~*~*WEEKLY CHIT CHAT*~*~ July 4th - July 10th - Page 2

[momma-molly]

So.... u/s yesterday was super confusing. We immediately found the babe with a nice heart beat (woo hoo!) and then she found a 2nd babe (talk about a shock!) measuring a couple days smaller than the 1st w/o a heartbeat. So, baby 1 was at 7+4 and baby 2 was at 7+1, which she said wasn't totally uncommon with twins.

I know it's probably pretty unlikely that the 2nd twin is actually viable after not seeing a hb, but it's going to KILL me to wait 2 weeks until my next u/s. We were planning on telling all our family about the pregnancy this weekend, but now with this unknown hanging out there, I want to wait until we know for sure.

Twins totally explains why I'm SO much sicker (is that a word?) this time than I was with DD.

I'm anxious. And sad. And happy that I got to see one heartbeat. *sigh*

Now I'm going to actively try to occupy my mind and just try to relax. What will be will be.

Since we're talking names....

Random confession: Sometimes I visit the babycenter name board just so I can chuckle at the crazy names. Best one today: A combination of her father and his father's name. The best part? The mother notes that they got the idea from "Twilight".

[lyterae]

I'm home with DD today as she woke up with a tummy bug early this morning, so both of us are home throwing up today.. What fun. At least I get to sleep I guess.

My house is a disaster and my in-laws are coming (they are full-time missionaries in Guatemala) on Sunday, I'm not ready to have company at this point in time.

[Mrs.Music]

Originally Posted by momma-molly

Random confession: Sometimes I visit the babycenter name board just so I can chuckle at the crazy names. Best one today: A combination of her father and his father's name. The best part? The mother notes that they got the idea from "Twilight".

They have a maternity shirt that says Renesme on cafepress. I about died. I remember when I read that book I was so upset at the name beacause I knew teenage moms everywhere were going to inflict that name upon their innocent babies.

[nintendork]

Originally Posted by lyterae

I'm home with DD today as she woke up with a tummy bug early this morning, so both of us are home throwing up today.. What fun. At least I get to sleep I guess.

My house is a disaster and my in-laws are coming (they are full-time missionaries in Guatemala) on Sunday, I'm not ready to have company at this point in time.

I had a horrible dream last night that my God Daughter was staying at our house and had a stomach bug and threw up on everything I owned, including my computer, my pillow and my dogs. Hope your day is going better than my dream

Originally Posted by Mrs.Music

They have a maternity shirt that says Renesme on cafepress. I about died. I remember when I read that book I was so upset at the name beacause I knew teenage moms everywhere were going to inflict that name upon their innocent babies.

Oh lord I hadn't thought of that but I bet you are right.

[momma-molly]

Originally Posted by Mrs.Music

They have a maternity shirt that says Renesme on cafepress. I about died. I remember when I read that book I was so upset at the name beacause I knew teenage moms everywhere were going to inflict that name upon their innocent babies.

Oh, I TOTALLY thought of that. From the moment they named that child, the book turned to crap. Just saying.

Yuck! Sorry about the stomach bug - that's the worst. At least you have company?

[finnegansmom]

Molly - and that must be stressful. I hate waiting. Hate it. I get so stressed out.

Also, I have no idea about anything twilight related. I think I'm too old.

Is anyone resting a doppler? I wish I could rent one locally for a few weeks...I'm starting to freak out, I need reassurance.

[Mrs.Music]

Originally Posted by finnegansmom

Also, I have no idea about anything twilight related. I think I'm too old.

Is anyone resting a doppler? I wish I could rent one locally for a few weeks...I'm starting to freak out, I need reassurance.

Ugh, I'm too old for twilight but it didn't stop my older friends from making me read it. It wasn't bad. I would have liked it better if I wasn't reading Anne Rice at 12, kwim?

I thought about renting one, but they are pricey. You can get a fetoscope for only $16 and they work at around 16 weeks I think? I'll have to see if I can find the link... DH says it'll just make me worry if I suck at finding the heartbeat though, so he doesn't recommend getting one.

[echospiritwarrior]

well hi again everyone. I haven't been chatty, but as I am up in the middle of the night I thought I'd pop in.

Isn't pregnancy amnesia funny? Knock on wood I've never had morning sickness BUT oh my goodness does my immune system crash when pregnant, so I'm sick with my first (of many no doubt) pregnancy bugs. So I'm up sniffling, sneezing and sipping on a hot cup of peppermint tea to try to open up my sinuses to be able to breath enough to go back to sleep.

Molly I'm so sorry about that u/s sometimes I feel pretty happy to leave things be until much later. Apparently vanishing twin is much more common than previously realized (I guess partly due to improved technology). I couldn't help but feel sad even if I was blessed with a perfectly healthy happy baby still left in utero you know.

So sorry about the sickies lyterae hope they pass for you both quickly!

