i know the whole situation is unreasonable but bear with me. My lawyer and I offered ex a week for the summer back in May and he responded in late June with several ex parte hearings to try and get half of the summer but he never showed for any of them. Then he started texting me that if i gave him some time with the kids then he wouldn't have to spend all the thousands of dollars he had for me to pay the back child support on a lawyer to force me to give the kids to him for half the summer. My lawyer sent him another letter stating he could have a week. So after a few weeks he signed the dates we offered. Howevever we offered a wed-wed arrangement based on dr's appts etc. He decided to suddenly use his EOW visits before and after the week we offered. Which means he would be hanging out in my town for several days and part of it with the kids. Which scares the crap out of me (PTSD from previous instances plus his stalking) and i don't think the kids could handle it either. Then my son broke his hand and is scheduled to get his cast off right after he was supposed to go with ex. I called my attorney and told her that i wanted to change our agreement (now keep in mind i never signed the orignal agreement and it wasn't filed in court) from Fri-wed so that my son could get his cast off first and it would eliminate my ex from using the EOW before and after because i know he couldn't afford to stay up here that many days in a row. I told her i was scared about him being around here in town (it is a very small town) for two weeks time. So we sent him a new letter with the new dates. He texted me that i was interfering with his time with the kids and that he would have our son's cast taken off where he lives and that he would also be setting up a dentist for the kids where he lives, 1200 miles away. He owes our dentist here $1000 for past work which he refuses to pay. He says he will use the kids insurance to have it all covered down where he lives. Now, the kids insurance is in my name alone and i have sole legal custody. A dentist 1200 miles away? I feel like these are new control tactics on his behalf.
So the unreasonable part. My lawyer thinks that by shifting our orignal vistiation offer of wed-wed to fri-wed could make the judge upset. Friday morning my son gets his cast off then he could go with ex until the following wed. Even if i bring up being afraid, my restraining order, ex having broken the restraining order in the past with stalking..the judge probably won't care. My lawyer thinks the judge might say that i should let ex have our son's cast taken off down where he lives. But the insurance is in my name and i have sole legal. I hate this whole situaiton and that judge. Ugh. But this won't actually go before the judge before the visitaiton. My lawyer is thinking ahead to when my ex pitches a fit and goes before the judge for future vacations. What do you all think?
So the unreasonable part. My lawyer thinks that by shifting our orignal vistiation offer of wed-wed to fri-wed could make the judge upset. Friday morning my son gets his cast off then he could go with ex until the following wed. Even if i bring up being afraid, my restraining order, ex having broken the restraining order in the past with stalking..the judge probably won't care. My lawyer thinks the judge might say that i should let ex have our son's cast taken off down where he lives. But the insurance is in my name and i have sole legal. I hate this whole situaiton and that judge. Ugh. But this won't actually go before the judge before the visitaiton. My lawyer is thinking ahead to when my ex pitches a fit and goes before the judge for future vacations. What do you all think?
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