Weekly Chat Thread - July 19-25

[my kidlets and me]

About time to start a new thread!

Got back from 2 weeks at my parents' house while dh was installing lovely hardwood floors upstairs. They look great! Now he has to do trim, baseboard, etc, and then the kids can move into their bedrooms, hopefully with enough time to get settled before baby comes.

Had a really disturbing dream last night - I dreamed that my baby came really early and was at the NICU at the hospital. It was a boy and he was OK, just really small. I know why I had the dream - a really good friend of mine (in Edmonton) is going through the very same thing. I don't know if it's coincidence, but all my dreams about this baby have been boy dreams...I guess we'll see in November!

Bought some lovely Okanagan cherries yesterday, and I think I'll make some cherry turnovers today. I wish we could buy sour cherries locally - I'd love to make a proper cherry pie. Pie with sweet cherries just isn't the same.

Our sex thread was shut down last night! Too bad - I thought it was a frank discussion of a part of pregnancy you don't hear about very often.

Dd1 has a drama camp this week and I have my mw appt tomorrow (yay!) - otherwise it's a pretty quiet week. How is everybody else doing?

[~Demeter~]

I thought the sex thread was quite informative... and yes, frank. I think that's the only thing I'm not overly fond about MDC (sorry Heather! I do overall like MDC).

I'm starving this morning... and of course my son waited until this morning to do the dishes. So now I have to wait until the dishwasher finishes to eat.

My littlest boy is crying and carrying on like the kid in the movie Parenthood (I think? With Steve Martin?) Anyway... it's driving me a little batty this early with nothing in my belly. I'm not a very good mama without some food in my belly and at least an hour of alone time which I didn't get this morning. Ahh well.. suck it up, right?

[ILoveMySofie]

Originally Posted by my kidlets and me

Bought some lovely Okanagan cherries yesterday, and I think I'll make some cherry turnovers today. I wish we could buy sour cherries locally - I'd love to make a proper cherry pie. Pie with sweet cherries just isn't the same.

Our sex thread was shut down last night! Too bad - I thought it was a frank discussion of a part of pregnancy you don't hear about very often.

Sex and cherries.. this should make a good start for the week! No but seriously you just made me DROOL so badly imagining your cherry turnovers I wish...

Too bad I didnt check out the sex thread after it must have gotten good...since Im not toooooo interested in sex these days and much more intersted in ....

Nic- ohhh alone time in the AM is just the best. I wonder if this is the true reason why I am up early every morning no matter how late I went to bed!

[~Demeter~]

Mmm food!


My alone time this morning was spent hitting play on the Roku for whatever show it was that my little one picked out to watch while I dozed. I'm really not sleeping great.

[Ellen Griswold]

Now that we are finally home from our crazy long vacation, it seems like there's so much stuff to get done around the house. Just before we left, a friend gave me a bunch of baby clothes and while we were gone, dd's aunt gave her an entire TUB of clothes. All totally great, but I'm pulling out my hair trying to organize things. DD has a new chest of drawers in the garage. Which means I have to clean out the current dresser first. Frankly, I'd much rather sit here online than actually accomplish anything.

[St. Margaret]

We're getting a TrueFit. Supposed to fit newborns really well, we live in San Diego so we never would need to bundle up baby inside or keep the seat from getting too cold, etc. I'm hoping the removeable headrest will mean it will fit okay in our compact car while it's really reclined RF, and then we can put it up a bit more upright RFing when the headret has to go back on. I really hope to squeeze all four of us into our little car, b/c right now we cannot afford the upgrade to minivan! the safety forumhere IS really great, I totally rely on it for carseat into.

[kittywitty]

Sorry about the dream, Bobbi.

Anyone else carrying REALLY low and having a ton of BH already? I tried on my bellycast and the baby is super super low even compared to my belly after my last dd dropped. I've had several comments by people about it, too. And I get BH contractions like a couple an hour sometimes-they make the blood rush to my head! Am I the only one?

[Metasequoia]

Yes, feeling really low - but I did with my last & even the second one, I think - but the boys have definitely felt lower...and heavier.

I always have a lot of painful BH with my pregnancies, from like 11 weeks onward. Had a doozy this afternoon while laying on the couch.

And DARN! about the sex thread! I haven't looked yet, but I hope I can still read it! I tried something that was mentioned last night & wanted to update. Oh well.

