Should we go for it?? (And if we do, what should we expect?) - Page 2

[Friendlee]

I appreciate all of this honest feedback! Thanks!

I should have also mentioned that I'm feeling like I'm getting old. I don't want to spread the kids out and be still having kids at 40 IF I am fortunate enough to even remotely try to plan for them. Of course we know how planning goes...

I think if I had lots of time where I thought I'd be young, strong and fertile it'd be completely different. I guess another reason is that we'll be moving across the country in the next 5 years and I desperately want my mom (who lives in the same town as us now) to be here with me during each birth and infancy period so she can bond with the babies as well. Extraneous details to some, but they seem important to me. Anyway, the nursing thing is a touchy issue since people often feel so passionate about it. I wouldn't put a lot of effort into prematurely weening my lo unless it was because of a pregnancy. I know breast is best and I've quite literally poured blood, sweat and tears into making a very difficult nursing situation work for her because I felt she deserved it. So it's hard for me to think that I've significantly short-changed her for self weaning at about a year due to a pregnancy. (I only mention that because that part just isn't a concern for me, personally).

I hear you guys on the crazy for the first year thing...I can only imagine. But I sure feel intrigued to go ahead and do it.

[celestialdreamer]

Don't hate me for my opinion. I've had 3 kids all exactly 2 years apart and then #4 was born when #3 was barely 20 months. It might just have been #3's personality, but it has been HARD. Personally for me the age between 18-24 months is difficult, they are like a giant baby that gets into everything Having a newborn in the middle of that age is just really not my cup of tea I guess.

I am so happy with my family, don't get me wrong. I actually love a 2 year age spacing, but less than that is kind of hard on mama and also on the older child. The newborn is easy...but young toddlers are hard. I also lose my milk supply rather quickly when I'm pregnant and that meant that #3 weaned at 13 months

Do what feels best for you, but I can just tell you that while you will love your children, it can be really hard to have such close spacing. There is a big difference between an 18 month old and a 2 year old developmentally. If it were me, I'd wait until your baby is over a year before TTC. That's just a few months away and might be easier in terms are nursing, your child's development and your body.

[Friendlee]

Originally Posted by celestialdreamer

Don't hate me for my opinion.

Not at all!! This is good, I need real life opinions from mom's who've been through it! I thank you for your input!

[LadyCatherine185]

I think the reasons of moving across the country and wanting your mom there are totally great reasons. I would feel the same way if I knew my mom would only be there to help for the next 5 years.