What would you do?

[dakotablue]

I don't know if this belongs here or else where.

I want to get DS dedicated at church. The original plan was to wait until Sept, but my grandmothers house sold and now she is leaving Aug 20th. She raised me and its important I make it so she can be there so that leaves...

Aug 1st...My sister can't come
Aug 8th...My parents can't come
Aug 15th...Dh's Aunt can't come.
Aug 22nd...My Grandma can't come.

That's my choices. Dh is close to his Aunt, and things are really unstable with his mom and me. My sister says its no big deal, But I want her there....
Obviously the 8th and the 22nd aren't happening.

What would you do? Why is it no choice is right?

[Kelly1101]

Well, if no choice is right, you have to go with the one that sucks the least. Since your only options are the 1st and the 15th, which of those is worse? If you really want your husband's aunt to be there, you'll have to take your sister at her word. Maybe plan a special day with your sister and your son on another day to make up for it.

[Tjej]

I vote Aug 1st.

It's hard but you can't please everyone. This will become more and more evident the longer you parent...

Tjej

[treeoflife3]

if your husband is close to his aunt and your sister doesn't mind missing, then I agree with PP and do something with her a different day to commemorate the dedication. She can be there in spirit.

[MaerynPearl]

I agree... I would hate to miss something like that for my little brothers child... but if it came down to me or someone else that means a lot, Id rather it be me... I can always watch video/see pictures and come some other time to spoil my little niece/nephew!

[just_lily]

Is your church able to accomodate you on any one of those days? Ours only does them a certain number of days a year... it takes away a bit of time from the service, so although everyone loves to see the babies if there are other things going on that Sunday there just isn't enough time to do it all. Plus sometimes our lead pastor is away. So I would definitely check that out first.

Are all of these family members active in your faith? Your church? Personally it would be more important for me to have family members who are more likely to be spiritual role models for my child in attendance rather than other family who I may be close to but they may not share my faith. In my mind baby dedications are about God first, and family second. Just another way to think of things.

[ElliesMomma]

wait till september as per your original plan and pay grandma's flight for her to be there.

[Smithie]

I'd let your sister skip it, if she's not upset. And take this as good practice for the many other scheduling decisions you'll be making in future.

[dakotablue]

Thanks so so much for your input!!


Well factors to consider, My grandmother raised me, no way I'm not going to have it without her.

Dh doesn't really care if his Aunt is there. He thinks its no big deal. It really is the further issues with his mom that's the only thing that makes me hesitate. She really is driving me nuts.

My sister and her husband are going to be integral parts of raising my son, so I want them there.

Anyway the point is now mute because my Mum is awesome (grandma) She's changing her travel plans for me so Its going to be the 22nd.

I HATE having to deal with Dh's mom. Seriously this all would be a no brainier if it wasn't for her. I can't wait for Christmas and Thanksgiving....