The Fabulous ONE Thread - July 11-17 - Page 9

[CLH_X3]

This cycle ttc will be my 1 year .... GREAT. Not

[SML27]

Well, I'll be at CD1 tomorrow, so you may as well move me to Waiting to O right now.

If you look at my chart, you'll see for the last three months I've had shorter and shorter cycles.

In May, I started spotting at 9dpo / CD23

In June, I started spotting at 7dpo / CD23

This month, I started spotting at 4dpo / CD22

It's getting worse, not better. I was hoping that B6 would help, but I guess I need to give that (and the vitex) more time.

It's just so unfair that I only got to 4dpo. If you also look at the four temps before the end of my cycle, I historically get three flat or flatish temps followed by an identical temp jump, just before I return to CD1. So, it's definitely going to happen.

So, what next? Why could this be happening?

[Blanca78]

I'm sorry CLH-- It may just be bad luck of the draw. I hope it happens soon for you! I know quite a few people who conceived after over a year, including my mom (1.5 years w/me, both my younger sisters conceived easily) and my MIL (after THREE years w/DH, both brothers-in-law conceived easily after that).

AFM--Ladies, I'm in serious limbo here and trying not to freak out. I could really use some chart experts. I am 13 DPO and the whole time I've been charting I haven't had an LP longer than 12 days, and usually preceded by a big temp drop. Well, I had a moderate temp drop yesterday and today the temp was the same. BFN BFN BFN. I feel a *bit* like AF is coming on but not really much of anything.

I just looked at my Dollar Tree test from this morning and there is a line, but I don't really see pink--pretty sure it's an evap, though I haven't gotten evaps before (not that I've been testing much).

Can someone look at my chart, pretty please? Is it possible I O'd later than FF says? Does that temp drop look significant? Is it common to still get BFNs at 13 DPO even if pregnant? It seems like most people have at least SOMETHING by 12 DPO or so. I'm a nervous wreck here. If I'm not pregnant (I really doubt I am at this point) what could be making my period late?

Thank you all. http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/29bcc8

[Neuromancer]

Blanca, I wish I knew something about charts so I could help you out!

As for me, no nausea today, no cramping. TINY amount of light-pink tinged something yesterday in the bathroom at work. Nothing I'd call spotting. I feel hotter than normal, and my nose is stuffy. AF is due Wednesday, if it's coming at the regular time. I might test Wednesday morning.

[MommyMatsumoto]

Blanca, it looks to me like FF has your O date right on. Just try and relax (easier said than done, I know) because stress can mess up your cycles. Hang in there! You may be getting a late BFP!

[MommyMatsumoto]

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[WTHamI?]

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[SML27]

Originally Posted by WTHamI?

Woo hoo, thanks! There were 12 left when I did it.

Only 2 left when I did it. I snuck in just under the mark!

[Stevi]

FF Coupons all gone...

SML27... Oh my. I'm so sorry. I would be going loony! What were your cycles like before the Vitex? How long have you been taking the B? And, is it just B6 or a B Complex?

AAM... How stupid and desperate am I? I actually went off last night and had sex with my ex-boyfriend from last year. This is the guy I'm not really over yet. I still visit his kids! We were together for most of last year and we broke up right after Christmas. I don't exactly regret my actions last night, it was fun! But, I'm worried that I might not hold up well emotionally. So far, I'm fine. (But, I'm very tired and not feeling too great, so it may not have sunk in yet.)

I have plans to see Smilie Monday, that should help. And, I'll be sperm-hunting all next week, as well. That will probably help keep my mind off of it.

Everybody think Reproductive Thoughts!

[lazykate]

Originally Posted by Blanca78

AFM--Ladies, I'm in serious limbo here and trying not to freak out. I could really use some chart experts. I am 13 DPO and the whole time I've been charting I haven't had an LP longer than 12 days, and usually preceded by a big temp drop. Well, I had a moderate temp drop yesterday and today the temp was the same. BFN BFN BFN. I feel a *bit* like AF is coming on but not really much of anything.

I just looked at my Dollar Tree test from this morning and there is a line, but I don't really see pink--pretty sure it's an evap, though I haven't gotten evaps before (not that I've been testing much).

Can someone look at my chart, pretty please? Is it possible I O'd later than FF says? Does that temp drop look significant? Is it common to still get BFNs at 13 DPO even if pregnant? It seems like most people have at least SOMETHING by 12 DPO or so. I'm a nervous wreck here. If I'm not pregnant (I really doubt I am at this point) what could be making my period late?

