Originally Posted by Lolagirl
This exactly! If you wouldn't give a joint gift for siblings who weren't of the same age why would you for twins? Sorry if I sound sort of snippy, but I can tell you it has hurt my twins' feelings in the past when people have given them one gift for the two of them. The only exception that ever applies here is for larger joint gifts, like the computer their grandfather gave the boys for X-Mas or the swingset we have been planning on getting them.
Just my $.02
Actually I would give a joint gift to non-twin siblings. My friend's boys' birthdays are 2 days apart (well, 2 years and 2 days), and I've given them board games addressed to both of them before because I didn't want them to have to deal with the whole "This game is mine and that one is yours" thing -- they were both for both of them. I just figured that twins might be more sensitive to that type of thing since they deal with it all the time, so I thought I'd ask for input from mamas who know.
And to be clear, my question didn't have anything to do with giving "one gift for the two of them." I made it clear that I plan on getting two gifts, and just wondered how to label them.
To turn your first question around, most parents wouldn't have a joint party for non-twin siblings either (my friend whose boys are 2 days apart doesn't now that they're old enough to notice), yet people frequently do for twins, so there are some things that are just different with twins -- they aren't always treated as completely separate entities with separate everything
, even by their parents.