Originally Posted by ladymeag
As a birthmom, would I have been hurt if my daughter's parents chose to change her name? No. She is joining thier family and they may need control over her identity with them from the start to feel the bond, connect or simply feel fully engaged in the process of becoming a family.
I'm also a birthmother, and though my experience was one where Mira was adopted at birth so I can't speak about renaming an older child, I'd like to chime in in full agreement. Her parents told me what they were going to name her when I was still pregnant, so I used her first as her middle on her first birth certificate- Lily Mira, as I really liked Lily (so did they, but they'd already named their Golden that!)