[Metasequoia]

Oh, I forgot to add: went to get some baby clothes with DP yesterday. Today I got the bucket seat from my sister, my Isis pump (well, half of it, she has to locate the rest of it ), tons of prefolds & covers AND, I found a KKAFP at a local store on sale for only $45! Brand new! I'm so ready & the little turkey isn't anywhere near being cooked. sigh.

[mzminty]

Originally Posted by Metasequoia

And DARN! about the sex thread! I haven't looked yet, but I hope I can still read it! I tried something that was mentioned last night & wanted to update. Oh well.

Well I hope it was going to be a positive update, for your sake!

Karen, I too have been afflicted with sciatic nerve pain that can get REALLY painful. Some days it's hurting on the left, and some days on the right. Some days it doesn't bother me much, and others I can barely walk. I keep saying I'm going to make a chiro appt, but haven't yet. I know for sure that bending over makes it worse. The day I re-potted my herbs, I was miserable!

And St. Margaret, I'm so sorry to hear about your hips/sciatica!

Is anyone getting the under the ribs stabbing pain yet? That just started today, as I noticed that my belly "popped" again and is creeping upwards! I really need to take a picture and post it on the belly thread...

[kittywitty]

Originally Posted by Metasequoia

Oh, I forgot to add: went to get some baby clothes with DP yesterday. Today I got the bucket seat from my sister, my Isis pump (well, half of it, she has to locate the rest of it ), tons of prefolds & covers AND, I found a KKAFP at a local store on sale for only $45! Brand new! I'm so ready & the little turkey isn't anywhere near being cooked. sigh.

Sweet!!!!

I'm getting a moby, nursing pads, baby clothes, and some diapers from a super awesome mama in a trade.

No rib pains yet, but the hip pains-my right round ligament is trying to kill me, I swear. The left one acted up last night during dtd. That was horrible!

[HeatherB]

I'm so not ready, but feel like I am, and am therefore entirely impatient despite not being anywhere close! Oh, well.

If you check out the removal note on the sex thread, you can see why it was removed. I think a good rule of thumb is, if you can visualize from what's being described, it's graphic. But I'm not the mod over here and my forums don't tend to get explicit threads.

I am getting BH, too. Loving them, really. Cool to feel the whole uterus, as big as it is now, all in a big ball. Though I tend to feel extra pressure on my bladder then - eek!

Anyone else getting up more frequently at night already? I had been doing really well, only getting up maybe once a few hours before I'd normally be up. Now I've been getting up 2-3 times a night. I suppose I should remind myself that it's simply preparation for waking up with a tiny newborn... and that tiny newborn is something I can be excited about!

[LadyCatherine185]

Originally Posted by St. Margaret

We're getting a TrueFit. Supposed to fit newborns really well, we live in San Diego so we never would need to bundle up baby inside or keep the seat from getting too cold, etc. I'm hoping the removeable headrest will mean it will fit okay in our compact car while it's really reclined RF, and then we can put it up a bit more upright RFing when the headret has to go back on. I really hope to squeeze all four of us into our little car, b/c right now we cannot afford the upgrade to minivan! the safety forumhere IS really great, I totally rely on it for carseat into.

That is what we have, and I love it.

[~Demeter~]

I'm getting up more at night again... it's really interfering with my sleep.


Is it weird that this time around I'm really not getting BH? I had them with all 4 of my previous pregnancies. I've had a few here and there but nothing real regular. Kinda makes me nervous but then again, I had them before and was induced all of those times.

Speaking of my previous pregnancies, can I say how much I love UP'ing? I thought I would feel rather frantic and obsessive about things but really I'm quite laid back, it's really been great for my mental health.

[LadyCatherine185]

I've been having tons of BH.. had a lot with DS too, but these I am feeling lower and are more painful than the ones I had with DS. Never a rhyme or reason to them or anything, but yeah, getting lots of them.

I can NOT find a sleeping position that I am comfortable in other than sleeping on my back. It doesn't help that we have a HORRIBLE mattress, that has a huge concave in the center... but we got a 4 inch memory foam mattress topper about a year ago that makes it MUCH more comfy.. and with all the home improvements and the cost of this pregnancy (new crappy insurance policy) a new mattress is not in the market..... Plus I have to get up to pee at least 2 times.. and we already have the crib up in our room beside our bed (nowhere to store it anymore!) and it is of course on my side of the bed so crawling out to pee is not fun!

[Stitches]

The April DDC is up!!!!

[HeatherB]

Originally Posted by Stitches

The April DDC is up!!!!

