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post #21 of 120
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Originally Posted by staceychev View Post
Ah yes, I went to grad school so that I could up my bathroom quotient.
Now I feel ripped off! I went to grad school and I only have one crummy bathroom. I knew choosing a state school was less prestigious, but I didn't know the consequences would be so dire

OP, I agree with the others—that guy was plain rude either way.
post #22 of 120
Count me in the bunch who doesn't understand if 1.5 bathrooms is too few or a luxury for this guy.

As for college....a large number of the graduates this year in my state will be working the same crappy job they had before graduation. I'm currently working as a waitress, and work with a large number of people with Bachelor's degrees and a few who have completed grad school. College doesn't guarantee anything, and even a prestigious job might not pay as well as something blue collar.
post #23 of 120
I'd never teach my kids that any job was beneath them. I feel that busting your ass at any job is admirable.

My DH never went to college and makes great money. We choose smaller houses so we can put more money in the bank. What a strange thing to say!
post #24 of 120
I thought he meant "you have to learn your fractions".

I was totally confused, obviously!
post #25 of 120
Im in the crowd of automatically assuming they live in a house with only 1 bathroom. Its how I grew up... every home I have been in except while my step dad was in the Navy was a 1 bathroom house... I now have a home with 2 full baths and feel like I am living in the lap of luxury!

Where I am from having more than 1 bath is a huge luxury.
post #26 of 120
Hi, I thought op you were upset because he was pushing his daughter about not studying; and that

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Originally Posted by petey44 View Post
I don't know- I interpreted it as, "this is a real life example of why you need to learn your decimals. do you understand what she means when she says 1.5 baths? if you had been doing your math homework, you would!"
the above quote was more in line with what I thought he was going on about. I was thinking along the line of understanding fractions or something like that. It's hard for me to imagine someone being so insulting to a friend. But I can see how it could look like that. I think it would be totally appropriate to ask for clarification; as it may not be as bad as it can look.
post #27 of 120
I'm confused

Was it meant to be rude? or was he making a point that you need to go to school to earn 1.5 bathrooms?

I guess I'd have to hear how he said it.
post #28 of 120
Definitely up for interpretation...When I read the OP, I thought he was saying that 1.5 baths was a luxury that you could potentially obtain if you worked hard, stay in school, etc. I could see the conversation being awkward, but not rude.

However, if he was saying that she needed to work hard, stay in school, etc. so she isn't stuck with a measely 1.5 bathrooms...That is a completely different ball of wax - extremely rude and I would definitely be offended.
post #29 of 120
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Originally Posted by gcgirl View Post
I thought he meant "you have to learn your fractions".

I was totally confused, obviously!

That's what I thought he meant too! I don't think any of us can know what he really did mean
post #30 of 120
The OP said it was Europe - my guess is he meant 1.5 is a luxury. Most places there are small, a 300K house might not have a dining room.

I don't think I would find this worth being offended about, or even thinking about beyond considering whether I am living a decadent life with my 1.5 bathrooms.
post #31 of 120
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Originally Posted by Bluegoat View Post
The OP said it was Europe - my guess is he meant 1.5 is a luxury. Most places there are small, a 300K house might not have a dining room.
She said they live in different countries and she told him it was the norm in Europe. That sounds to me like he's not from or in Europe.

OP please come back and tell us the answers to your riddle. Pretty please.
post #32 of 120
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Originally Posted by mama2mygirl View Post
I don't get it. 1.5 is a lot or a little?
Im with you so far, but Ill keep reading. At this point OP I don't understand what is so awkward.
post #33 of 120
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Originally Posted by *Aimee* View Post
I'd never teach my kids that any job was beneath them. I feel that busting your ass at any job is admirable.

My DH never went to college and makes great money. We choose smaller houses so we can put more money in the bank. What a strange thing to say!


yep, exactly.
post #34 of 120
Thread Starter 
OP here. Sorry I wasn't clear. In my view, 1.5 bathrooms is normal, in his view it is very little. I am in europe. They are in India. However, they spent 30+ years in the USA, so you can't excuse his comments as ignorance. I have 1.5 baths and they have 8 bathrooms.

His comment was directed specifically to his DD to teach her a life lesson that if she does not study hard she will end up like me - poor and miserable - because I have only 1.5 bathrooms. Except I actually feel quite comfortable - I mean we have a nice home, a car, can pay bills - no mercedes or yacht.... but I am not poor or miserable. Number of bathrooms does not equal amount of happiness!

What bothered me so much was that he said this in front of me, but sort of over my head, like I wasn't there or it didn't matter if I was there - Like who cares if I hear something offensive about me, I don't count. It's more important his 10 yo DD get this valuable lesson.

And I also felt embarrased for my dear friend, who would never say such a thing, and even if she thought it, she would discuss it later - in private. And I felt awkward for his DD - who is learning that is OK to talk badly about people in front of their face. And she is learning that 1.5 bathrooms is something to be ashamed of.

I hope that clarifies everything.
post #35 of 120
Okay, now with the clarification, I'd be irriated. Really irritated.
post #36 of 120
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Originally Posted by AllisonR View Post
His comment was directed specifically to his DD to teach her a life lesson that if she does not study hard she will end up like me - poor and miserable - because I have only 1.5 bathrooms.
That's how I read your OP but wasn't sure after reading the other responses. While I can totally understand why you felt offended and think it was very rude and inconsiderate, I think there is a cultural component to this issue that makes it a bit more understandable.
post #37 of 120
OH WOW.



I really thought from your initial post that he was holding you up as a GOOD example. I mean, 1.5 bathrooms is good, better than the norm I would think.

What would possess that man to say something like that in front of you?!?!?!?

Awkward indeed.

I have no idea what you say to something like that. Clearly the daughter was embarrassed as well and unsure what to say.
post #38 of 120
Wow. I went to grad school and my husband has two BAs from an Ivy League school. We have one bathroom. 1.5 bathrooms kind of sounds like heaven to my third trimester "Get the heck out of my bathroom!!!" bladder.

Uhm, yeah he wasn't so polite.
post #39 of 120
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Originally Posted by AllisonR View Post
OP here. Sorry I wasn't clear. In my view, 1.5 bathrooms is normal, in his view it is very little. I am in europe. They are in India. However, they spent 30+ years in the USA, so you can't excuse his comments as ignorance. I have 1.5 baths and they have 8 bathrooms.

His comment was directed specifically to his DD to teach her a life lesson that if she does not study hard she will end up like me - poor and miserable - because I have only 1.5 bathrooms. Except I actually feel quite comfortable - I mean we have a nice home, a car, can pay bills - no mercedes or yacht.... but I am not poor or miserable. Number of bathrooms does not equal amount of happiness!

What bothered me so much was that he said this in front of me, but sort of over my head, like I wasn't there or it didn't matter if I was there - Like who cares if I hear something offensive about me, I don't count. It's more important his 10 yo DD get this valuable lesson.

And I also felt embarrased for my dear friend, who would never say such a thing, and even if she thought it, she would discuss it later - in private. And I felt awkward for his DD - who is learning that is OK to talk badly about people in front of their face. And she is learning that 1.5 bathrooms is something to be ashamed of.

I hope that clarifies everything.
Um yeah, that would irritate me. I would probably end up saying something snide about how they needed to teach manners in college or something like that.
post #40 of 120
First of all, can you imagine cleaning eight bathrooms. I don't think that the Dugger's have eight bathrooms!

Second of all, we have 1 1/2 bathrooms and five kids, and it is just fine. Wow, what a rude man.
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