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post #61 of 285
40 + 2 also and still here. My parents are coming Saturday, not Tuesday so there will be no babymoon for me and DP. Assuming the baby even comes before/while they are here. We've been kind of fighting since last night. DSD has some emotional issues and just started therapy a couple of weeks ago (it took several years to get her mom to agree). The therapist was stressing to DP how important it is that he spend a lot of time with her now and after the baby is born, so now he feels all guilty that we planned to have a 1 week babymoon, which would mean we would skip having her with us the first weekend after the baby is born. My needs have always come second to hers (and I accept that as a step-mom), but in this case it really upset me.

This is what I imagine happening. I have the baby. She shows up a few days later. And I get to hear a litany of 'what's for breakfast/lunch/dinner' 'I'm bored' 'what are we doing tomorrow', etc. And for sure at least 1 or 2 tantrums about something. All this despite the fact that she is 11.5, more than capable of cooking herself something to eat, and we live in a good neighborhood with parks and she's free to roam around. DP says she really wants to help. I say she says she wants to help, but she only says so when there actually isn't anything to do.

So anyway, we aren't going to skip any of her weekends. He says if there is a conflict of needs at any time she is here my/baby needs win. But she is really capable of pushing his buttons and making him lose patience REALLY FAST, which of course stresses me to no end. I'm torn between anger because I shouldn't have to deal with this crap and guilt because she really needs to be/feel part of the whole family. Maybe she'll actually behave and be helpful. We'll see.

And rather than end of that cheery note, let me share my dream from last night with you all, it's pretty funny. I'll preface it with telling you our kitchen is nearly completedd but still under construction (it will be a couple weeks yet).

I went into labor at home and it was so fast I had the baby in the kitchen (which was finished). I was looking for my weight watchers food scale to weigh the baby and when I found it, it didn't have enough battery, and it took 4 - 9v batteries (which it doesn't). Instead of doing the immediate skin to skin contact with the baby, I left her laying on the counter (yep, a girl!!) and I ran around the house pulling the batteries out of smoke detectors while DP made dinner. And then, I was getting a ladder to get the last one out of the detector in the upstairs cathedral ceiling (which we don't have) and suddenly realized I was supposed to be skin to skin with the baby and ran down to the kitchen (where she's still just laying there on the counter) and started throwing off my clothes to "do this right".

Then I woke up and was still pregnant. When I told DP about it he said: does that mean the baby isn't coming until the kitchen is done? LOL
post #62 of 285
Neonalee- I also feel like an overturned turtle! That is exactly how I feel when I'm trying to get out of bed!!!!

Chiromommy- I am SO feeling your pain! I've broken down several times as well... Just tired of feeling like this YK?

My acupuncture went well yesterday, and after I got home I contracted HARD, ALL DAY LONG!!!!!! I thought last night had to be "the night". But once again, prodromal labor has kicked me in the ass. I really hope all these painful contractions are doing some dilating.

I have an US and NST at my 41 week tomorrow morning where I'll probably let them do a stretch and sweep. I think that's all I'm willing to do as far as interventions go. DH is irritated because he's off work and has nothing to do, I'm irritated because I'm SO HOT, my skin feels like a furnace, my belly button area is burning from the skin stretching, and I cannot for the life of me get comfortable!!! Not even with 1,000 pillows!!!! I'm just past that point...

On a happy note, our baby furniture was FINALLY delivered yesterday and it's so cute and girly!!!! I put the bedding on and put all of her clothes away in her drawers. It was so fun!!! She'll be in our room for a few months, but it was still fun putting her things together.

Come on baby!!!!! You are killing me!!!!!!!
post #63 of 285
Ugh, mamas, I'm so with you all! Today I keep having stabbing pains in my low back which have not improved with and adjustment from DH. I don't want to get my hopes up at all, but they are sort of coming and going, so...oh I hope this leads to something!!
post #64 of 285
Neonalee........sounds so frustrating, I'm hoping things go smoothly for your babymoon.

Seems like we are all having a bit of a rough day. I'm having a very hard time. I was in bed last night from 12-830 trying to sleep but up at least 6-7 times......peeing, shifting, etc. I'm so tired and emotional, it's making it very hard to keep up with DD. The worst part is DH has chosen now (the very end of my pregnancy) to start getting frustrated and angry with me over the smallest, dumbest things. He got mad at me last night because I told him to pull his pants up because he was wrecking the bottoms by walking on them. And today when I said I didn't want someone coming in to fix our cabinets on Aug 4th because I'd probably have newborn and be half naked on the couch. I know it sounds so petty and dumb but I'm so emotional right now I really can't handle it.....he should be being extra nice...I've been bawling all day and DD is upset because her mom is crying. My dad called and offered to come and pick her up for the night but I was too emotional to let her go........despite needing the break. I didn't want her to leave me on such a bad note (me crying all the time)....I feel to insecure to be away from her right now........which isn't a good thing consdering I could go into labour at anytime.
post #65 of 285
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Originally Posted by mataji4 View Post
yes, crazybean, felt great, terrific, strong, amazing til 39 weeks and now at 39 and 2 days I'm a mess.