Michelle, I'll join you on the clueless on Twilight club

Bri, I'm with your hubby. It would be fun to have a fetoscope, but I'm just too obsessive. I don't know though, for $16 I might strongly consider one!

Well I'm down to the end of my tea, so I hope I can fall asleep quickly since I have to leave the house in a mere four hours for work tomorrow.

[Mrs.Music]

I hope you feel better soon. I think there should be some magic rule that mothers can't get sick. Ever. With anything. But bosses can't know about it.... Otherwise all those working mothers would lose the sick days they use for kid things and extra vacation.

[ombrooklyn]

i am so not good at the weekly chit chat but i have to pop in once in a while.

Does anyone else still not feel confident in their pregnancy? I haven't felt like this is a healthy pregnancy from the get go and I don't know why. just can't shake the feeling.

We went to a party last night because my DH was being honored and I told his friend who was drunk and rambling, "finish your story or i'm going to puke on you" and he said "why? are you drunk?" of course I said "no, i'm pregnant!" I couldn't help it, it slipped!
He asks how far and I say 2 months (just easier the dealing with the week thing sometimes) and he says "well, that's not a sure thing"!

Comments like that make me feel even more disheartened about this pregnancy. I laughed it off but obviously it bothered me if I'm taking the time to type it out! LOL.

So what are you doing to keep yourself calm in this time before first appts and u/s's?
I just feel like there's nothing going on down there. I'm somewhat sick but that is no comfort to me because I was very sick after having my m/c and had no spotting or anything. It was gone for months before I even knew and had to have a d&c.
Got any reassurance?
With my son i used the mantra "if my belly is growing the baby is growing" but it feels to early for that (7 wk 1 d).

[thankful85]

I'm right there with you.
I think most of my insecurity is because we don't have insurance this time around so I am not seeing an OB. With my other pregnancies I could call in anytime and come in for a heartbeat check...anything to put my mind at ease. This time I don't have that. I'll be seeing a homebirth midwife but not until 12w. I'm 8w4d now so it's still quite a wait!

I keep waiting for my belly to start doing SOMETHING so I can know the baby is growing nicely...but so far my belly is no different.

I had a u/s last week and saw the little bean and heartbeat. I thought I would feel so much better afterwards but I guess not!

[ombrooklyn]

thankful, it's the same here. my insurance will not kick in til Aug!

[momma-molly]

Originally Posted by ombrooklyn

We went to a party last night because my DH was being honored and I told his friend who was drunk and rambling, "finish your story or i'm going to puke on you" and he said "why? are you drunk?" of course I said "no, i'm pregnant!" I couldn't help it, it slipped!
He asks how far and I say 2 months (just easier the dealing with the week thing sometimes) and he says "well, that's not a sure thing"!

What a totally awful thing to say!! s It never ceases to amaze me how rude and inconsiderate people can be.

I'm sure everything is fine. I think it's pretty natural to worry - even if you have had an u/s. I'm just trying to keep busy and not dwell on the negative. I picked up some non-birth related novels to get into and I'm going to do some sewing this week. Before you know it, we'll all be in the 2nd trimester feeling these babies somersault in our tummies! Can't wait!

Vera - Feel better! Peppermint tea sounds yummy!! I'm loving lemon right now. Oh, and now I'm totally pro waiting on u/s - I'll never have another early one. Now I'm just on track to more just to ease my mind. On one hand, I'm happy to at least be able to acknowledge the baby that never will be, but the selfish part of me just wishes I never knew. Ignorance is bliss.

Family reunion tomorrow, so people are trickling in. I have 7 sisters, 4 still at home and 3 married, plus my aunts and uncles and their kids. Should be fun!!

Speaking of which, I called to get the date for my follow-up u/s yesterday and now I'm SO confused. So, at the u/s on Wed. the tech told me the babe with the hb measured 7+4 and the babe without measured 7+1. My dr. told me that the tech told *her* the babe with measured 7+1 and the babe without measured 6+2!! What? I questioned it because I *know* what she told me. Heck, I watched her measure them! The dr. said that she probably went back and re-measured after I left? Can they even do that? The whole thing is bizarre to me. So of course it just makes me more anxious to know for sure if it's going to be 1 or 2. I'm geared up for 1, so I'm not disappointed, but I need to know 100%, ya know? It's scheduled for 7/19, so 10 more days.

[hollytheteacher]

whoever said that to you "that's not a sure thing" is a UAV and i would have punched him in the face! ugh.

You are pregnant no matter what! I was feeling so much like that (not realllly feeling pregnant just sick and crabby and periodless), but then yesterday I had my U/S and i'm walking on clouds! It was sooooo relieving and great and the baby was ADORABLE. It was literally dancing around in there.

Seriously, i'm still mad that that person said that to you. Even if something happend and you (general you not you-you) lose your baby along the way, you were still pregnant and it was still your baby! kwim? What a jerk! Wait, can I say jerk? I mean...UAV!

