Looking for Tips

[Lineymom]

I have an 8mo DD who I have started ecing with a bit for about a month. I have a few questions and would love some tips.
I generally put her on the potty as soon as she wakes up from a nap or in the morning upon waking. Most of the time if she is dry she will go, but sometimes we sit and sit and I give up and put a diaper on her, then she goes w/in 10mins. I have her coverless (CD) most of the time at home.
So how long do your sit w/ your DC while waiting for them to go? It seems I always have a dozen things to do and am thinking about it all while waiting, or she has woke from a nap while I am in the middle of something I have to get back to. How do you manage that? She is a terrible napper and it is not often I can sneak away and get anything done anyway (I have 2 older DS) w/o waking her. A lot of naps are spent naking (like right now

Needless to say I welcome anytime that she is playing well w/o me. So anytime we are not physically attached (she is playing on the floor, crawling pulling-up or in her jumperoo) she will probably potty and I will miss it. Is it realistic to expect this or do you all look for cues all the time?

Speaking of cues, we are not doing that. I cannot tell when she is about to pee. I can w/ poop, if I am right with her. I haven't done any cueing sounds because when she goes in the potty I often do not hear it. I only see it when I get her off. I have a noisy house w/ 2 boys and always a washer or something going

I have a potty that I got about 6-7 years ago from walmart. It has a separate bowl to remove and empty. It is kinda tipsy and despite her being very big for her age (she wears 24m clothes) her feet don't touch the floor. Should I get a more comfy potty? I'd love for her to be able to get off of it safely herself, if I had to walk away and had left her sitting and playing with a toy. Is that even realistic?

[N&M]

Not sure about the rest, but I know what you mean about waiting, my dd sometimes takes a while to go--but more for poop than for pee. I have a 4 song system. She has 4 songs we usually sing on the potty (On Top of Spaghetti, The Wheels on the Bus, Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer, and Old McDonald). If nothing's happening by the time we reach the end of the set, we get off! Usually pee happens during the first song, but poo can take all 4 to get going. I don't sing all 4 every time if I know she doesn't need to poo. This way, the time passes (and it really only takes a few minutes to sing all 4) w/o me feeling like it's been forever, and I know I've given her enough chance to go.

Does she still sometimes pee 5-10 minutes after we get off? You betcha, but it's not for lack of opportunity! You can lead a horse to water...

[Lineymom]

Yay!!! I got a reply!

We are doing so much better since I got the bblp. Much more comfy for her and I can step away, she can reach for toys etc. I am getting better at the intuition thing, too, I think.

[Snapdragon]

my ds is only 4 months old but I also wonder about the how long to wait for a poop thing! We don't catch many poops- we catch lots of pees. Lots of times we will sit for a long time for a poop and then he will go ten minutes or so after we stop- usually when he is relaxed. I just try to keep going and figure that any associations I am giving him with releasing into the toilet is a step in the right direction, and try to refrain from putting too much pressure on the situation.
Sometimes I get really impatient waiting and sometimes I Am fine so I just go until I start to feel like I just dont want to do this anymore!
But usually when we do catch the poops they happen pretty quickly.

[Harmony96]

When you talk about the waiting, are you waiting for a pee or a poop or either/or? In the beginning, I think I waited maybe 5-ish minutes and then would get off. Catches aren't vitally important for their learning process in the beginning, though...associations are. Be consistent with offering her the potty (I went through a phase where I'd do it pretty much at every diaper change, even if the diaper was soaked, lol) and be consistent with making a cue sound when you notice her going.

As for looking for signals all the time (to me, a "cue" is a sound I make for DS so that he knows that 1) I know he might need to potty and 2) it's OK to potty in the toilet (or wherever I have him at the time), and a "signal" is initiated by DS where he is trying to let ME know that he has needs to be attended to. Just saying this so that you understand what I mean when I'm using those words in my posts. ), I do not do that. I mean, I even attempted to have a 100% nakey day w/ DS, so I could observe him, and was an utter failure at that, lol. I ended up observing for about 20 minutes (which of course were dry) and then just put a diaper on anyway, lol. Even now, I totally cannot read his signals at all, if they're there, so we just EC based on timing. He's not regular w/ #2s but if I take him to the potty often enough, he expects it, and will hold it. He even holds it even through waking up 5-6 times/night to nurse.

[Lineymom]

Originally Posted by Harmony96

When you talk about the waiting, are you waiting for a pee or a poop or either/or?



He even holds it even through waking up 5-6 times/night to nurse.

Mostly, for pee, I mean. We are pretty on for poop and I can usually tell when she is done. Sometimes I "know" she has to pee and we sit and sit and nothing, but 5 minutes later a wet diaper/trainer or puddle! She also, almost every morning, does a huge pee/poop upon waking the no more than 10min go by and she pees again!

Wow! Thats amazing. Mine DD has done that a couple of times ever.