Originally Posted by rejoiceinlife
my problem. What I got for a text was "Since your kids have been exposed to CP please don't come to the party." IMO that was rather rude, especially to come out-of-the-blue like that. If the party had been the following weekend, right in prime "contagious" time frame, then perhaps I would have uninvited myself.
It would have been nice if she had called you as emails can appear harsh with out hearing the tone, etc. However, I think her email was fine - it was polite and too the point.
It sounds like your upset because your kids would not have been contagious. In my experience I have found that often people get nervous when there has been exposure to chicken pox; and don't necessarily trust the number of days a person has been exposed.
When my child was young we had a baby/toddler group that would meet. I had started the group. One of the women sent an email to the group saying that her child had been exposed and was going to come to an event we had planned. Back then, I was not strong enough to say not to come. The other's didn't either. (boy,sometimes it is hard to speak up). Some of the women were upset that she had chosen to come to the group and were also upset that I had not told her not to come. They ended up leaving; and reading your post - I still feel sad about the way that happened.
So, whether your friend just didn't want to get it at this time, or whether it was partly to allow others to feel comfortable - I understand why she requests that you not come.