sex hurts :(

[LHcj2008]

So of course, now that I'm 16+3 weeks pregnant, I'm getting my libido back and lo and behold, sex hurt so much that my husband and I had to stop. It feels like his penis has a pointy end to it (which it doesn't, lol).

Is painful sex during pregnancy normal? I had a Pap and vag exam done by my midwife a month or so ago, along with the blood test that rules out STDs. Everything came back normal and always has been in the vagina department. Needless to say, I'm feeling a little discouraged. My husband and I have successfully had sex ONCE since finding out I was pregnant, in APRIL. All the other times we tried, either I laid there like a dead fish because my libido took a giant nose dive during my first trim, or we had to stop because it hurt. My poor husband understands but it is obviously frustrating for both of us.

I'm just wondering if this is common? He did say that he notices I am softer "in there" so is it just overly sensitive? It is quite painful and I would think it shouldn't be. Sigh.

[Baby~Braatens~Mama]

Idk what the norm is, or if there is one .
I was a little sensitive early on, but dtd just seemed a little more intense for me. Lately it seems to be borderline painfull. We have decreased the amount of times we dtd, mostly because it has gotten a little awkward and uncomfortable.
I am going to
Good luck, mama!

[lynsage]

Sometimes it feels like DF is hitting my cervix or something when we have intercourse. It hurts!!!

You might want to try some positions that allow for shallow penetration or just have him go a little easier. Lying on your side helps, especially if he can lie behind you.

If you're into it, you could try other kinds of intercourse besides vaginal.

[sere234]

[QUOTE=lynsage;15624096]You might want to try some positions that allow for shallow penetration or just have him go a little easier. QUOTE]

We had to try a few different positions before one worked. It was actually pretty funny: me grunting and groaning, flopping around 7 months pregnant to new positions for 10 minutes before anything worked. Not too romantic but we did get to reestablish intimacy that's been lacking!!!

[lynsage]

Originally Posted by sere234

We had to try a few different positions before one worked. It was actually pretty funny: me grunting and groaning, flopping around 7 months pregnant to new positions for 10 minutes before anything worked.

I am so there- I'm a big, voluptuous earth goddess to begin with, 4 months along and ever since I started getting a belly I don't even TRY to look sexy during position transition time

[katelove]

Sex was painful for me when I wa pregnant. Not what you are describing but like I had an abrasion or something. Didn't matter how much lubricant we used or what position. Nothing helped. The problem resolved instantly after J was born

[trekkingirl]

I agree about different positions. Poor DH, his favorite position hurts so much we can't go that route. I have experienced way easier climax since becoming pregnant. You may find this to be the case for you too. Maybe ways that wouldn't work for you before will make you O right away? Maybe oral?

[colorclash]

We've had the same problem. For me it feels like I'm dry (even if I'm not) and it just didn't feel good, sometimes to the point of burning or stinging or both. I talked to my midwife about it and she said that usually sex is better during pregnancy. Her advice was to try some lubrication. We did and it helped A LOT! Now that we are 7+ months along, positioning is the new challenge, but that is easy to work out now that the act itself doesn't hurt.

The way that I look at it is, I'd rather have ok or little or no sex while I'm pregnant and know that good sex is in my future (after I recover from birth and I'm not exhausted from taking care of a baby), instead of being on the other side of things where sex is better during pregnancy, and not as good while not pregnant. We will be not pregnant more than pregnant in our lives.

[StarMama]

Yes, my cervix is so sensitive (especially this pregnancy) that I just can't tolerate certain positions at all. I'm sure the go to position won't work so well once I'm hitting third trimester but laying on my stomach works well for us right now (keeps him from penetrating so deeply).