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post #21 of 42
I grew 5 inches in the year after I got my period.
post #22 of 42
Yes on the growth thing. I got my period at 9 and am short, didn't grow much after that. My sister is 7 in taller than me and she started her period 5 years later or so. I totally blame my height on my early development.

To the op: Since I was younger when I started, I felt very weird. My mom didn't make a big deal, just gave me a charm bracelet in private, not a huge thing was made. I was grateful for that. Of course, I also had quite a chest so I was already embarrassed when grown men would oggle me in public.
post #23 of 42
Back on topic, if OP's daughter is accurately reporting no other signs of puberty, unexplained bleeding might be a problem.
post #24 of 42
I think I started at 12. I know I hit my adult height at 13 (5-5).

I actually hid my first period from everyone. My mom had tampons in the cabinet, and I figured them out. I was always VERY shy about my period. I remember that I liked the tampax because I could flush everything. And if I used a pad I would bury it in the trash so no one would know. I still have no idea why I was like that. My mom didn't make a big deal out of it, or anything.
post #25 of 42
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I'll try not to derail your thread . I am curious, though, for those of you who started your period that early, did your growth slow down afterward? I've read that bone growth slows down significantly after a girl's period starts and that one should expect no more than maybe another inch or two of growth after that point. That was about right for me, but I got my period just before my 14th bd and I imagine that I would have been done growing my that point either way. I'd imagine that a girl who stops growing at 10, on the other hand, might wind up rather short as an adult.
I was the tallest girl in my class until puberty. I was probably over 5 feet tall when I was ten and started my period. I grew until I was about 12, and I'm 5-4.
post #26 of 42
I was about 9 when I first got my period as well. I had been the tallest kid in my class through most of elementary school, but when we came back for fifth grade, everything was different. I was suddenly on the shorter side, and stayed that way. I am almost 5'2" now.

Of course, I was a C cup in grade 5 as well....

My daughter is 8 1/2, and while I don't see breast buds etc, I do see that she is developing some leg hair (she's got very light brown hair, and the leg hair is blonde so not very noticeable.) She uses deodorant, and has finally developed a butt- (her pants don't fall off instantly anymore!)

She is not yet 60 lbs, so I think we have a while, but I do see the subtle changes, and based on my experience I try to be aware, as well as to talk about development with her so she isn't scared.
post #27 of 42
Thread Starter 
Well, she does have leg hair. Didn't realize that was a sign. It's super light blonde.

I got my period at 11.5 or so, went from super short to a growth spurt at age 13-14 to where I am now (5'5"). It was really quick and I haven't grown since.
post #28 of 42
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Of course, I was a C cup in grade 5 as well....
Ugh, having large boobs in any grade under 8th is not fun! It was me and one other girl in my small class that were "developed" at the time. No fun.
post #29 of 42
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Ugh, having large boobs in any grade under 8th is not fun! It was me and one other girl in my small class that were "developed" at the time. No fun.
If it makes you feel better, us flat chested chicks were jealous. I was SO flat forever. Still don't have much in that department. (Unless pg)
post #30 of 42
OP I got my period when I was 9, and I don't recall any other 'signs' of puberty. I started shaving my legs at 7.5 (I was trying to copy my mother), and my 6.5 y.o. DD has lovely pale blonde leg hair now, so I don't know how accurate leg hair is for puberty. My 9 y.o. son has lots of leg hair also, and no other puberty signs. I never got dark leg hair until I was a mid-teen.

FWIW my first period or two were not full on bleeding, more like brown discharge, I kept changing my pants, unsure of what was happening, as I had imagined *blood*, red, lots, not this odd thing I was going through. I never told my mother, my Dad's GF noticed in the laundry. Overall an embrassing exp. And growth-wise, I have no idea when I stopped growing or had a growth spurt, but I'm an average 5' 4", just like my parents. With big boobs in Gr 6.

My only issue as a teen with cloth pads was that they leaked. The fear of social mortification totally outweighted health or enviro for me, I used OB cotton tampons, they were so smal and held a lot. As an adult my POV changed, but as a teen it was about feeling 'normal' when I had my period, not feeling like I was wearing diapers or had to sit a certain way so I wouldn't leak. I remember being terrified to stand up because I was unsure if my pants had stained.

Oh man, my daughters are going to go through all this too. Yay. and sigh.
post #31 of 42
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If it makes you feel better, us flat chested chicks were jealous. I was SO flat forever. Still don't have much in that department. (Unless pg)
I was a 36D in 7th grade (confirmed by Victoria's Secret measuring me) and a DD in high school (even when I had lost weight!) I have always been jealous women with moderate (or even small) boobs!
post #32 of 42
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I didn't get boobs until a couple of years after I got my period
If this is how you developed, then it could be how she's hardwired and nothing wrong at all. It's unusual but since it's how your body worked there is a good chance it's how she works too.

