"My other weiner"

[campbellsoup]

These were my son's exact words. I have 3 boys all UCirc. Just recently my 3 year old discovered what he is affectionately calling his "other weiner." It was surprising to me since my older 2 have not had retraction (my 8 year old - today is his birthday! - has had some ballooning which I understand is part of the process.) He is obsessed with his new discovery. I think this is normal. He says it does not hurt ( I have asked more than once .... I have stopped bothering him now.)

My concern. This might seem funny. My boys are very competitive. My 5 year old has seen this wonder (my 3 year old has shown everyone) and wants to know "how he did that?" I explained that his will do that too, everyone's will retract at a different time, don't force it, yada yada. I try to remind him of this when I see the two comparing.

I am afraid he will try to force his when it is not ready. I have read bad things about forced retraction. What are your thoughts on this? Is this a silly concern?

Also... we do not have a tub. I have read that soaking in the tub can help when there is an irritation of some sort. Luckily, we haven't had problems up to this point. Are there alternatives? Will a shower do the job? I like to be prepared.

[laohaire]

I don't know anything about penises, I don't even have a son, but your son is not going to hurt himself.

Forced retraction is a problem when someone ELSE does it. The minute he goes OW! he's going to stop.

If he DOESN'T go ow - it's fine.

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by laohaire

I don't know anything about penises, I don't even have a son, but your son is not going to hurt himself.

Forced retraction is a problem when someone ELSE does it. The minute he goes OW! he's going to stop.

If he DOESN'T go ow - it's fine.

Exactly. If it hurts he'll stop.

[pumpkinhead]

I have 2 boys and that's not necessarily true. I have on morethan one occasion had to explain that it's not ok for Mama to kiss the owie on your penis that you gave yourself because you were too rough . I do agree that forced retraction is more of a problem when someone else does it tho.

I do think that this rough play is part of separation for young boys and I don't think they'll do themselves any permanent damage by experimenting. After all, it *is* their penis.

[campbellsoup]

Thanks for the feedback. Sometimes you just need reassurance. The comparing has slowed.

The obsession on the part of my 3 year old has not.... to be expected, I think. It is new and different. I am really not worried about him. Maybe in a few weeks if he is still fiddling around a lot!

[Anastasiya]

Originally Posted by pumpkinhead

I have 2 boys and that's not necessarily true. I have on morethan one occasion had to explain that it's not ok for Mama to kiss the owie on your penis that you gave yourself because you were too rough . I do agree that forced retraction is more of a problem when someone else does it tho.

I do think that this rough play is part of separation for young boys and I don't think they'll do themselves any permanent damage by experimenting. After all, it *is* their penis.

I agree. Both my sons have now injured themselves by retracting too far, too soon. One trying to see if he also had "something else" in there.

Boys!

[4chunut1]

Originally Posted by Anastasiya

I agree. Both my sons have now injured themselves by retracting too far, too soon. One trying to see if he also had "something else" in there.

Boys!

That is correct...from personal experience, at age 5 or 6 I tore the frenulum on my penis from retracting too far, or too vigorously...probably a combination of both..! There was a little blood, and some pain for 3 or 4 days, but it healed up nicely. I still have a small scar where that occurred, and the frenulum is much less prominent after healing than previous to the injury.

[hakunangovi]

Originally Posted by pumpkinhead

I have on morethan one occasion had to explain that it's not ok for Mama to kiss the owie on your penis that you gave yourself because you were too rough .

That is just too funny !!