Anyone else still not telling? - Page 2

[Pirogi]

Originally Posted by paintedfire

They know now. I got a phone call from my new FIL this weekend during which he yelled at me for "tainting" his family's lineage. Whatever, dude.

I saw your post about your FIL's reaction on another thread too, and I don't know if there is a thread somewhere devoted to this, but that is awful! I can relate - my MIL thinks I am the spawn of Satan. She seriously thinks that it is my life's goal to tear her son away from her, instead recognizing that her insane behavior is the real cause. She doesn't know that I am expecting yet. Then again, she and DH haven't talked since Mother's Day, when she hung up on him. She did send a package recently, Certified and Return Receipt requested, as well as Restricted Delivery for my husband only. He had to go to the post office to pick it up. It was a short, happy note that gave no hint of the ongoing row they have been having since January, as well as shirt and some fireworks for my DD. DD is two. MIL's point in sending it Restricted Delivery was that I wasn't trustworthy enough to not dispose of her package without telling DH that it had arrived, I guess. DH threw it in the trash anyway and emailed his mother not to send anything Restricted in the future.

Don't let crazy people get you down!

[MaddieMay]

Originally Posted by Pirogi

I saw your post about your FIL's reaction on another thread too, and I don't know if there is a thread somewhere devoted to this, but that is awful! I can relate - my MIL thinks I am the spawn of Satan. She seriously thinks that it is my life's goal to tear her son away from her, instead recognizing that her insane behavior is the real cause. She doesn't know that I am expecting yet. Then again, she and DH haven't talked since Mother's Day, when she hung up on him. She did send a package recently, Certified and Return Receipt requested, as well as Restricted Delivery for my husband only. He had to go to the post office to pick it up. It was a short, happy note that gave no hint of the ongoing row they have been having since January, as well as shirt and some fireworks for my DD. DD is two. MIL's point in sending it Restricted Delivery was that I wasn't trustworthy enough to not dispose of her package without telling DH that it had arrived, I guess. DH threw it in the trash anyway and emailed his mother not to send anything Restricted in the future.

Don't let crazy people get you down!

Now I have heard some strange IL stories, but that one takes the cake!

[paintedfire]

Originally Posted by Pirogi

I saw your post about your FIL's reaction on another thread too, and I don't know if there is a thread somewhere devoted to this, but that is awful! I can relate - my MIL thinks I am the spawn of Satan. She seriously thinks that it is my life's goal to tear her son away from her, instead recognizing that her insane behavior is the real cause. She doesn't know that I am expecting yet. Then again, she and DH haven't talked since Mother's Day, when she hung up on him. She did send a package recently, Certified and Return Receipt requested, as well as Restricted Delivery for my husband only. He had to go to the post office to pick it up. It was a short, happy note that gave no hint of the ongoing row they have been having since January, as well as shirt and some fireworks for my DD. DD is two. MIL's point in sending it Restricted Delivery was that I wasn't trustworthy enough to not dispose of her package without telling DH that it had arrived, I guess. DH threw it in the trash anyway and emailed his mother not to send anything Restricted in the future.

Don't let crazy people get you down!

Oh-kay . . . your MIL is pretty out-there (I'd say more, but I'm afraid of risking a UAV).

The craziest/stupidest thing about my FIL's rant is that I converted to Judaism - LAST YEAR.

That and he's an evil, spiteful, little man whose only mission in life is to make my DH feel like crap. Can you tell that the two of us don't get along?

[Breathless Wonder]

We're only telling very select people. You know, the ones that won't say anything dumb, or the ones that absolutely NEED to know for some reason. We've never really been blessed with people that are happy for us, so each time, we've just told them later and later. Maybe we'll tell the in-laws sometime before the baby is born.

[Tithonia]

This pregnancy was a big shock for us, so we told immediate family and a couple of really close friends early on just because it had overtaken our lives so much that everyone would have thought we were insane or something if they didn't know why we were acting weird and emotional. Besides, it's great to have the support.