Thank you all. http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/29bcc8

Blanca, it's weird because I was in just about the exact same situation yesterday! My LP is never longer than 12 days, and I always get a temp drop by day 12. Yesterday was 13dpo and still no temp drop, plus only a bit of spotting that I was telling myself could be "implantation spotting." However, negative on Dollar Tree. Finally, in the evening I saw a bit of red, and called it. Today my period started with a vengeance. I have no idea why it was delayed, as I'm pretty sure of my ovulation date.

I'm hopeful for you, though! No spotting or anything? I think a negative might not mean anything even at this point. Lots of people don't get positives until even later. Unfortunately, it's the waiting game!

BTW, samy23, please move me to Waiting to O . Here's to an April baby!

[scarletjane]

Hi, everyone!

Hope you all are doing well. I've been lying low a little, feeling a little down this month because i'd really hoped we'd get pregnant sooner than this. I get so down with getting my hopes up each month and then being so disappointed by the negative tests each. and every. month. and then when i feel this way, I feel terrible because I know that there are people who have been trying much longer and i just can't imagine how hard and frustrating that must be. There are so many amazing women who have been trying for far longer, and my heart just breaks with the thought of what that must be like. I guess i'm feeling down, but undeservedly so. Although, when I think about it, we first started trying for a baby in January 2009, so I guess we have been trying for a while. It's just that 9 months of that were spent pregnant. I'm just wondering these days if we'll ever get to start a family.

on the upside, my temps seem to be even-ing out and this is the longest luteal phase i've had yet. I'm hoping it means my post-partum hormones are finally beginning to regulate. I tested yesterday at 11dpo. negative. Today i was too disheartened to even test. my temp dropped 2 days ago and was down a little today. I'm not feeling pregnant at all, but am still hopeful of course. I think tomorrow's temp will be a really telling one. I guess I expect to start bleeding tomorrow, but with all of my cycle wackiness, i don't really have an expected day to start. flyin' by the seat of my pants here.

i've been thinking of all of you and trying to keep up on everyone's progress. though i haven't personally responded to people's posts, i'm still sending everyone good thoughts and hopes for growing babes!!

xo

[Blanca78]

Originally Posted by lazykate

Blanca, it's weird because I was in just about the exact same situation yesterday! My LP is never longer than 12 days, and I always get a temp drop by day 12. Yesterday was 13dpo and still no temp drop, plus only a bit of spotting that I was telling myself could be "implantation spotting." However, negative on Dollar Tree. Finally, in the evening I saw a bit of red, and called it. Today my period started with a vengeance. I have no idea why it was delayed, as I'm pretty sure of my ovulation date.

I'm hopeful for you, though! No spotting or anything? I think a negative might not mean anything even at this point. Lots of people don't get positives until even later. Unfortunately, it's the waiting game!

BTW, samy23, please move me to Waiting to O . Here's to an April baby!

Thanks, LazyKate! It's good to know someone else has been in a similar situation. I just find it extremely odd that the first cycle back TTC (after a molar pregnancy hiatus) goes wonky. I know stress can mess stuff up but I thought it could only delay O, not mess with the LP.

Still no AF, no spotting, nothing--my temps hovering in between typical post-O and the coverline. Because of the BFNs and slightly lower temps I'm pretty convinced I'm not pregnant, so of course my mind is rushing to the worst-case scenarios--I'm panicking right now about the possibility of an ectopic or something. I'm feeling very angry with my body right now and trying not to, trying to appreciate all that she's done with me. My cycles have never really been weird before, so it seriously freaks me out to see an aberration.

Of course it would be wonderful if I AM pregnant and just getting a late BFP, but I don't feel very hopeful at this point. Thanks to all who have responded. I just want some resolution...

ScarletJane So sorry you're feeling down. I would not ever presume to compare my experience to yours. But I feel like what you're saying resonates. We've been officially trying since last May. Got pregnant in OCtober. Had to take seven months off due to molar. So it really hasn't been that many cycles and at this point I have faith that it WILL happen, but it is so hard sometimes not to be angry with my body and angry that I do not yet have a pregnancy and/or child (my due date was right about now with the molar). On the upside it's great your hormones are regulating--every month brings you closer to being pregnant again!

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by Blanca78

I just want some resolution...