I need to find something to do today...maybe a movie!
Mataji, that's me, too!

I've been super-positive and energetic and coping really well up until the last couple of days.

Last night sucked. Besides the usual waking constantly to pee, I woke up at 4am with acid reflux pouring into my mouth from the.worst.heartburn.ever. Same thing happened the night before. I tried sitting up and resting, which brought on the belching, which brought on the puking. I puked my guts out and collapsed on the couch exhausted, and STILL the damn huge hot brick of heartburn is crammed right btwn my ribs and top of belly and I'm still belching up stomach acid all night.

Managed to fall asleep for a few hours and called in to work. Totally wore out today and on the edge of tears because no matter what I eat or when, if I lay down to rest, my chest burning and acid reflux is upchucking into my mouth. Even propped on two pillows. Who can sleep like that?

On a secondary note, after a week of loose bowels, I'm now at the other end of the spectrum and have been stopped up for several days.

I feel like a trainwreck!

And yet no real sign that this is progressing. Maybe another week or two . . . and that makes me wanna cry just at the thought of this nightly heartburn attack stealing my sleep away for longer.

DP's going to check my cervix at our mw's request (she's 2hrs out of town). Have had cramps and bh's.

Oh, and dreamt last night that I lost my mucous plug, but today I'm still pretty 'dry' and definitely no pink.

Aaaahhh!!! The burning!!!!
post #66 of 285
had an appt today, 3 cms now and still 50% effaced, baby at -2. Been cramping since the exam and lots of mucus, but who knows if that means anything...sigh, 39 weeks tomorrow and my dd was born at 38, so now I am bitter :-).

My dr was so excited that I was so "gloppy" and "wet" and "mushy"...:-)

Why can't I be like one of those women whose water breaks in the middle of a chinese restaurant (happened to my girlfriend) and an hour later there's a baby at 38 weeks or something.....sigh.

Feeling all your pain ladies. I told my son today that if he didn't stop driving me crazy I was going to eat him and it didn't matter because I have one ready to replace him....yeah, good times.
post #67 of 285
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Originally Posted by lrgs View Post
The worst part is DH has chosen now (the very end of my pregnancy) to start getting frustrated and angry with me over the smallest, dumbest things. He got mad at me last night because I told him to pull his pants up because he was wrecking the bottoms by walking on them. And today when I said I didn't want someone coming in to fix our cabinets on Aug 4th because I'd probably have newborn and be half naked on the couch. I know it sounds so petty and dumb but I'm so emotional right now I really can't handle it.....he should be being extra nice
I SO know how you feel and am in the same boat! I even specifically told my DH this very thing and he IS NOT GETTING IT! Let's hope we all have our babies VERY soon!
post #68 of 285
Wow, we are all in a bad way today!

My heartburn has gotten worse also. Yesterday the acid coming up almost made me puke 3 times, but luckily not. And if it's not one of those it's the painful burping. Or all 3, that's fun too. I feel for ya! Water gives me heartburn. Tea. It doesn't matter. I live on a combo of some rolaids, lots of papaya tablets, and 1 generic 24 hr relief thing right before bed. And a benedryl every other night or so, so I can sleep. I wanted to be all natural but it's just not happening.

I'm definitely going to buy myself some ben and jerrys tonight. Maybe 2. Of course, the sale ended last night

And if I'm still preggo this weekend I'm getting a pedicure.
post #69 of 285
Ben and Jerry's does seem to be in order. Except I'm so nervous about growing a 10 pound baby I'm not sure if I should be having all that extra sugar.
post #70 of 285
Yesterday I went CRAZY with the nesting and now my house is spotless. I think we are going to take dd to the movies tonight--both to get out of the house so that we aren't in it making it a mess again, and to get in some last-minute bonding-with-the-big-sis before her baby brother is born. I had a long nap today which felt good but now I want to walk. Yesterday I went for a long walk and I paced up and down the stairs a dozen times and it felt awesome, actually!

I have resolved--for the time being, anyway!--to just try to enjoy this time before the baby comes and to go about my life like normal--walking, cleaning, seeing friends, enjoying my time with dd and dp, etc. Because honestly I could be waiting another two weeks if this baby waits all the way till the end!

Hope you mamas are doing better and hanging in there!
post #71 of 285
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Yesterday I went CRAZY with the nesting and now my house is spotless. I think we are going to take dd to the movies tonight--both to get out of the house so that we aren't in it making it a mess again, and to get in some last-minute bonding-with-the-big-sis before her baby brother is born. I had a long nap today which felt good but now I want to walk. Yesterday I went for a long walk and I paced up and down the stairs a dozen times and it felt awesome, actually!

I have resolved--for the time being, anyway!--to just try to enjoy this time before the baby comes and to go about my life like normal--walking, cleaning, seeing friends, enjoying my time with dd and dp, etc. Because honestly I could be waiting another two weeks if this baby waits all the way till the end!

