My mother just called and left a VM. She sounded calm but made no apology for her recent actions(or lack thereof). If she is willing to be calm I have decided I am willing to give her one final chance because in the past I have never enforced any boundaries. To give her another chance I need to be calm, no confrontational, and clear in the boundaries. May I ask for suggestions on statements I can make that will be clear and concise?
I am not comfortable allowing her contact with the children unless she apologizes, maintains boundaries, and remains calm. I want to set limited boundaries to start and not invite her to DD1s B-day party next month unless she shows that she can contain herself. So far I have come up with once a month visits and once a week phone calls as boundaries. An of course she will have to behave appropriately with me and my children.
I don't even know what to say to start the conversation. Hopefully the wonderful people here will have some words of wisdom.
I am not comfortable allowing her contact with the children unless she apologizes, maintains boundaries, and remains calm. I want to set limited boundaries to start and not invite her to DD1s B-day party next month unless she shows that she can contain herself. So far I have come up with once a month visits and once a week phone calls as boundaries. An of course she will have to behave appropriately with me and my children.
I don't even know what to say to start the conversation. Hopefully the wonderful people here will have some words of wisdom.
