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[annettemarie]

I'm about 20 weeks pregnant with twins. This has been the most horrible, exhausting, feeling crappy pregnancy I've ever had. Just for some background, LOL!

DH is thinking of going to a weekend conference about 7 hours away at the end of August, at which point I'll be 25/26 weeks. I can't handle 4 kids here alone. Really. I just can't. And we have no family in the area. So, options would be

1. He misses it. (But he really wants to go and I really want him to. I think it would be good for him)

2. We go as a family.

3. We try to get people to take the kids and just I go with him. I have a friend who offered to take my daughter, another friend who would probably take my oldest son, and we could see if the younger two could go with grandparents about 3 hours away.

[MaerynPearl]

If my doctor cleared me, I would go with option 3 personally. Apart from the traveling, I'm sure you could use the break from the kids!

[mamazen2five]

def option 3. what a well deserved break that would be for you.

[annettemarie]

DH is worried about me traveling that far from home, but I am going to ask the doc this week.

[MaerynPearl]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

DH is worried about me traveling that far from home, but I am going to ask the doc this week.

if doc clears it, DH should be fine, right?

FWIW, I travelled 1100 miles at 30 weeks (granted I am not having twins I DID have spotting about a week and half before) but my doctor gave me the a-ok for it.

my only problem ended up swelling ankles!

[Surfacing]

Originally Posted by mamazen2five

def option 3. what a well deserved break that would be for you.

[ThisCat]

What about sending your DH off on his trip and sending the kids away to the people that offered to take them and spending a nice weekend at home alone? You could have your DH stock the kitchen, get some movies from Netflix, and just relax. Even if you could just get rid of a couple of the kids (and I mean that in the nicest possible way ), it might be doable to stay home with the other two especially if you had friends that could help out a little. If all that failed, I vote for your DH to stay home.

I had a major complication occur completely out of the blue at 24 weeks during my first pregnancy, and I was so thankful it happened the day before I was going out of town rather than while I was gone. That experience has made me a bit reluctant to travel during pregnancy, particularly in the later stages.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Option 3 would be the best one I think.

[DeerMother]

I'm agreeing with thiscat's option 4. I travelled 3 hours at about 25 weeks with twins. It was miserable. Needing to pee, not comfortable to sleep or sit in car, exhaustion from travelling was multiplied, can't elevate feet, back pain etc etc. If you could insta-transport yourself there, I'd have a different answer.

[Banana731]

# 3, but This Cat's # 4 is awesomely appealing too!

[VillageMom6]

Oh, yes. Go with Option #4. Enjoy a weekend at home by yourself. It may be the last time you get some alone time for a loooong while.

I think it would be relaxing even if you just had the youngest two go bye-bye for a bit. I find that when I'm home "alone" with my oldest two, it's an entirely different atmosphere. They are fairly helpful and quiet. We do things we can't do with the younger children, like go see a rated PG movie or something.

Best of luck to you, hon! Enjoy that weekend somehow!

[mamabearsoblessed]

Originally Posted by Banana731

# 3, but This Cat's # 4 is awesomely appealing too!

Word .

[aikigypsy]

What everyone else said -- you could do with a break. I think it would be nice to go to the conference with your DH and get some couple time, but 7 hours each way for a weekend trip could be a bit much. Either way, if you can leave the kids with friends/family for the weekend you'll get a chance to relax, read a book, go out for leisurely cups of coffee, etc.

[annettemarie]

I hadn't even thought of option 4, LOL! But it is appealing. I think I'll wait to see what the US shows and how everything is going this week and see what the doctor says before I choose between 3 and 4. I just know there is no way I could handle the 4 kids by myself right now.

[rparker]

Definitely option #4! I just took a trip at 25-26 weeks that involved a 4 hour drive in each direction plus a two hour flight. The flying wasn't so bad, but the car segment nearly killed me and I'm only carrying one baby. (Actually, one hour car rides are killing my back now too...)

[Artichokie]

I vote for #3, only because I would not enjoy myself home alone for an entire weekend. If you would, I vote option #4 and go find a weekend spa package to indulge in.

[EA77]

option #4. I went to a conference with DH once and ended up bored and stranded. I thought we'd be able to go out to dinners in the evenings, but every night they had meet-and-greet functions or awards dinners, and those are actually some of the most important networking opportunities at a conference.

[zinemama]

Option 4 all the way.

[annettemarie]

The other thing is, I don't know about leaving my 3-year-old. I mean, I would have no problem leaving him with his older brother and sister there, but I'm worried how he'll do with just the six-year-old.

[ThisCat]

Would you be able to manage if you just had the three year old to look after? If so, maybe you could send your daughter to the friend that offered and send the other two to the grandparents.