Originally Posted by peaceful_mama
OK is my kid somehow abnormal? He's 5. I have to *constantly* remind him that we SIT DOWN on the furniture--as opposed to being upside down, bouncing, etc.
And lately I am CONSTANTLY telling him to STOP HUMMING.
he had some language delays when he was little, less verbal delays, more receptive delays. He went to EI Preschool and is now off an IEP going to kindergarten. He does well in school, so I've often wondered if this bouncing around thing at home has to do with me either not being strict enough or not keeping him busy. (I.E. at school they are not sitting watching a cartoon, they are listening to a story, singing with actions, doing an activity at the table, etc etc etc.)
It's so hard to tell, sometimes, probably most times.
I go back and forth. On some levels, my kid seems normal. Average. And then most days, when I look at other kids and how they behave, I see such major differences.
The activity level. The noise. The repeated phrases. The delays with motor skills and potty training, speech, pedaling, drawing, writing, there are so many.
The other kids seem to advance so...naturally.
Everything has always seemed so delayed and hard with my kid.
And the hyperactivity wears me out. My kid is either overactive (bouncing off the walls, literally) or lethargic from the hypotonia refusing to move muscles wot walk on his own, asking to go home and lay down to watch tv, and leaning into me for support and for me to carry him.
So, his he "just a boy"? as I hear so often? Just a really active kid, as I hear so often? Will he "grow out of it"?
Or does he need a new school for special kids? OT again?
My kid doesn't act like other kids. He's not doing nor has ever done the things other kids seem to do easily. Nothing "just happens" with my kid.
And, I'm so tired. I'm just so tired. Bone tired. Every day I feel on the verge of tears and breaking down.
My kid won't sit still for any length of time. There is always so much banging, crashing, out of control movements as he moves. We went to a restaurant today for lunch and DH took our child to the bathroom, and you could hear them the whole route to the bathroom and the whole way back, banging, crashing, running, swinging arms...they're so imbalanced together...more so than individually.
DH has always been a little uncoordinated, ever since I met him, but his movements have always been awkward. I'm convinced he has (d) hypotonia as well, but I can't be sure. He also sits in the W position, slumped posture to this day, just as my child does and just like the OT pointed out most people with hypotonia do. DH also has NO flexibility whatsoever. None. He can't sit "Indian style" at all. DH is also very lethargic and awkward, but if you say that he gets pissed.
I definitely don't want my child growing up to be like my husband, with all his quircks and issues, because, well, it's not endearing at all. But maybe it's genetic and I can't do much about it.
Then again, maybe he just needs OT.
Or maybe he's normal.
So, so hard to say at this point. What I can say is having a kid with SPD and ADHD tendancies and behaviors makes my life so awkward and hard. I can't run errands like other moms can. My kid wears my patience out about 5 minutes after picking him up from daycare and I feel so physically exhausted and tapped from chasing him everywhere.
I am so sick of the running off and bolting, and the climbing, jumping, crashing. I feel like I have to be a human shield when we're out in public, dealing with traffic, parking lots, other people, breakable things in stores.
I feel like I'm constantly saying, "sit down." "Put that down." "Don't touch that." "Don't break that." Don't climb on that." "Leave that alone." "Come back here." "Stop running."