The July "Whatever" Thread - Page 3

[Neuromancer]

Originally Posted by jeninejessica

Do we have anyone in the group right now that is post o? I've lost track. I think most of us are still in the early stages of cycles or waiting to o. We could have a very busy thread towards the end of the month again.

Since I'm only charting AF and DTD, I don't know when/if I O. According to my very, very basic chart, I should O tomorrow, and then I should/could see AF in two weeks...

[jeninejessica]

Well that's kind of exciting then! You'll be beating the pack of the rest of us. lol I think I'm on CD4? I keep telling myself I'm only going to chart when I start getting EW, until I have a temp shift, just because I want to be able to say ok- THAT was the one that did it (ok I know I'm crazy....) I usually only get a few days of EW, so that's probably a week tops. But we'll see what happens once my cycle really starts. The OCD may kick in.

[lilcrunchymama]

I am about to O. Should be any day now....I've been waiting patiently and yet I am still having EWCM every day and my temp is still down. I'm on CD 19 right now. Geesh! Who knows if I will O tho. My stress level at work is through the roof. So, this could be a LONG cycle.

[MommatoAandA]

I might belong here.. LOL We are really throwing around the idea of whatevering, soon. I have to wait to see if I get into nursing school this fall, which would start January. Life is really getting in the way of my plans here for another baby. We are currently using the pill, but I was just using it to get my period to resume so I could start charting for some informational purposes to know if I was even ovulating (I was on depo for about five months). I had my period before that.

A little about me:

I'm Torre, 26, I have an 11 month old DD and a 3 year old DD. DP is 31. We live in MA.

So I am waiting out AF at this point. kinda neurotic about her not coming. I wish I could THINK I might be PG. But its pretty impossible.

[MarineWife]

It is soooooooo boring waiting for when there's no chance that I'm pg.

[Baby_Cakes]

It's also very boring waiting to O when you just want to get pg!!

[mommyin2008]

I agree that both waiting to ovulate AND waiting for AF suck when you know there is a really slim chance of pg.

I barely even chart anymore for that reason. I take a few temps here and there before ovulation when I can...[working night shift makes it difficult] and try to make sure to get the 3 temps after I know I ovulated to confirm. but I get pretty obvious EWCM now in the days leading up to O that I just know its coming. I havent even been using OPKS the last few cycles. Mainly cause we've been busy but also cause I can pinpoint O much easier now than in the past.

Not much going my way. Just cleaned house today. One more day off tomorrow, then back to work friday night and sat. night...weekend shifts sucks...yuck!

have a good one everyone!

[lilcrunchymama]

Originally Posted by mommyin2008

I agree that both waiting to ovulate AND waiting for AF suck when you know there is a really slim chance of pg.

I fully agree with this, too. I am sick of waiting to O!!! But, I am hopeful it's today! I have been having some mild cramping and if this isn't the peak of my EWCM then I don't know what is, because I feel like I have wet my pants on more than one occasion today.

MW - What's the countdown to DH returning home?

[lilcrunchymama]

Here is my chart if anyone would like a laugh at how long it's taking me to O. LOL

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by mommyin2008

I barely even chart anymore for that reason. I take a few temps here and there before ovulation when I can...[working night shift makes it difficult] and try to make sure to get the 3 temps after I know I ovulated to confirm. but I get pretty obvious EWCM now in the days leading up to O that I just know its coming. I havent even been using OPKS the last few cycles. Mainly cause we've been busy but also cause I can pinpoint O much easier now than in the past.

My cycles have been so long and unpredictable in the past that, if I don't chart, I have no idea what's going on so I need to chart.

Christie ~ 3 days not counting today! And, haha. That's not even close to being long yet. CD20 is when I've Oed the last 2 cycles and that's about a week earlier than my average O had been before.

[Mummoth]

We're taking a break from whatevering... SO is disappointed, but I've been having a rough time. My ex was abusive, and things got a lot worse after we had kids. It feels like getting pregnant is walking into a trap, and SO is going to turn into a monster when it happens. I know it's totally irrational, but I keep getting triggered by stupid little things.

SO is temporarily unemployed because he drives school bus... he's got an interview later this month with a computer company he worked for in another city and they're opening a location here. He's been in contact with the manager and it sounds like his chances are great. It would double his annual income and he'd have benefits, so even though he's confident it's still stressful because it would suck so bad if for some reason he doesn't get the job.

Just having him here every day instead of going to work, and having the kids home... ugh, I love them all but I haven't adapted to the change in routine yet! I think once he's out of my hair I'll be able to work through the anxiety. FF still thinks I've ovulated and I'm starting to feel like AF might be on it's way, so maybe it's all just PMS... I don't know...