[finnegansmom]

I agree with the pp's about "sure thing" statement - horrible thing to say.

ps...what does UAV stand for?

(Thanks! LOL...I couldn't figure it out!)

[Mrs-Mama]

Originally Posted by finnegansmom

ps...what does UAV stand for?

UAV = User Agreement Violation; we agree to no name-calling, so calling someone a UAV is the way around it

[ombrooklyn]

ah, thanks girls!!

DH just said that the guy was a little on the drunk side and his comment was completely insensitive and had his wife been there she probably would have slapped him

And good to know what a UAV is!

[Tresa]

Originally Posted by ombrooklyn

i am so not good at the weekly chit chat but i have to pop in once in a while.

Does anyone else still not feel confident in their pregnancy? I haven't felt like this is a healthy pregnancy from the get go and I don't know why. just can't shake the feeling.

We went to a party last night because my DH was being honored and I told his friend who was drunk and rambling, "finish your story or i'm going to puke on you" and he said "why? are you drunk?" of course I said "no, i'm pregnant!" I couldn't help it, it slipped!
He asks how far and I say 2 months (just easier the dealing with the week thing sometimes) and he says "well, that's not a sure thing"!

Comments like that make me feel even more disheartened about this pregnancy. I laughed it off but obviously it bothered me if I'm taking the time to type it out! LOL.

So what are you doing to keep yourself calm in this time before first appts and u/s's?
I just feel like there's nothing going on down there. I'm somewhat sick but that is no comfort to me because I was very sick after having my m/c and had no spotting or anything. It was gone for months before I even knew and had to have a d&c.
Got any reassurance?
With my son i used the mantra "if my belly is growing the baby is growing" but it feels to early for that (7 wk 1 d).

I worry about this too, but I tell myself that there's nothing I can do about it either way, that this is where I'm supposed to be right now, believing I'm pregnant, feeling (a little bit) like I'm pregnant. It's a big lesson in surrender for me, and I suck at it.

I have another week to wait before I go in to hopefully hear a hb via doppler at my first prenatal appointment, and it seems like forever away. I WILL feel more settled about it once I have confirmation that my uterus is growing and there is someone in there, alive. I find myself trying not to get too attached to the idea of another person joining our family quite yet...but at the same time I've had this sense of peace about this baby coming since I had a feeling a during the cycle I got pregnant that the beginning of the end of an era was coming (life with just my two kids). Idk. And I hate the wait, but I can't do anything about it. There's nothing we can do when the babies are on the inside but hope and wait. I prefer to put my energy toward being centered and staying more positive than negative, . if the loss is coming, it's coming whether I enjoy this time right now or not. ANd what a shame, if things end up working out, that I didn't enjoy this time right now, that I wasted so much energy worrying, yk?

I scold and shame and bully myself out of negative thought patterns and worrying, basically.

[echospiritwarrior]

uuuugh om, I am not sure what would fly out of my mouth if someone said that to me!

molly- have fun with your reunion, sounds like a grand old time. sorry about that discrepancy in dates at least with your family reunion some of that time will just fly on by!

I hear ya Tresa, I'm waiting for my appointment on Tuesday to hopefully hear a heartbeat on doppler. I'm not expecting that we will but really praying (I'll only be 8 weeks so it may be just a tad too early) and then I'll feel a lot better about coming out. I think I'm going to go ahead and post something on FB anyway soon, just trying to decide how to do it.

I'm about to try a little salt water irrigation for the first time to help my sinuses and then a spicy bowl of chicken broth before I have to go to my other job tonight. My day gig today was nasty, glad that's over with!

[ombrooklyn]

Originally Posted by Tresa

I worry about this too, but I tell myself that there's nothing I can do about it either way, that this is where I'm supposed to be right now, believing I'm pregnant, feeling (a little bit) like I'm pregnant. It's a big lesson in surrender for me, and I suck at it.

I have another week to wait before I go in to hopefully hear a hb via doppler at my first prenatal appointment, and it seems like forever away. I WILL feel more settled about it once I have confirmation that my uterus is growing and there is someone in there, alive. I find myself trying not to get too attached to the idea of another person joining our family quite yet...but at the same time I've had this sense of peace about this baby coming since I had a feeling a during the cycle I got pregnant that the beginning of the end of an era was coming (life with just my two kids). Idk. And I hate the wait, but I can't do anything about it. There's nothing we can do when the babies are on the inside but hope and wait. I prefer to put my energy toward being centered and staying more positive than negative, . if the loss is coming, it's coming whether I enjoy this time right now or not. ANd what a shame, if things end up working out, that I didn't enjoy this time right now, that I wasted so much energy worrying, yk?

I scold and shame and bully myself out of negative thought patterns and worrying, basically.

Actually great advice, thank you!
After reading this I went and did a 10 min meditation while DS napped and it really helped calm me.