We are really tight on money, and I know that if I am a candidate for VBA2C, I would need a doula because all the problems start with epidural/pitocin, etc., and my husband isn't interested in playing this role. He has his reasons.
But it feels too selfish because insurance would pay for another c-section without a penny from us, and a doula around here costs quite a bit. My HMO certainly wouldn't pay for a doula. It feels selfish even considering it. The irony of it all is that the doula would be cheaper for the insurance company than surgery.
The thought of having another c-section makes me sad. I mean, there are upsides, and I'm not obsessed with having any kind of specific birth experience. I had 28 hours of labor with #1, and 24 were unmedicated. I know how much it hurts to labor, and I didn't even get to pushing. And c-sections are scheduled, which makes everything easier. I would get another couple extra nights in the hospital to rest instead of having to caretake the other two. I just hate the recovery.