Hope you mamas are doing better and hanging in there!
Can I be like you when I grow up??
post #72 of 285
I'm officially due Monday the 26th (or Sunday if you go by the online calculators). My daughter was born 8 days past her due date, so I'm expecting to go over again, which might push me into August. Not a whole lot to report. I'm going to the mw tomorrow. Last week she said the baby seemed low.

I've been taking some "Birth prep" herbal supplement, EPO (orally) and I'm still drinking my RRL pregnancy tea
post #73 of 285
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Originally Posted by KatWozBlue View Post
I told my son today that if he didn't stop driving me crazy I was going to eat him and it didn't matter because I have one ready to replace him....yeah, good times.


I say stuff like this to my kids too. Sometimes when we're in the car and they are complaining and whining about what they wish we were doing, I chime in: "I wish I could drop you all off at this corner and drive to Mexico and drink Margaritas and swim in the ocean!"

And I get you ladies about wanted to be treated extra nice right now...I think you wrote my exact quote that I keep repeating to my (really wonderful) dh lately: "You just don't get it!" When really they are going through their own anxiety and pressure right now too. The load is just large right now!!!
post #74 of 285
I should at least come back and note that DH tried really hard to redeem himself. He came home with flowers, Reese PB cups and the latest issue of Birth Issues magazine (our local Birth magazine). He made supper, cleaned up and took DD out for a walk and left me to relax on the couch. I have to give him points for all of that.
post #75 of 285
I'm glad I'm not the only one losing it!
Saw the midwife today. I am 5cm and mostly effaced. Baby is still high, but my last one didn't come into the pelvis until the very last push so that's fine with me. It does help that all of this crap has actually done some work, but seriously! Can we get some good contrx to get this show going?!?!?
DP is so not on board with DTD with the baby's head easily palpable. We were doing great up until 2 weeks ago - still managing at least once a week, but now he's spooked. I feel like one good contribution from him would send me over the edge into labor. Of course this doesn't help his apprehension at all.
I worked in the restaurant for a couple of hours tonight so I'm hoping they are good for the rest of the evening and that maybe being active on my feet for a while stirred up some good baby having mojo.
post #76 of 285
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DP is so not on board with DTD with the baby's head easily palpable. We were doing great up until 2 weeks ago - still managing at least once a week, but now he's spooked. I feel like one good contribution from him would send me over the edge into labor.
Maybe try a large dose of EPO or borage oil for a similar effect? "Other" adult activities would probably also provide a nice hormone boost even if you don't actually DTD (including a little "alone" time).

Still pregnant here. SO DISCOURAGED today. I really thought it was the real deal yesterday--tons of bloody show, lots of contractions, was so excited I had to force myself to lay down and remember that I would need the rest later, but I fully expected to wake up in an hour or two in full swing and . . . woke up this morning still pregnant with no contractions to speak of. Yesterday was my personal "guess" date the entire pregnancy and now as we move into 42 weeks, I feel truly overdue and just D.O.N.E. I have another NST Saturday, and I'm just resigning myself to this baby taking it all the way to another scheduled induction at the end of next week. I went into labor with DD 6 hours before the scheduled induction but still had a long, hard labor with her that included the pit that I dearly want to avoid this time.
post #77 of 285
Just jumping in to say I've been reading along at your frustration Mamas and I really feel for you all. Hugs all around, I know it's hard to wait. But you're almost there.
post #78 of 285
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Maybe try a large dose of EPO or borage oil for a similar effect? "Other" adult activities would probably also provide a nice hormone boost even if you don't actually DTD (including a little "alone" time).
I've been doing 1500mg EPO twice a day orally and another 1500mg twice a day on my cervix. For a whopping 6000mg entering my body each day. I'm just annoyed because I still want to do it
post #79 of 285


I'm feeling better coz I got a glorious 1hr nap earlier w/ no heartburn!

And I have to give it to my hub; he has been taking really good care of us and I couldn't ask for more. He is at the store getting me some Tums in case the 4am HB beast rears its head again tonight.

I have been sticking to eating only beans and fruit and veggies (coz of the *ahem* bowels slowing down), and I am SOOOO craving a gnarly chocolate cake or some thick pasta with gooey cheese!!

DP tried to check my cervix and was *getting* there when dd knocked on our door and kinda broke the focus. He was pretty nervous about it for some reason. Anyways, he says it felt more open than two fingertips, like he made a half-dollar size motion? Have had cramps and twinges and bhs pushing the baby down further. My belly gets real hard on top but stays soft at the bottom, above the pubic area.

Don't think it'll be tonight. I'm hoping for this weekend

Good luck to all you mamas who are riding on the edge, I hope it happens for you soon! And I hope that everyone's getting rest and feeling better than earlier!
post #80 of 285
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I'm still here mamas. Lots of sympathy for everyone still waiting, and your support is appreciated Surfacing

I'm just torn between total frustration and excited anticipation. And it's exhausting! I'm trying not to obsess about it but EVERYONE who sees me does the whole "OOOOMG YOU ARE STILLLLLL PREGNANT?!?!?!?!?!??!"

Sigh. Yes. I am, thanks. It's only been a few days over...sheesh.
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