I am at a loss, I HONESTLY feel like I have tried everything in this situation, but I know I haven't...So I turn to you all. 
DD is 21 months, she has never been an 'easy' sleeper, has never slept thru the night etc. I would like to night wean her, but it's proving way harder than I thought. She still wakes 1-3 times a night although we just moved her to her own room and bed, which she was still doing in our bed. She only nurses once, at 6am-ish when the sun comes up. Every other time, one of us has to go in and pat her/sit there till she falls asleep again.
I'm trying to tackle one problem at a time here, so the real problem is getting her to sleep in the first place. For the past, hmm, 4/5 months or so she has been taking 1-2 hours to fall asleep at night, EVERY NIGHT. Naps are fine. So, I had DH take over night time. We nurse on the couch, DH takes her and rocks/hums etc. and gets her to sleep within 30 mins. If I go in there with her, it takes well over an hour, every time. She fights it in every way when I am there. Blinking her eyes a lot, and blinking them hard to stop from closing them, playing with the crib bars with her feet, bouncing her legs, playing with my hand that usually rests on her back/chest/head to help her sleep, and eventually she starts provoking me by kicking me etc....and more. I have started not trying to get her down til 9/930 when she is really tired, but it still takes over an hour, not with DH though.
I don't understand why she fights sleep only with me, but it HAS to stop. I simply cannot sit in silence next to her bed for hours on end EVERY.SINGLE.NIGHT, it's exhausting and infuriating. DH cannot do every night because he works nights, I have to figure this out. Does anyone have any ideas before I put the crib back together and let her CIO?!?
DD is 21 months, she has never been an 'easy' sleeper, has never slept thru the night etc. I would like to night wean her, but it's proving way harder than I thought. She still wakes 1-3 times a night although we just moved her to her own room and bed, which she was still doing in our bed. She only nurses once, at 6am-ish when the sun comes up. Every other time, one of us has to go in and pat her/sit there till she falls asleep again.
I'm trying to tackle one problem at a time here, so the real problem is getting her to sleep in the first place. For the past, hmm, 4/5 months or so she has been taking 1-2 hours to fall asleep at night, EVERY NIGHT. Naps are fine. So, I had DH take over night time. We nurse on the couch, DH takes her and rocks/hums etc. and gets her to sleep within 30 mins. If I go in there with her, it takes well over an hour, every time. She fights it in every way when I am there. Blinking her eyes a lot, and blinking them hard to stop from closing them, playing with the crib bars with her feet, bouncing her legs, playing with my hand that usually rests on her back/chest/head to help her sleep, and eventually she starts provoking me by kicking me etc....and more. I have started not trying to get her down til 9/930 when she is really tired, but it still takes over an hour, not with DH though.
I don't understand why she fights sleep only with me, but it HAS to stop. I simply cannot sit in silence next to her bed for hours on end EVERY.SINGLE.NIGHT, it's exhausting and infuriating. DH cannot do every night because he works nights, I have to figure this out. Does anyone have any ideas before I put the crib back together and let her CIO?!?
hopefully we get some good advice!