Thinking about telling extended family and friends and community soon-ish, but... I don't like people looking at me like I'm pregnant, so I'm putting it off for awhile. We'll probably tell some older relatives soon who might not make it to the baby's birth.

Really wondering what I'm going to say to my boss...

[texmati]

Originally Posted by Pirogi

I saw your post about your FIL's reaction on another thread too, and I don't know if there is a thread somewhere devoted to this, but that is awful! I can relate - my MIL thinks I am the spawn of Satan. She seriously thinks that it is my life's goal to tear her son away from her, instead recognizing that her insane behavior is the real cause. She doesn't know that I am expecting yet. Then again, she and DH haven't talked since Mother's Day, when she hung up on him. She did send a package recently, Certified and Return Receipt requested, as well as Restricted Delivery for my husband only. He had to go to the post office to pick it up. It was a short, happy note that gave no hint of the ongoing row they have been having since January, as well as shirt and some fireworks for my DD. DD is two. MIL's point in sending it Restricted Delivery was that I wasn't trustworthy enough to not dispose of her package without telling DH that it had arrived, I guess. DH threw it in the trash anyway and emailed his mother not to send anything Restricted in the future.

Don't let crazy people get you down!

We should have a thread! That is an impressive MIL story!

[texmati]

Originally Posted by MaddieMay

Ours will be give or take a few weeks a year and a half apart. I'm slightly terrified!

But seriously, I am not taking anyone's crap over the spacing of our children. I am usually one to fake it and smile, but not with this. If they aren't going to be happy, they can either shut their trap or I'm not talking to them. I'm taking it as advice from "my" midwife-Ina May (gosh, how I really wish she were my midwife) says that positive thoughts are important for VBAC success.

You're trying for a vbac too! I'm already getting comments about how "next time will be so much more peaceful since you will just schedule a c-section" Thanks mom. Really.

I didn't plan this. I just don't want to hear crap about weaning DS, that I should schedule a section, that DS will need to sleep on his own... ect.

At the same time, I really need my mom's support.

[Pirogi]

Originally Posted by texmati

We should have a thread! That is an impressive MIL story!

Yeah, except when it is actually happening to you/your SO, it is a lot less funny. I would much rather have a normal MIL relationship, and much rather my DH have a less manipulative mother. *Sigh*

Actually DH talked with his mom today, ironically enough. He told her about the pregnancy, and she said congratulations. So, kudos to her on that one!

[~Adorkable~]

I'm 11w2d and up until this weekend only family knew, but pretty much all of them, most since we heard the heartbeats and found out about the twins back at 6w4d, it's amazing to think that was over a month ago!

This last weekend we came down to a big festival that I work at and have grown up at, so this was also our big coming out transition. It's been fun, but also a bit weird since i don't look preggo yet. I have noticed I have to stop unconsciously sucking in my gut, it's reflex of years of carrying pudge there. When I let it all hang out I feel fat, not really preggo, but it will have to do. I know something must be babies, cause I have gained about 8 pounds.

It's been interesting to see folks reaction, these are my first babies and I don't think folks think of me as a mothering type. I've gotten some of the best reaction from these big strong guys that I work security with, they tend to treat me like they sexy little sister, and get pretty protective while still flirting shamelessly. They for the most part as a whole group have gotten all gushy over the news, headless to say it was not what I was expecting!

[texmati]

Originally Posted by Pirogi

Yeah, except when it is actually happening to you/your SO, it is a lot less funny. I would much rather have a normal MIL relationship, and much rather my DH have a less manipulative mother. *Sigh*

Actually DH talked with his mom today, ironically enough. He told her about the pregnancy, and she said congratulations. So, kudos to her on that one!

no I agree... My toxic MIL actually lives with us, and I"m jelouse of people who live in a different city than their inlaws. I have a son, and I promise him almost daily that I will not be a horrible MIL.