I would like to discuss pros and cons of trying a VBAC versus scheduling another c-section. I had an extremely traumatic birth with my first child, and ended up with emergency c-section. Without going into long details, he was OP, vaccuum failed, epidural ran out, I felt them operating on me, and was put under general anesthesia. Following the surgery, I was drugged up, in severe pain for months, and really felt like I missed out on the first important few days and weeks of my son's life. I also didn't sleep for a full week, two days before his birth and the whole 5 days we were in the hospital. I just really wasn't there.
While my gut instinct is to try for a VBAC this next time, part of me wants to consider the other option. If I scheduled a c-section, I could be well-rested, alert, present, and actually there to greet my baby as they enter the world. I missed out on all that the first time, and I feel awful about it. I realize that if I try a VBAC and it doesn't work out, I could end up in the same situation again this time, missing out on the birth and the first days altogether. Does anyone have any insight on this? Has anyone chosen to do a repeat c-section for this purpose?
While my gut instinct is to try for a VBAC this next time, part of me wants to consider the other option. If I scheduled a c-section, I could be well-rested, alert, present, and actually there to greet my baby as they enter the world. I missed out on all that the first time, and I feel awful about it. I realize that if I try a VBAC and it doesn't work out, I could end up in the same situation again this time, missing out on the birth and the first days altogether. Does anyone have any insight on this? Has anyone chosen to do a repeat c-section for this purpose?











). Many women here develop birth plans with specific requests in order to avoid a repeat of prior trauma, and that is totally normal. Build your desires for your next birth for exactly how you want it. Envision what is a perfect birth for you - is that laying on an operating table to be cut open or is grunting and striving while you push your baby into the world, into your arms? (I want the latter!
). For me, there are many things in hindsight from my DS's birth that I am wiser about now in order to [hopefully] avoid next time. You have those ideas too, and it can help shape your birth plan. I am sorry you had a traumatic birth - you lived it and it's very real!

After working very, very hard in labor for him, that was one of the most devastating things for me - not just a c/s, but not being there, not seeing him, not knowing where he was or what was happening. I *still* don't know the details of his birth or first hours? minutes? (I don't know how long it was) because I wasn't there. And when I did wake up and my DH was holding him for me to see, I could only see a blue figure and a blanket in his arms - there were no faces, no baby, because my eyes were cloudy from the anesthesia. That is not how we are supposed to meet our babies. 
), just my husband and my midwife. Turns out that was all I needed. I think I had to get over a lot of stuff in my head before I had my VBAC. Reading Nancy Wainer Cohen's books helped me a lot and so did Ina May's Guide to Childbirth. My opinion is that, ANY option is better than surgery (unless you NEED one for medical reasons). I agree with one of the PP who said that women need labor and so do the babies. After my c-section, my son came out wheezing because of the fluid in his lungs and listless because of the epidural. He wouldn't nurse at all and the experience was just traumatizing for me since I could feel some of what they were doing. I had pain for at least a year and instead of nursing my son, I had to pump. Also, I think I dealt with post traumatic stress too because I was terrified to sleep flat on my back for months. I had to sleep in a sitting position. After my VBAC, after 15 mins of pushing, my son was placed on my chest and was breathing fine. He nursed instantly and he was so alert. I had to post traumatic stress. I had minimal pain (2nd degree tear) and was up and moving around instantly. So, from my experience and from my research, I believe that VBAC has many many more pros and cesareans have many many more cons (many woman seem to forget that it is MAJOR surgery). But only you can decide what is best for you and your family
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