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I'll try not to derail your thread . I am curious, though, for those of you who started your period that early, did your growth slow down afterward?
I was pretty average starting at 12 and was fully grown by 13. My DD is 13 and still hasn't started. I know DH and his 3 sisters all continued growing until 16 or 17 (though the girls did tell me they started period at an average 12-ish.) DD is thrilled because she was always the short one and now she's surpassing everyone lol.
post #33 of 42
I started my period at 9. I don't really remember too much stuff going on before that. Shortly there after I got massive armpit hair (which I disliked then and love now).
post #34 of 42
I think you are handling this really well with her :

As for growth, I got my period at 10.5, I was probably 5'1". I grew 6 more inches before Christmas, so in 7-8 months, then I pretty much stopped. I feel that my puberty did stunt my growth since everyone else in my family is closer to 6", but I think it has more to do with how FAST I went through puberty, because I also went from mild AA bumps to D cup in that grade, and my hips too, I have stretch marks all over. I just went through the whole process so fast it was crazy!

My dd is 10.5 right now, and has a tiny bit of leg hair coming in , and her nipples are just a little raised, her hips are starting to get a little more shaped. she is *very* open so I get updates all the time, including working on masturbation being a little more private. I love our relationship and I feel so lucky that she trusts me this much.

I think what helps at this ageish - the late 8's to 11's, is being present, learning her big girly moment cues, as opposed to the playing baby dolls or legos or whatever your child likes. I just go sit by her and stroke her hair or whatever, and for my daughter, it's ok to say, 'hey look, you've got a little leg hair coming in' or something like that to get our conversations in those directions started, or sometimes she will come to me first. I have found that being quiet for a few minutes is ok, it gives her time to think of questions.

I have no idea if any of this is helpful, but I hope so
post #35 of 42
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I was a 36D in 7th grade (confirmed by Victoria's Secret measuring me) and a DD in high school (even when I had lost weight!) I have always been jealous women with moderate (or even small) boobs!
ME too!!! I was a 32DDD by 9th grade, and now I'm a F. I even lost weight, like 40 lbs, and I still have the dang boobs. I was so hopeful they would go down to like in the D DD range so I could og buy some normal bras, but nope, I lost 1 cup!

Sorry to derail. I agree that it's likely that if your breasts and other signs came later than that can be normal for your dd. there are typical patterns but that doesn't mean atypical is unhealthy or warrants a doctor visit. In fact, my periods were heavy to the point that I regularly would gush through my clothes and my school wouldn't let me come back until my mom took m to the doctor to confirm I wasn't having a miscarriage for 3 months in a row despite my mom insisting this was normal family history for us and that they were turning something normal into an abnormal experience for me. I made it all through 6th grade with no one bothering me and then it was the junior high secretary who went bonzo on this, so at 12 I was in stirrups for a complete pelvic 3 months in a row. Unless she has too much pain, or gets signs of anemia or some other concerning sign other than that she is young and you didn't quite expect it, I think it may be ok to just let it be normal! I out grew the crazy heavies after a few years and never had any signs of anemia. Each family has its tendencies and it sounds like you and your dd have things going well.
post #36 of 42
Thread Starter 
Well...it's puberty. I saw the other day she has tons more leg hair and she is definitely getting underarm hair. It's so darn light and fine it took just the right angle and I saw it. My baby is becoming a big girl.
post #37 of 42
I started at age 11, and I had noticed changes in me as early as age 9. I don't think it is abnormal to start that early, my mom started at age 10. I am pretty short, and definitely stopped growing upwards at about age 12 or 13. I didn't get actual boobies until I was 19 or so, and didn't get actually curvy until my mid twenties! LOL

Congrats to you and your little woman! :-) Cheers!
post #38 of 42
Oh wow, this thread is making me want to cry. I really hope my dd follows in my footsteps and doesn't hit puberty until she's 12, because I just cannot believe that in 1.5 years she could be on the road to womanhood. That's too soon! Maybe I'll stop feeding her.
post #39 of 42
Thread Starter 
I talked to my mom and she went through her old journals. Apparently she was wrong about when she got her period. She was about 9. Almost 10. She thought it was when she lived with her mom but apparently it went away for awhile and came back.

And now I am also totally freaking out about environmental estrogens. The only organic milk around here is Horizons and it's extremely expensive. Our regular milk is artificial hormone free (or so it claims) but seeing how she is anemic, vegetarian, and has trouble getting enough calcium already with her diet, I can't cut milk out and can not afford all organic. So that's freaking me out.
post #40 of 42
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... but seeing how she is anemic, vegetarian, and has trouble getting enough calcium already with her diet, I can't cut milk out and can not afford all organic. So that's freaking me out.
Is she iron anemic? Has her dr suggested anything to rectify the situation -- supplements or other? Milk actually tends to be worse for anemia and, at best, certainly doesn't help correct anemia. I'd see that anemia and the need for calcium as two separate issues.

Could you try calcium fortified OJ or even those calcium chews? There are a lot of vegetarian sources of iron. My girls like black strap mollasses drizzled on their PB on tortillas or toast. Depending on how open she is to green leafy veggies, some of those are also good sources of iron. Perhaps try posting in the vegetarian nutrition part of MDC to see if you get any other ideas.

In re to it being the milk, though, it probably isn't something you're going to know for sure. There are all kinds of things that are correlated with earlier puberty even things one wouldn't expect like having been a low birth weight or preterm baby.
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