The OP is meant as a jumping off point into awakening from conventional thinking. There are many jumping off points, some of them will not reverberate with you at this point in time and that's ok. If you are content with your life, then keep plugging along. Someday, somwhere, you will read something or hear something that clicks on a lightbulb in your head. Or not, that's ok too...only humanity will not go on b/c we are rapidly killing ourselves and our planet with the current mentality that we hold.
Conventional thinking is that you have to use your mind to solve a problem, that you have to look at the story of your life in a linear fashion and hang on to it forever, conventional thinking is trying to solve the problem while in the same mentality as when the problem began.
What's more, who is the "I" in "I can't" or "I won't"? Is it the real you or your mind, your ego (a construct of your mind)? YOU are not that story of you life, your ethnicity, your body even. The real you is Awareness, the consciousness that is aware of the world, without the story. We are all the same awareness, just different windows, like on a house. The mind poses problems in a way that hides what is the real block underneath: "I can't have children b/c I physically can't" "I want to desperatly be loved, but I can't find a man who will love me." "I can't get a job." Those are posed based on outside situations ("if X happens" then my life will turn around"). Those kinds of problems are signs to dig deeper. Don't just look at the problem the way your mind poses it. The mind is not your friend.
No one's problems are specifically their own. All of humanity shares every problem encountered by every other human.
If you think these ideas are elitist, I think it is elitist to think you know what is offensive to the "less elite" (for lack of another word). Many people in dire situations are not thinking on any level "I can't." They are doing amazing things w/their lives.
The 'I' in 'I can't' is the full me. I can't be an astronaut, I want to be but I just cannot because of a limitation that belongs to my physical being (well, two limitations, I'm also too tall to be an astronaut). It's an attribute of my physical self, but it affects all other parts of me. It, however, does not affect you because you are not the one who is legally blind, and that barely affects my own family. Strangers I encounter everyday will likely have no awareness of this limitation either because they can't see it, they don't experience it when I am there or not there, and they never bother to ask.
ETA: My mind is my friend because it allows me to function. Without my mind helping me, I would be stuck living with my parents incapable of caring for myself because my mind provides for me what my eyes can't. It provides a 'view' of my environment that comes from my previous experience. I can tell you where each and every piece of furniture in this house is, not just by room, but a very specific location in the room, because my mind has it all mapped out so I don't end up tripping over the couch and landing face first in the TV.