I used to be so overwhelmed by laundry! I found a system that is totally stress free and works really well for me, but it makes my answers look weird!
1. 3 including toddler in cloth training pants and a DH who always dirties two outfits a day. (I wear everything at least twice, so I guess that evens out...)
2. 6 dirty loads accumulating at all times
4. One folded and ready to be put away, dryer full of dry training pants
5. Once a week
6. Never, my mom lives down the street and is a wiz at mending. She mends for me maybe every other month.
I discovered a system that keeps me totally at peace with laundry. I think I read it somewhere so it always surprises me that I am the only one who does this...I have a basket/drawer/place for 7 different loads of laundry (I don't have a lot of space so I have to be creative) jeans, lights, darks, black, white, red/brights and dish/cleaning towels. Diapers/training pants go in a bag, I wash the sheets on Fridays and put them right back on. Anyway, I just wake up and throw in the fullest load. I then open the dryer and fold/put away the previous days load, or just fold it if I am low on time/energy or my toddler is sleeping in the room the clothes go in. I check the drying rack for dry clothes. After the load is done, I throw some stuff in the dryer and hang up the stuff we line dry. It takes very little time and very little energy. The big hang up I have is putting stuff away, that occasionally piles up for two days.
If I don't have a full enough pile I grab bath towels, sheets or training pants and do those (I gather them from where they are, they don't need baskets) This system is awesome for a recovering perfectionist like me because: in 20 minutes a day the laundry is DONE, even though all the laundry is NEVER done and it is never overwhelming. I do it first thing in the am when I am dazed and half asleep. There is nothing like feeling blissed out by the one thing that made you feel like a homemaking failure
Clothes really last longer and stay nicer when you separate loads diligently. We wear a lot of bright colors.
When we get home from a two week trip, I just throw things in their baskets and I still only have one load to do the next day. It's awesome. A small portion of my husband's office is dedicated to laundry, but it looks tidy!
I once read that any system you devise should be easy enough to follow even if you have the flu. Not only is this system easy for me to keep up with, it is really easy for someone else to help you. They just pick a basket and throw in that load. Even in the darkest days of PPD, I could sort-of keep up with laundry. Systems are soo satisfying!!