That's always the darned hardest thing! Blanca, I think it might be helpful for you to start temping a couple days earlier. I noticed in several of your charts there were either missing or open circle temps a few days before your crosshairs. It leaves open the possibility that you O'd earlier than you thought in some of those cycles, which would mean your LP is maybe longer than you thought? I know your CM doesn't really agree with that theory, but it's just a thought. I hope you get your clarity (BFP) soon!

scarletjane Don't play the compare game. Your pain and sorrow is real and valid, and I'm so sorry you're feeling so discouraged. Hang in there! If I've learned anything from this journey, it's that anything can happen. I don't really believe my own temps anymore, and 11dpo is too early for a reliable test anyway. Here's hoping for a surprise BFP tomorrow! and

[scarletjane]

thank you, tear and blanca, for your thoughts. your words made me feel a lot better.

Blanca, I appreciate what you said. It reminded me that it's really easy to say things you don't mean. I don't really believe i won't get pregnant. It's just that when I feel down, it's really easy to say things like that. thanks for your positive thoughts and reminder. And also, hugs. Having a loss like that and then not being able to TTC for 7 months.. that's really rough. I am so sorry you've been through that. I'm really keeping my fingers crossed for you. And after looking at your chart, I would say you are most certainly still in! Your temps are still far above the coverline, and having a longer LP than normal is such a hopeful sign. I'll be rooting for a skyrocketing temp for you tomorrow!

Tear, the fact that you are comforting me after all that you've been through puts me to shame. I know I shouldn't play the comparison game and i don't mean to. Its just that I feel down about this whole thing, then i feel guilty because there's always someone who's got it harder, then i think wait, no, it's ok to feel this way because this really sucks. Anyway, thanks for your thoughts. I really appreciate them. You are one wise soul and I am always humbled by you when I read your posts because you move through this journey with such incredible grace and courage.

anyway, i think i'm hijacking the normally-positive-jovial-anything's-possible The One Thread and that maybe some of this would be more appropriate in the loss forum. I'm sorry if anyone minds that i'm blabbing all of this here.

arrrghhhhh!!!!!!

ok. back to anything's possible.

[CLH_X3]

Still spotting today.. Blah

I had a nice chat with OH last night about ttc which is good as he doesn't usually like talking about it much... Since we hit the 1 yr mark end of this year I asked him how much longer he would like to wait til he gets a SA... He said nov which I'm really happy about ... 4 months yay .. I thought it would be longer ...

[samy23]

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[Kyamo]

Originally Posted by samy23

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I'm going to be way too busy this week, but I'll take Aug 1-7.

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by scarletjane

Anyway, thanks for your thoughts. I really appreciate them. You are one wise soul and I am always humbled by you when I read your posts because you move through this journey with such incredible grace and courage.

Oh, sweetie. Grace and courage? You should see me in my dark moments. It's not pretty. Here's a story that may help you with the feeling that someone's always got it harder: I joined a fertility support group, and I found myself surrounded by women who have ALL, and I mean ALL had it harder than me. They've been trying longer (like, years longer) or they have had way more losses, or their medical prognosis is that they can no longer try with their own eggs. You know how I felt? Like this:

Originally Posted by scarletjane

Its just that I feel down about this whole thing, then i feel guilty because there's always someone who's got it harder, then i think wait, no, it's ok to feel this way because this really sucks.

THAT is how I felt. I felt humbled, and I felt a little bitter because...wait...my journey has been HARD, and LONG, and PAINFUL. Then I remembered back to when I had been trying for three months and started to have break-downs because the journey was so hard. After THREE MONTHS. This journey sucks. PERIOD. How long you've been on it doesn't change that. It just changes...I dunno...perspective? But the day-to-day just sucks the same. And you have had experiences that have not happened to me, and you somehow picked yourself up and kept going. For that, I admire you. I'm positive the ladies here are supportive and open for the moments when you are feeling blue, too. And if you ever feel like you need to let out the deep, dark, hurting parts, you can always join the Bitter Sushi Ladies. That's where I go when I feel like too much of a downer. You would not feel alone.

[Blanca78]

Tear and ScarletJane Thank you so much for responding to my post! You are both wonderful women and you will have babies. I declare it!

CLH That's great news that he's willing to have it as soon as that! But November is still a few months away--plenty of time for you to get that BFP yet!

AFM, temp dropped below coverline today and I feel a bit crampy, so I'm sure I'll see AF any moment now. It's amazing how much better I feel just knowing this cycle is ending. I hate that my cycles are longish (I would REALLY like to O earlier) but a 13-day LP is an improvement over the 10-11 days it used to be! It's just bizarre to me that the first cycle back TTC is when my LP randomly decides to lengthen by 2 days. ONWARD!

[elonwy]

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