I have angry family cloth and I want peaceful family cloth

[NewDirections]

A year ago I told stbxh to move out. He was very abusive and I suffered greatly from his actions. When he moved out he stole my aero bed and sheets and used them for months until he found an apartment. He returned them to me on my doorstep. I was so angry at him still that I made family cloth out of the sheets. I wanted to use the sheets he slept on to wipe my bottom with A personal statement to myself about how I felt about my UAV stbxh

Anyway, I've worked through most of my anger and I want to let go of the stbxh sheets family cloth and have some new, peaceful family cloth. What is the best way to go in terms of making family cloth? Go to the fabric store and pick out something pretty? Cut up an old t shirt, towel, or blanket? Can I dye family cloth using koolaid or other dye? I've recently tye dyed ds's diapers and they are very pure and spiritual. I'd like to do the same thing to family cloth. Maybe I could have some sort of ceremony for purification? Idk, thinking out loud here

Also, what should I do with the family cloth from stbxh's sheets? Bury it? Burn it? Throw it away? Make a rug or something with it? Return it to him?

Thanks mamas

[sapphire_chan]

Trash. If you bury it or burn it you'll have to go way out of your way to not go past the place. Giving it back to him means interacting with him. Making a rug is just gross no matter how well you washed the cloth.

[Rainydais&Mondais]

Originally Posted by NewDirections

A year ago I told stbxh to move out. He was very abusive and I suffered greatly from his actions. When he moved out he stole my aero bed and sheets and used them for months until he found an apartment. He returned them to me on my doorstep. I was so angry at him still that I made family cloth out of the sheets. I wanted to use the sheets he slept on to wipe my bottom with A personal statement to myself about how I felt about my UAV stbxh

Anyway, I've worked through most of my anger and I want to let go of the stbxh sheets family cloth and have some new, peaceful family cloth. What is the best way to go in terms of making family cloth? Go to the fabric store and pick out something pretty? Cut up an old t shirt, towel, or blanket? Can I dye family cloth using koolaid or other dye? I've recently tye dyed ds's diapers and they are very pure and spiritual. I'd like to do the same thing to family cloth. Maybe I could have some sort of ceremony for purification? Idk, thinking out loud here

Also, what should I do with the family cloth from stbxh's sheets? Bury it? Burn it? Throw it away? Make a rug or something with it? Return it to him?

Thanks mamas

I'd burn the old family cloth. That way you disperse the negativity and don't keep in near you. I think having a ceremony is a wonderful idea for your new cloth. I like to put mine in the full moon with quartz crystals on them. It gives them such a nice wholesome energy

Namaste

[happyma]

Are you serious with the rug suggestion?? Because THAT is hilarious!! Better yet, make the rug and then send it to him.

[NewDirections]

Originally Posted by Rainydais&Mondais

I'd burn the old family cloth. That way you disperse the negativity and don't keep in near you. I think having a ceremony is a wonderful idea for your new cloth. I like to put mine in the full moon with quartz crystals on them. It gives them such a nice wholesome energy

Namaste

Cool idea for the new family cloth! There's a full moon next Monday, I know what I'll be doing that night Maybe I can read a poem at the ceremony too

[laohaire]

I personally think the best family cloth is made out of old things - old t-shirts, old sheets, old holey towels, etc. Any of that from Goodwill works too. Honestly I used a new sheet for mine but it was useless (King sized sheet and no King bed, nor do I know anyone with such a size bed).

But - it would definitely be cool to buy some pretty cloth at the fabric store. Cotton is great, and the flannel sheets I use work well even though they are not cotton. They do get stiff drying on the line but very soft in the dryer. (True with everything, anyway).

Oh, consider tie-dying with the materials mentioned in this egg-dying article:
http://www.motherearthnews.com/Do-It...ural-Dyes.aspx
Beet juice, onion skins, blueberries.

Though I assume they'd wash off pretty quick...

[blessedwithboys]

as for new cloth, recycling old t-shirts is the crunchiest way to go, but i like the idea of having an etsy WAHM make some new ones with hemp or bamboo cloth.

[NewDirections]

Originally Posted by happyma

Are you serious with the rug suggestion?? Because THAT is hilarious!! Better yet, make the rug and then send it to him.

Omg, that would be super funny The symbolism of that is just crazy When I kicked him out, I'd had more than enough of his horrible treatment of me. My friend Ch'air helped me pack up his stuff and I just lost it- I was newly pregnant and highly emotional at the time- I urinated in one of his dress shoes not my finest moment, for sure

I've since been in therapy and working on processing my anger so that I can be the best mother I can be for my son

You know, I don't want to put any more energy into him so the rug idea is out. Hmmmm, what to do?

[NewDirections]

Wow laohaire, those eggs are beautiful!

[neverdoingitagain]

Originally Posted by NewDirections

Omg, that would be super funny The symbolism of that is just crazy When I kicked him out, I'd had more than enough of his horrible treatment of me. My friend Ch'air helped me pack up his stuff and I just lost it- I was newly pregnant and highly emotional at the time- I urinated in one of his dress shoes not my finest moment, for sure

[swd12422]

I think you should toss it into the trash and never think about it or him again. Burning, burying, ceremonying, rug hooking, etc. all require effort, and frankly, you've expended all the effort you need to at this point. Just toss it in the bin, and let it go..... Then get your new cloth plan, whatever it is, going and have fun with it. Normally I'd say just use whatever scraps you have around the house (i.e., old clothes/sheets) but if you want something fun and special, and dyeing something you have isn't going to cut it, then shop for some new fabric. (Or, if you're so environmentally-minded, do reuse/recycle something you have, and just shop for a token few farbics to mix it up. After all, they don't all have to match!)

[New_Natural_Mom]

I kind of like the idea of making a rug and giving it to him (you can mail it.) That seems appropriate on a number of levels...but I am mean like that. :nana

[mumkimum]

I'm with the toss it or burn it (or just burn some) crowd.

My fave family cloth is a secondhand cotton jersey sheet - they've been thicker than our old tshirts and last longer, staying soft. Love the tie dye idea, though - those would be beautiful. Good heat treatment of any of those natural dyes (ironing or hot dryer) might set them enough too.

[EarthMamaToBe]

I say toss it, burning adds to air pollution

[Zoesmama]

What a way to express your anger. I just cut up my old robe that I never wore. Its just to bulky and uncomfortable. Not sure the fleece fabric is best. I've tried it out last night and this morning will give it some time and try some other materials. I may find some old shirts to try. I'm new to this cloth and so far only trying out with urine only for now. Not sure how to approach BM yet. I would think I'd want a peri bottle to wash it off mostly first.

Those that do sheets do you fold as you wipe? That seems so thin but I'm sure it absorbs.