Woohoo!! We're moving UP! I'm so not sorry to have to search for November towards the middle of the DDC listings.

Catie, we only recently moved the crib (which has been sidecarred for years) away from my side of the bed and into a "baby room" (which is somewhat practical as extra play space but mostly staging for selling the house, 'cause no baby of mine has EVER slept in a crib, even though we've always had one!). It is *amazing* how much easier it is to get up and go potty now! I was seriously not fond of crawling over DH every night. And neither was he.

Nic, that's awesome that UPing is going so well! Where/with whom are you planning to birth? I'm assuming you're not doing UC since you said just UP. I think I know you're doing a HB?

So the 2yo found germs somewhere, and has since shared with ALL of us. I now have a low-grade fever and feel awful. Bah. Trying not to pass out before I can ensure all children are safely asleep. I'm just wiped.

[~Demeter~]

Heather, I am actually UC'ing this time... though it wasn't an immediately obvious decision. It's truly unfortunate but in IL there's just not a whole lot of options. There was a hb mw (not legal) that I was interested in meeting but she's almost 2 hours from my home and that would be a lot of wear and tear on my car (which isn't running the greatest right now) and also a 6 hr trip once a month, then twice a month, then once a week. Eep! I was trying to just go with the flow and keep my options open, dh wasn't so on board with UC'ing at first but as time seems to pass (and I've put the ball in his court more than once in regards to finances for a mw) it seems to be an idea both of us have settled into. I'm so at peace with the decision, I'm truly surprised. I have questions and concerns but no fears, not like I did with my hospital births. I think a lot of what inhibited me before (and why I was induced each time) stems from Kyle's birth (my oldest) and the trauma that I went through. This is oddly healing and cathartic, more so than I ever thought it would be...

Not that this pregnancy hasn't been without ups and downs, it has. I was very nervous in the beginning about miscarrying again because it was so fresh in my mind and I've had some issues bonding with baby, had moments where I really wished for an u/s to know the gender lol so I would have something to connect with. I think part of my bonding issues stem from my family not really acknowledging that I'm pregnant. That's been very hard on me... I so want to discuss and talk to them about it but I also don't want to be questioned about my choices, so I think it's just safer for now if I keep quiet.

Sorry.. I get rambly sometimes. Anyway, UP'ing has been very freeing and I'm really hoping that I am able to UC and that my experience is a good one. It feels like it will be...

[HeatherB]

Sounds like a very positive journey for you! My sister is in Chicago, and I worry for her when she and her DH have children - maybe in a year or two - that there aren't a ton of options. I do hope (and rather expect) that she'll go for a natural route, but with no CPMs and not many CNMs who do homebirth, well, who knows what she'll go with. Anyway, I really feel for those stuck in situations with rotten options! I'm glad it's been so freeing for you, though!

(And I'm glad I told my DH we are NOT leaving Texas until we are absolutely, positively, without question done having kids. Unfortunately, he may think that means we can move in December. )

[ocelotmom]

I got a ton of hand-me-down clothing today! In fact, so much that it's possible I'll go through tomorrow and be a little more selective about what we're keeping, as I *know* we aren't going to actually use a garbage bag or more full of clothing for each size! That's just the stuff I received today, and doesn't count anything I've kept from previous kids, or stuff from earlier in the pregnancy that we already moved. But I'm also hesitant to get rid of much of it, as I'm not 100% sure what the seasons will be like where we're moving (and it's possible that I'll need more than one season's clothing at a time, as they tend to have a wide temperature spread each day), or how fast baby will grow, and I'm not counting on getting much in the way of hand-me-downs after we move, or clothing gifts as this is the second girl.

I love hand-me-downs so much! This takes care of the last of my "things baby needs" stress. Except for a pump, and I'll cross that bridge when we come to it, since I probably won't need it until we're in a better financial position to get one (ie. I get a job).

I did decide on a pump, though. I finally realized that the Avent Isis manual pump really worked for me last time (better than the PIS), so the Avent Isis IQ is probably a reasonable choice for an electric pump - at the very least it ends up being an excessively expensive manual pump that I know will work for me.

My mom is acting really weird (offering to come take the kids for a few days to get them out of our hair while we're working on the move, and then acting like it's some big imposing deal and we're being totally irresponsible for not having plans to handle it ourselves when we take her up on it (which we do - it would just be slightly easier and more pleasant for us if she took them)). Don't know quite how to respond to this, because she doesn't normally act this way. But lately she has been, and its really starting to get to me.