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post #1 of 49
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Deleted. Thanks. I was getting judged way to much on here. I did not post this thread to be hurt more than I am already.
post #2 of 49
a sad story that happens more then you think.
I am sorry.
post #3 of 49
I'm so sorry.
post #4 of 49
I'm so sad for you. Is there any adult that could go there for you to confirm where he is? I can't even fathom this. It must be so heart wrenching. hugs
post #5 of 49
I am so sorry, no it is not a death but it is still a huge loss that is amplified by the feelings of anxiety and hopelessness. Just keep praying mama, and imagining how it will feel when he is finally in your arms again. Please don't be quiet about it, you have been wronged and you are going through an extreme amount of pain and none of this is your fault. Your ex is evil, and probably would have found a way to abduct him even if you had stayed in the shelter. Please be open to support from the people around you, you will find strength in it. (((hugs)))
post #6 of 49

My heart is with you... yes, it is hard. Sometimes it is the hardest thing in the world... living without the child, knowing the child is living without you. I don't know what to say except that I completely understand what you feel. I haven't seen my 3 oldest children in over 9 years, and I know it's my fault. The pain... is immense. Even with my three younger children, it doesn't change my love and loss of the others.

Love to you.
post #7 of 49
I could not read without posting. I am so so so so sorry for all that has happened to you and your son. It is not your fault, it is your ex's fault, but I can understand being tortured by "what ifs". Be gentle with yourself.

Best wishes and good luck!
post #8 of 49
I can't even begin to imagine your pain. My thoughts are with you and your family and I hope for his safe return.
post #9 of 49
I'm so sorry.
post #10 of 49
I'm so sorry. It is not your fault, and you should not hide your pain. Have you tried to get legal help? There are organisations for abducted children, maybe somebody knows how you can get help to get him back? England has signed the Hague convention, has it not?
post #11 of 49
I hope you can find some peace in knowing that you are not the one who did anything wrong,your ex took your child and is the one in the wrong here. I pray for your peace of mind.
post #12 of 49
You really are incredibly strong to be dealing with this atrocity committed by your ex. I can't even imagine the heartache you've experienced by this. Can you see if the police or phone company can put a trace on your phone calls you receive, to see if they're really coming from England? He could say that as a dodge, in case you'd actually come looking. Maybe try one (or all) of the following:

(this may be of help especially: http://www.visaus.com/childabduct.html )

National Center for Missing and Exploited Children missingkids.com

Adam Walsh Resource Center http://www.amw.com/about_amw/john_walsh.cfm

National Center for Victims of Crime www.ncvc.org

Or, better yet, call the FBI to ask what can be done about this, if anything. Or if it's true that he's in England, maybe contact the consulate over there.

There has got to be something you can do to track this...ex down and get your child back. At least I pray there is. Don't give up mama!
post #13 of 49
I am so very sorry. Please please don't blame yourself.
post #14 of 49
I am so sorry.
post #15 of 49
mama, having lived with forced separation from my children and having contact completely cut for a couple of years even, I know how painful it is. I am glad you at least know that he is 'safe' (in the sense of his father doesn't seem to want to physically harm him) but I think it's bunk that nothing can be done. I definitely suggest hitting all those links posted above, make contacts, try everything that seems even remotely like it might help. Heck.. even if it doesn't seem like it would.

I lived with that silent pain for a long time, but things have been made right (not that the hurt can ever be erased)... I hope that someone can help you and your little boy.
post #16 of 49
That is heartwrenching...I would be in complete agony. I am so sorry. I pray that your son will be with you again soon somehow, and that your ex will get prosecuted for this. Isn't there any way to fight this and get them found without moving out of the country? Can't your son give you some clue as to where he is exactly, or does your ex listen to the conversations? Is your son on the missing persons registries/websites? This just makes me sick, I am so sorry.
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post #18 of 49
I am so sorry mama
post #19 of 49
How horrible that must be, mama. It's not your fault. Can the police trace the calls? Do you know any relatives of your ex that the authorities might interview?
I can't imagine the pain but I'm sure your son knows how much you love him and in no way is this your fault. I hope you are reunited with your precious son soon.
post #20 of 49
I'm so sorry for this horrible pain you're in. I am glad though, as horrible as this situation is, that you are getting to talk to your son. I hope you continue to speak to him and that you tell him how much he's loved, wanted, and needed and that he's done nothing wrong.

I think you may need to find a counselor to help you process all this. It's unimaginable, and being pregnant on top of it as well... It just seems to me that you may need an experienced ear to help you. You are in my thoughts, sending you LOVE and STRENGTH and PEACE Hang in there momma, for you are very Wise and Strong.
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