Originally Posted by WindyCityMom
She gets constipated so it takes her awhile to poop. I don't get why she doesn't run mid-poop to the bathroom. Sheesh
I would go for frequent reminders to go try the potty, like once an hour or so, either a check-in question, or a statement that it's time to go give it a shot. I think 2.5 is old enough to notice elimination, but not always old enough to have the impulse control/wherewithal to take oneself to the potty in a timely manner.
Does she have any signals that a poop is on its way? Look for those, and if you see her doing the poop dance or whatever, hustle her into the bathroom. If she's just coming to you after the fact, just be as calm as you can (I had to pass all poop accidents on to DH for about 6 months because it was such a trigger for me that unless I had to deal, I didn't want to). Is there something special you can do with her when she's on the potty to make it more pleasant to go hang out there poop? Songs, candles, incense, special toy or books you can play with/read to pass the time?
I would also suggest having her squat, not stand, and not sit - squatting is the best physiological position for pooping and avoiding constipation. In a full squat, the thighs give the colon a bit of a massage and help relax the sphincter muscles. Yet one more thing that Western culture gets wrong that does girls and women especially a disservice.
Proponents of squat toilets argue that:
* Squatting makes elimination faster, easier and more complete.
* Elimination in squatting posture protects the nerves that control the prostate, bladder and uterus from becoming stretched and damaged.
* Squatting relaxes the puborectalis muscle which normally chokes the rectum in order to maintain continence.
* Squatting securely seals the ileocecal valve, between the colon and the small intestine. In the conventional sitting position, this valve is unsupported and often leaks during evacuation.
* For pregnant women, squatting avoids pressure on the uterus when using the toilet. Daily squatting helps prepare the mother-to-be for a more natural delivery.
* Squatting may reduce the occurrence or severity of hemorrhoids and possibly other colorectal disorders such as diverticulosis and appendicitis.
I'd also try to keep her on as much of a whole foods, high fiber, high water content diet as possible, and explore if there are any reasons that she might not want to poop - fear, anxiety, control, anything you can do to back off or be more supportive?
That's a long list of stuff I would do.