If you are supposedly trying to do what is best for your child, you at least educate yourself.
When I was expecting my first child (lo, these 16 years ago), I thought I was educating myself. I read Parents, Parenting and Child magazines. I even read Mothering magazine!
I talked with my chosen pediatrician and other mothers I respected... and I fully immunized my firstborn.
It's possible to read the anti-vaccine information and either reject it as paranoid hysteria or at best, decide that the pro-vaccine information is more compelling.
I believe that the compliance rate in my state is upwards of 85%. Some of the non-vaccinators just haven't gotten around to it, can't afford it, don't have transportation, etc...
There is a small percentage of us who actively choose not to vaccinate because of our concerns with the long term implications of altering one's immune system, especially with suspect ingredients.
But I wouldn't go so far as to call those 85% uneducated or not trying to do their best by their children. This issue is so complex. Neither side can prove that they are absolutely, 100% "right". I've been studying, discussing, praying about this for almost 20 years and I still wonder if I'm making the best decision. My firstborn is fully immunized (by 1994 standards) and each subsequent child has gotten fewer and fewer vaccines until we reach my toddler, who has not had any.
Again, I think that this husband took a very wrong approach. I doubt that anyone here thinks it was appropriate for him to do this behind his wife's back. I truly hope that they can work on healing from this and in the future, how to make decisions when they disagree.
|If you would divorce him otherwise, then really, should you let your kids witness a relationship like that?|