My almost 5yo has me at the end of my rope. He is such a sweet and loving boy. He is extremely VERBAL. He has been all his life. But ever since he turned 4, his mouth has been getting him in big trouble. I have a 3yo son and I babysit girls that are 3 and 6. And it's like a constant that he is calling someone a name or just running his mouth in a way that hurts other kids feelings. He's pretty chummy with the 6yo, so I don't hear it towards her, but with the 3yos he is always pestering them with his words. Here are some examples of what I hear all.day.long.
-You're a (insert any phrase it doesn't even have to be a mean word) goo-goo!
-I'm eating the fastest
-I'm a better ____ than you
-You are NOT my best friend anymore
-NO it's NOT --when a 3yo says something incorrectly, like the sky is orange and will go back and forth arguing this with a 3yo until the cows come home
-And if one of the little ones says something like, "Do you like my picture?" he returns with a NO or some other smart alec nasty reply.
I know that all of these things are probably age appropriate. But is it appropriate for him to be saying these things constantly? And he will tell me or his 6yo friend that he loves us very often, but never to his brother. It kinda breaks my heart that he never has anything nice to say to/about his brother.
This child is a DOLL. So sweet when not in social situations. And actually, he's perfectly fine when at preschool or sunday school. I think it's just during unstructured play at our house or on the playground.
It's so hard to help discipline this because I absolutely cannot control what comes out of his mouth. That is impossible. How can I help him see that he should be kind to people? Tonight I even told him that no one will want to be his friend if he talks like he does.
My boys are suppose to share a room, in bunk beds, but half the time my 3yo wants to sleep in his old room because his brother is aggravating him.
Is there a book about being a good friend? a video? ANYTHING?
-You're a (insert any phrase it doesn't even have to be a mean word) goo-goo!
-I'm eating the fastest
-I'm a better ____ than you
-You are NOT my best friend anymore
-NO it's NOT --when a 3yo says something incorrectly, like the sky is orange and will go back and forth arguing this with a 3yo until the cows come home
-And if one of the little ones says something like, "Do you like my picture?" he returns with a NO or some other smart alec nasty reply.
I know that all of these things are probably age appropriate. But is it appropriate for him to be saying these things constantly? And he will tell me or his 6yo friend that he loves us very often, but never to his brother. It kinda breaks my heart that he never has anything nice to say to/about his brother.
This child is a DOLL. So sweet when not in social situations. And actually, he's perfectly fine when at preschool or sunday school. I think it's just during unstructured play at our house or on the playground.
It's so hard to help discipline this because I absolutely cannot control what comes out of his mouth. That is impossible. How can I help him see that he should be kind to people? Tonight I even told him that no one will want to be his friend if he talks like he does.
My boys are suppose to share a room, in bunk beds, but half the time my 3yo wants to sleep in his old room because his brother is aggravating him.
Is there a book about being a good friend? a video? ANYTHING?
