Moving away from their dad...

[littlemommy18]

I posted something in the Finding your tribes about me wanting to move to Phoenix, but I wanted to get some single mama opinions on this one. My kids dad has slowly fallen out of the picture over the past year or so (probably because he has had a girlfriend). I moved back to MO so he could be closer to my kids and have a relationship with them but now he's not helping me out financially and he keeps not showing up to pick them up. I confronted him recently about me moving out of state and he seemed unaffected by it. He said that as long as he could see them throughout the summer and maybe over christmas break he was cool with it, but what do you think? is it wrong to move my kids away from their dad even though he isn't seeing much of them anyways? I'm just tired of hating where I live and watching my kids get let down over and over again. Whew! If you made it through that Thanks!

[meemee]

so let me get this straight.

you moved to MO to be close to their dad.

he hasnt really been around much for a year.

he has even stopped financial support.

he does not have any objections to you moving to AZ as long as he sees his kids during holidays.

you hate where you live. so i presume you are pretty miserable.

all this points to the direction of moving. by moving except for the distance from dad factor it seems it will serve you and your children well. probably more support.

seems like the best thing to do would be to move.

a happy and less stressed out mama = happy children. esp. when their dad really isnt in their lives.

seems like an easy answer for me.

MOVE mama!!!!!

[SoulCakes]

I agree with the previous poster. And I also think that having that regular, certain time with their dad over the summer and Christmas--time that he HAS to be there with them--will do better for their relationship in the long run, far more so than not knowing if/when they'll ever get to see him.

Definitely move if you want to.

[VillageMom6]

And take that man to court for the financial support he owes his children!

[Lilypie32]

I'd move in your circumstances. Happy mom, happy kids.

[Tilia]

Of course it is good for both parents to be located close to one another, in most situations. But if your children don't have the routine and aren't used to dad being around, then I think it is fine. It would hurt them if they were used to him picking them up every Wednesday or something. People move and change routines every day though. As long as you help them through the transistion, I think you are fine.

I would absolutely move.