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[Jyotsna]

Maybe you would be surprised, but I have found a solution to some of my kids problems.

Most of you know the history of my daughter.

I was talking to my daughter's doctor about these problems and he asked to see some of the therapy records. The records actually have the information about my daughter sleeping with her dad. The therapist also recorded my daughter's attempts at trying to take a bath/shower at her dad's house, and being unable to do so.

I believe the doctor will call CPS tomarrow.

My ex almost hit me yesterday, and I have prove...via video camera. He grabbed my door, pulled it open and flung his fist at me several times, also trying to grab at me. When he finally picked up my daughter (I had him do it at a public fast food place) he jerked her from the seat she was sitting in, and jerked so hard that she tripped twice. I have video of that too.

I'm hoping after nearly 8 years of this that i am finally going to be able to help my kids. They are not physically injured...but there are emotional scares. Please wish me luck.

[Theia]

OMG Jyotsna, I am so glad to read this latest update. Sad that these things had to happen, but congratulations on getting video of his abusive tactics as well as finally getting a medical professional on your side. Wishing you luck and strength as you take these next steps.

[New_Natural_Mom]

Hopefully this is what it will take to finally get him out of your kids lives! Good luck!

[chaoticzenmom]

OMG...I hope so. So smart about the video camera at exchanges...or did someone else see it and record it?

[BunnySlippers]

Good!

[meemee]

FINALLY!!!!!

hope and pray jyotsna that this is the BEGINNING.

and your children are heading towards never feeling emotionally scared again.

good luck.

and please keep us posted.

i am curious though how did the video camera thing happen. captured it on the fast food surveillance camera?

[doubledutch]

i've followed your story and i know there have been ridiculous obstacles along the way, so i just wanted to say you are an awesome mom to never give up on doing what's right for your kids. i know it has been really hard. you are smart and tough - they're lucky to have a mom like you!

[laohaire]

I am sending good wishes for this to be the catalyst you need to finally end this trauma once and for all.

[MissLotus]

I do wish you luck, and hope they do call CPS. Now also follow up legally on all of this with a lawyer, because in the end that is what will make the biggest difference!

[chaoticzenmom]

I hope you're doing ok. I'm nervous for you.

[hotmamacita]

Originally Posted by Jyotsna

Maybe you would be surprised, but I have found a solution to some of my kids problems.

Most of you know the history of my daughter.

I was talking to my daughter's doctor about these problems and he asked to see some of the therapy records. The records actually have the information about my daughter sleeping with her dad. The therapist also recorded my daughter's attempts at trying to take a bath/shower at her dad's house, and being unable to do so.

I believe the doctor will call CPS tomarrow.

My ex almost hit me yesterday, and I have prove...via video camera. He grabbed my door, pulled it open and flung his fist at me several times, also trying to grab at me. When he finally picked up my daughter (I had him do it at a public fast food place) he jerked her from the seat she was sitting in, and jerked so hard that she tripped twice. I have video of that too.

I'm hoping after nearly 8 years of this that i am finally going to be able to help my kids. They are not physically injured...but there are emotional scares. Please wish me luck.

That sounds like physical injury to me. And his previous actions towards you (flinging his fists at you) seem like physical threats. I do not know how you could have let your dd go into his care given how he was relating to you and to her.

I hope she is home with you soon and that the truth comes to light.

[Jyotsna]

Thanks everyone. As to the last response about how could I let my daughter go with him? I have come to the realization that I can't fight for my children in jail. In our city, I would go to jail if I don't follow the parenting plan....which is why the PPP needs to be changed. In my city, a woman's ex husband can break her wrist and he doesn't get charged, but the mother almost gets arrested for "tresspassing" in the driveway, while picking up the children at the correct time. So, I wish I could just run away with my kids, but I can't. I won't. I will stay and fight. And believe me, my mother claws are out now.

I wonder what happened however...because I saw my dd at her PT appointment today. Her hair was washed and she smelled good. I was glad to see that, but wondered if my ex was visited and told her to take a bath.

[hotmamacita]

Originally Posted by Jyotsna

In my city, a woman's ex husband can break her wrist and he doesn't get charged, but the mother almost gets arrested for "tresspassing" in the driveway, while picking up the children at the correct time. So, I wish I could just run away with my kids, but I can't. I won't. I will stay and fight. And believe me, my mother claws are out now.

I wonder what happened however...because I saw my dd at her PT appointment today. Her hair was washed and she smelled good. I was glad to see that, but wondered if my ex was visited and told her to take a bath.

Your city sounds horrid. I am so sorry that you have to deal with abuse and no one protecting your kids and you. What did you end up doing with the video of him almost hitting you? Did/can you take that to the police and file a report and have documentation of his rage?

I do not want to appear to blame you in my last or any post. I feel for you. I cannot imagine watching my child treated like that. I wish you so much luck and Hope.

[Jyotsna]

Mamacita, I didn't take it as a blaming, but more as you can't imagine leaving a child in that situation. I have to fight for my daughter, not run. I don't think I would be teaching my children right to run from the law while running away from their father. I need to hash this out in court.

By the way, I may have found an attorney. I'm waiting to hear from him Monday. Like I said, my mama claws are out and I will legally do what I need to do to protect my kids.

[cheer mom]

totally side-track question--have you thought about running with the kids? What made you decide against it? Would you ever change your mind? What would have to happen to make you change your mind?

I ask because you and your children have been wronged for so, so long. It's horrible. I pray that one day you and your children will get the justice you deserve--and that you can make a difference for other people going through this.

[MissLotus]

So glad you are pursuing a new lawyer! I hope this one's the right one - even if not, keep going until you find the one who will fight for you and your kids because I think once this goes back before a judge, with a competent lawyer who can bring your ex's behavior to light, your kids will finally get some very much needed relief from this abuse. I'm hoping for you - YOU CAN DO IT!

[Jyotsna]

I believe in the process, and I don't want to go against it. As for helping others, I plan to. I'm learning alot.

[LoveOhm]

Best of wishes you and your dd needed some light the the end of the tunnel.... (((HUGS)))

[PoppyMama]

With all the technology now and how much documentation is needed for daily life I don't think running works anymore.