Eating Disorder Recovery - Page 3
Hi, I realize this is an old thread but I am hoping you ladies can help me with something. My daughter has an eating disorder and compulsively exercises. She never reached "skinny", though she was slim and she had/has amenorrhea (loss of period). She wants to heal but she refuses help, so she is trying to do it on her own without therapy. She researches online. I don't know where because she refuses to let me in. Currently, she believes that in order to recover she needs to eat a large amount of food (2-3 rounds of breakfast and almost-constant snacking throughout the day) and refrain from exercise. It seems she is headed in the opposite direction which might result in spiraling back to where she was to begin with, or worse. Logic tells me she should find a happy medium, moderate exercise and healthy well-balanced meals, to encourage a healthy mind and body.
Has anyone heard of this method of recovery? What helped you?
As someone who's been through the recovering>relapsing>relapsed>recovering cycle many times since I was a teen, I can tell you right now that if anyone who had been in a position of trust/authority over me had said anything that could even be interpreted as "you're eating too much and not exercising enough", it would have set me back, immediately and badly. You need to tread on this very, very lightly.
Also, after severe restriction, it is really, really, REALLY normal to have a period in which both appetite and weight look 'out of control' or whatever. Hunger cues have been trained out of EDed people and need to be relearned. 'Full, too much and hungry' will be meaningless for a while. The body will gain rapidly as it has slowed metabolism to burn less calories because it's been in a state if starvation. Food intake and weight will slow down and even out, as long as recovery stays on course.
Just because she won't seek professional help doesn't mean you can't. Find a therapist who is well versed in eating disorders and talk to him/her. Visit a support group for families (on or offline). Talk to a doctor or nutritionist. They can help you find appropriate ways of coping with your daughter's illness and supporting her through a recovery. The We Bite Back website is a helpful one (or at least it was back when I visited it regularly). http://webiteback.com/
The forum section has a forum for friends and family. That would be a good place to read about resources.
Also, it would be great to start a thread like the original one up again.
Thank you Mrscookie and Moonridden for your thoughtful responses. Mrscookie, I think you're right. I believe that is the approach she is taking. I am fully supporting her as she continues the path towards healing and finding her natural cues again. Moonridden, the WeBiteBack site looks awesome. I've shared the link with her. Thank you both.