myself. now shes like i have no where to live and thinks shes going to come stay with me. i really hope i have enough strength to not let her. i have trouble telling people in bad situations no. i was homeless before i know what its like and i woldnt want to see anyone go throught that...but i need to look out for me and DD now period i cant support her aZZ

i feel you with the formula my friend asked me to mke her DD a bottle and i was like huh? my DD never had a drop how do i know how to do that lol

[SamiPolizzi]

Let's revive this thread!

How is everyone doing? What's new?