Originally Posted by Amanda L
thyra - She did request supervised on the order to show cause. My husband spoke with her on the phone and asked straight out "why are you wanting supervised" and she claimed it was only because of the diabetes. He has since done everything she said she needed to feel comfortable with his competency.
The law guardian has spoken to his doctors (who encouraged visitation because the skills are learned "hands-on") and has spoken to us and came to our home and found no issues. I know her lawyer has been informed of all of this, so she should know as well.
She didn't get back to my husband with a time he could see Cameron yesterday, but legally she doesn't have to. I just hope he is doing okay on his new treatment plan.
I know, it sucks. BUT - if she still wants supervised visitation she has to insist on it until the judge orders her otherwise. It SUCKS - and its NOT fair or right. But, thats they way it goes. Make every effort to get along with her right now (I know its hard, do it anyway!). And, DOCUMENT, document, document, document, document. Having a list of the times she said you could see your dss (in her presence or the presence of another, or without supervision), anytime that you saw your dss, anytime she didn't call you back about making plans, every.single.conversation. needs to have a record. This will help you build a case against her if you need it.
Did the Dr. put his encouragement for visitation in writing? If not, you might want to ask for it. Tell him briefly, without emotion, whats going on and see if he would be willing to put it in writing for you. He might not - and thats ok, but you can ask (as long as you can keep the emotion out of it, and be understanding of how nervous the mom is) You also might suggest that he talk to the mother about it, he might be able to put some of her fears to rest.
I know its not fair, but try to think on her side for just a second. Diabetes in a 2yo is SCARY - its a serious condition that needs constant monitoring and its SCARY! My son was in the hospital last week for something very mild compared to that, and I was STILL afraid to let him go to his dad's for a week! She's a mom, she's scared, and even if you have done everything you think she needs to see for her to feel comfortable, she's not going to feel comfortable for a long time.
As always, good luck!