[Baby_Cakes]

Teresa. That sounds tough. I hope things start feeling more stable soon both emotionally and financially. Sorry, mama.

AFM - b/c I'm bored sitting around waiting to O, I'm wondering if I should get some OPKs this month. Is that too TTC and not enough Whatever? I'm not convinced it's smart to do it, but I'm not convinced it's stupid, either. WWYD?

[lyterae]

Originally Posted by lilcrunchymama

Here is my chart if anyone would like a laugh at how long it's taking me to O. LOL

My last cycle I O'd on CD39

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes

AFM - b/c I'm bored sitting around waiting to O, I'm wondering if I should get some OPKs this month. Is that too TTC and not enough Whatever? I'm not convinced it's smart to do it, but I'm not convinced it's stupid, either. WWYD?

I couldn't use opks and whatever. Once I got a +, it would be very hard for me to not push my dh to dtd. YMMV.

Theresa ~ That sounds like a difficult situation for you. I hope you can find peace soon. I know I become less inclined to want another baby during my lp. It's very interesting how my hormones affect my moods and my thinking. When I'm fertile, all I want to do is get pg and moon over everything baby. After O, I start thinking I must be crazy to want another baby. There's no way I could handle it.

[jeninejessica]

I'm a no go on OPK's, but I might change my mind if my cycles were more weird. As it is, my CF seems to be fairly reliable I think, if I choose to "use it". I don't want the extra stress of one more step, until later down the line if we end up not getting pregnant right away.

[~Katie~]

I found the new thread

I'm not exactly sure what the call what we're doing right now but "whatever" sounds about right. I really don't want to stress or obsess about TTC so we're basically just saying whatever happens, happens. We didn't originally intend to have another baby so soon but after finding out what the next few years look like for us, the timing is optimal. I'm still wavering at the idea of having three during the next deployment, so that is a big part of why we're whatever-ing. My first cycle since he returned home we were preventing but I'm pretty sure I got pregnant anyway and had a chemical after three faint positives. Cycle #2 we were actively trying and I got a faint positive at 11DPO and then nothing and AF started on time. So that is my recap I suppose.

Currently 5DPO and having some AF-like signs today. Here's my chart for those who like to stalk.

[~Katie~]

How exciting that your DH will be home soon, MW!

OPK's - I said I wouldn't use them this cycle but I ended up taking one an CD17 and catching it, I ended up getting a negative a few hours later. I don't think it made too much of a difference at that point.

[Mummoth]

Thanks guys! It's not so much an immediate financial disaster concern... worst case scenario he collects employment insurance for 2 months and goes back to bus driving in September. SO loved the computer job, but had to move here for other reasons. He was 35 and had sort of given upon ever having a family, so we're like his dream come true (and he's mine.. he's a great partner to me and an awesome dad) The only thing missing for him now is the career... there's just this... anticipatory tension/excitement. I tend to be anxious anyway, and having that kind of air in the house makes me downright neurotic. Whoa... I just figured that out as I typed it! I think feeling like that is what is triggering me.

I think OPK's are more of a TTC thing... it would be really hard to whatever when you know NOW is time to DTD! Although, if it would help lower your stress level then it might be a good idea.

[Amanda Williams]

Hello ladies,

I am still waiting for my first PP AF. DS will be one on August 7th and I am thinking my period should be arriving shortly.

We got pregnant with him by catching the first egg when my DD was 12 months old. We are using W/D at this point. Hubby is okay with more babies, but "wants to wait". I still have 8 pounds of baby weight to lose and then I will feel completely okay with "whatevering".

I enjoy reading this thread and will chart after I start my cycle again.

[Baby_Cakes]

I've been thinking about it and I've decided OPKs would definitely be more TTC and not Whatever. It doesn't match w/my mindset. In fact, I'm getting more and more nervous about being pg again that I think if I got a positive OPK I might be too scared to DTD. I just want to see what happens.

Is anyone else nervous?? I know we chatted a bit about birth stories awhile back, and I think I'm still afraid of labor and birth. I'm nervous about the ms. I'm nervous about not getting sleep again. I know I'm overthinking everything -- these same issues would be there if we waited, and I know I want my 2.5/3 year age gap more than I want to wait, but it still scares the pants off me.

I just have a lot of fears to conquer! I want to be a good, strong mama and a confident wife who makes DH proud. It's a high standard I've set for myself!

MW - 2 days not counting today, right??